Things That Are Bothering You, Got You All Hibbeldy-Jibbeldy, or just downright pissed, RIGHT NOW!



yjeezle said:

what kind of stress?

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God it's so ******* complicated I don't even know how to describe the situation on here. It would require my having to write a novel to describe the entire situation.

I think I need to talk to a therapist or something because this is eating away at me like a motherfucker and there is literally no one in my group I can talk to to seek advice. I'm at a dead end.

I'm going to go get drunk at the airport while I wait for my ******* red-eye flight.

sorry GF ... I had a time like that and it was truly difficult... I couldn't relate the problem as it was too complicated and no one in my circle had enough of the background info to make it relevant to talk to them so I can sympathize... I'm not suggesting a course of action but I had nothing else to do but tough it out as I did consider a therapist but couldn't afford the expense at the time.... sorry bro

My job and my boss.

My boss has gotten himself into one hell of a mess at work regarding how he has spent company funds. Basically he spends money like a drunken sailor on things that are of questionable value to the company. For the last 7 years no one has questioned how he has run this division. Now his boss has suddenly started digging into every little expense. There are plenty of huge expenses that have no business value t all. I have been dragged into the middle of this due to some dubious expenses my boss made me pay for and submit expense reports for so he could then approve them. i got threatened by my bosses boss and I had to make the choice of lying for my boss or telling the truth and shoving my boss right under the oncoming bus. I chose to tell the truth, which was the right choice.

The worst part is my boss and I are friends and he has done a lot for me over the past few years and had positioned me to be his successor. I don't feel so bad for telling the truth and implicating my boss, he brought this upon himself. What sucks is now I am afraid I am going to be deemed guilty by association. I am the only person in the office who can step in and take over and I fear i will be passed over and basically left in limbo.

I have been underpaid and under utilized for a few years now I guess it is about time to get myself properly motivated to find a new and better opportunity. I have had a number of people approach me about job opportunities, I guess I need to take them more seriously now.



GreenFrog said:

my job is giving me mad stress and anxiety.. i don't know who to talk to.. or what to do...

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GreenFrog said:

God it's so ******* complicated I don't even know how to describe the situation on here. It would require my having to write a novel to describe the entire situation.
I think I need to talk to a therapist or something because this is eating away at me like a motherfucker and there is literally no one in my group I can talk to to seek advice. I'm at a dead end.
I'm going to go get drunk at the airport while I wait for my ******* red-eye flight.

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this is the difference between drinking when you're young and drinking when you're an adult. welcome to the club.

topcatny said:

My job and my boss.
My boss has gotten himself into one hell of a mess at work regarding how he has spent company funds. Basically he spends money like a drunken sailor on things that are of questionable value to the company. For the last 7 years no one has questioned how he has run this division. Now his boss has suddenly started digging into every little expense. There are plenty of huge expenses that have no business value t all. I have been dragged into the middle of this due to some dubious expenses my boss made me pay for and submit expense reports for so he could then approve them. i got threatened by my bosses boss and I had to make the choice of lying for my boss or telling the truth and shoving my boss right under the oncoming bus. I chose to tell the truth, which was the right choice.
The worst part is my boss and I are friends and he has done a lot for me over the past few years and had positioned me to be his successor. I don't feel so bad for telling the truth and implicating my boss, he brought this upon himself. What sucks is now I am afraid I am going to be deemed guilty by association. I am the only person in the office who can step in and take over and I fear i will be passed over and basically left in limbo.
I have been underpaid and under utilized for a few years now I guess it is about time to get myself properly motivated to find a new and better opportunity. I have had a number of people approach me about job opportunities, I guess I need to take them more seriously now.

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your boss used you. he's no friend. yes you made the right decision telling the truth.

acidboy said:

GreenFrog said:

my job is giving me mad stress and anxiety.. i don't know who to talk to.. or what to do...

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GreenFrog said:

God it's so ******* complicated I don't even know how to describe the situation on here. It would require my having to write a novel to describe the entire situation.
I think I need to talk to a therapist or something because this is eating away at me like a motherfucker and there is literally no one in my group I can talk to to seek advice. I'm at a dead end.
I'm going to go get drunk at the airport while I wait for my ******* red-eye flight.

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this is the difference between drinking when you're young and drinking when you're an adult. welcome to the club.

topcatny said:

My job and my boss.
My boss has gotten himself into one hell of a mess at work regarding how he has spent company funds. Basically he spends money like a drunken sailor on things that are of questionable value to the company. For the last 7 years no one has questioned how he has run this division. Now his boss has suddenly started digging into every little expense. There are plenty of huge expenses that have no business value t all. I have been dragged into the middle of this due to some dubious expenses my boss made me pay for and submit expense reports for so he could then approve them. i got threatened by my bosses boss and I had to make the choice of lying for my boss or telling the truth and shoving my boss right under the oncoming bus. I chose to tell the truth, which was the right choice.
The worst part is my boss and I are friends and he has done a lot for me over the past few years and had positioned me to be his successor. I don't feel so bad for telling the truth and implicating my boss, he brought this upon himself. What sucks is now I am afraid I am going to be deemed guilty by association. I am the only person in the office who can step in and take over and I fear i will be passed over and basically left in limbo.
I have been underpaid and under utilized for a few years now I guess it is about time to get myself properly motivated to find a new and better opportunity. I have had a number of people approach me about job opportunities, I guess I need to take them more seriously now.

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your boss used you. he's no friend. yes you made the right decision telling the truth.

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**** i never applied to be a memver of tbis ****** club



GreenFrog said:

God it's so ******* complicated I don't even know how to describe the situation on here. It would require my having to write a novel to describe the entire situation.
I think I need to talk to a therapist or something because this is eating away at me like a motherfucker and there is literally no one in my group I can talk to to seek advice. I'm at a dead end.
I'm going to go get drunk at the airport while I wait for my ******* red-eye flight.

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you should def see a therapist bro.

acidboy said:

your boss used you. he's no friend. yes you made the right decision telling the truth.

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+1



GreenFrog said:

**** i never applied to be a memver of tbis ****** club

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no application required. it just finds you.



acidboy said:

your boss used you. he's no friend. yes you made the right decision telling the truth.

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Oh, I know he used me. I managed to keep myself out of the really f'ed up things he was doing. He has lied and sold out many of my co-workers over the past month or so. He knew better than to try and blame me for any of that ****. He knew I would have stood up and said f'you and could have easily sent him down the river. Another co-worker who took the blame for something (my bosses boss told me in an email he knows it wasn't that person's fault) thinks this was sort of a test to see where my loyalty was. I think for now I passed the test, we'll see what happens.

My boss is doomed, I don't think he has any idea how bad a case has been built against him. My piece was a drop in the bucket compared to the other expenses in question. Supposedly my boss is calling into headquarters in the morning to work out a elegant exit. Meaning he'll quit if they agree to hold him to his non-compete and pay him. Based on his contacts in upper management in the company i think they'll avoid the confrontation and agree.

This has been a really stressful and ****** week thus far, the next 2 days could make it even worse!



topcatny said:

Oh, I know he used me. I managed to keep myself out of the really f'ed up things he was doing. He has lied and sold out many of my co-workers over the past month or so. He knew better than to try and blame me for any of that ****. He knew I would have stood up and said f'you and could have easily sent him down the river. Another co-worker who took the blame for something (my bosses boss told me in an email he knows it wasn't that person's fault) thinks this was sort of a test to see where my loyalty was. I think for now I passed the test, we'll see what happens.
My boss is doomed, I don't think he has any idea how bad a case has been built against him. My piece was a drop in the bucket compared to the other expenses in question. Supposedly my boss is calling into headquarters in the morning to work out a elegant exit. Meaning he'll quit if they agree to hold him to his non-compete and pay him. Based on his contacts in upper management in the company i think they'll avoid the confrontation and agree.
This has been a really stressful and ****** week thus far, the next 2 days could make it even worse!

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as I've mentioned... drinking for adults...



acidboy said:

as I've mentioned... drinking for adults...

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Drinking for adults has been in full effect!

The stress combined with my 9pm soccer game tonight and I am still awake at 2am I am hoping the alcohol helps me sleep just a little!



topcatny said:

Drinking for adults has been in full effect!
The stress combined with my 9pm soccer game tonight and I am still awake at 2am I am hoping the alcohol helps me sleep just a little!

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After a trainng session or a match , adrenaline is still in your body...

You will pay for it tomorrow...



lasbar said:

After a trainng session or a match , adrenaline is still in your body...
You will pay for it tomorrow...

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Not if you keep drinking.



JayJay said:

Did they leave a note?

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HAHA!!! Yeah, right.

in stitches said:

parents? teacher you are close with? HR? close and trusted friend? you gotta have someone, and it sounds like you should find them. this person/persons will be able to help you along.
good luck froggie.

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Some people get a lot out of talking about hardships and such they are going through. I don't understand it really. If talking about something to somebody else doesn't completely remove the source of anxiety I find it useless to discuss my feelings. I find in most cases you just have to suck it up and pull through it. Don't get me wrong, I love complaining, but I don't need anybody to tell me "it will be ok". Does nothing for me.

topcatny said:

My job and my boss.
My boss has gotten himself into one hell of a mess at work regarding how he has spent company funds. Basically he spends money like a drunken sailor on things that are of questionable value to the company. For the last 7 years no one has questioned how he has run this division. Now his boss has suddenly started digging into every little expense. There are plenty of huge expenses that have no business value t all. I have been dragged into the middle of this due to some dubious expenses my boss made me pay for and submit expense reports for so he could then approve them. i got threatened by my bosses boss and I had to make the choice of lying for my boss or telling the truth and shoving my boss right under the oncoming bus. I chose to tell the truth, which was the right choice.
The worst part is my boss and I are friends and he has done a lot for me over the past few years and had positioned me to be his successor. I don't feel so bad for telling the truth and implicating my boss, he brought this upon himself. What sucks is now I am afraid I am going to be deemed guilty by association. I am the only person in the office who can step in and take over and I fear i will be passed over and basically left in limbo.
I have been underpaid and under utilized for a few years now I guess it is about time to get myself properly motivated to find a new and better opportunity. I have had a number of people approach me about job opportunities, I guess I need to take them more seriously now.

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It sounds to me like there is a much deeper issue in your company as to how, who, and how much people are allowed to spend. Things are asshole tight around here where I work. Nobody could ever do such a thing there are so many approvals needed to specifically avoid having to deal with people like that.

****. I was told to remove this chart from a presentation that took me an hour to make. I removed it, and now the VP wants it back! GAH!!!!!



acidboy said:

the usual bs has now evolved into a very complex creature. it'd take a new forum to deal with these ******* issues.
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Feel for ya mang. My usual BS is evolving as well.

GreenFrog said:

my job is giving me mad stress and anxiety.. i don't know who to talk to.. or what to do...

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GreenFrog said:

God it's so ******* complicated I don't even know how to describe the situation on here. It would require my having to write a novel to describe the entire situation.
I think I need to talk to a therapist or something because this is eating away at me like a motherfucker and there is literally no one in my group I can talk to to seek advice. I'm at a dead end.
I'm going to go get drunk at the airport while I wait for my ******* red-eye flight.

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1. This is the working life, particularly consulting. Welcome to the world of duty and obligation. This is what you wanted, right?
2. Find something - other than drinking - that lets you blow off the stress and think things out a bit. Meditation, running, reading, whatever. Just find something.

topcatny said:

Oh, I know he used me. I managed to keep myself out of the really f'ed up things he was doing. He has lied and sold out many of my co-workers over the past month or so. He knew better than to try and blame me for any of that ****. He knew I would have stood up and said f'you and could have easily sent him down the river. Another co-worker who took the blame for something (my bosses boss told me in an email he knows it wasn't that person's fault) thinks this was sort of a test to see where my loyalty was. I think for now I passed the test, we'll see what happens.
My boss is doomed, I don't think he has any idea how bad a case has been built against him. My piece was a drop in the bucket compared to the other expenses in question. Supposedly my boss is calling into headquarters in the morning to work out a elegant exit. Meaning he'll quit if they agree to hold him to his non-compete and pay him. Based on his contacts in upper management in the company i think they'll avoid the confrontation and agree.
This has been a really stressful and ****** week thus far, the next 2 days could make it even worse!

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Holy cow that blows. How did he have a free hand over 7 years, in this economy? This, BTW, is why I value having clean hands in all business dealings. Good luck.