jawboneofa
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Hey guys,
So my wedding is coming up in a couple of months, and I was hoping to get your input on my attire. To give you some seasonal/weather info, it's in Phoenix in December. Being Arizona, it shouldn't be wet outside, nor should it be very cold. The wedding is at 1 in the afternoon in a beautiful church (yes, they exist in the Southwest, albeit in fewer numbers), with the reception to follow at a country club. Neither my fiancee or I are incredibly formal; for our wedding we're going for a kind of "casual elegance", which, of course, is a bit of a useless description, because who would object to being casually elegant? Regardless, with that in mind, I decided to forgo the tux and go with a suit. I also don't want to buy a tux when my wardrobe is so lacking in suits, and renting is, of course, right out. Plus it's an early afternoon wedding, so tux is out.
I have a rather large wedding party (8 guys--four brothers, four friends), and while I would have been willing to go whole hog and purchased something in the $500-$1k range for a suit, they're not asembarrassingly obsessed educated with menswear as I am starting to become. So in honor of their pocketbooks, I went with something a good deal more reasonable. It fits pretty well OTR, although I'll have to have some tailoring done. As you can see on the link, it's charcoal gray, two-button, notch lapel with flat front pants. I'm debating whether or not to get cuffs on the pants.
I'm planning on having my groomsmen wear black shoes, while I wear a pair of dark brown Gravatis I picked up on the BS a couple months ago. They're bluchers, but I'm ok with that, and I doubt anyone at the wedding will know the difference between bluchers and oxfords anyways. I think the brown versus everybody else's black shoes will help me stand out as the groom, but I am a little concerned this might not look as good as I think it will. What do you think? I can always rock some black bals.
My real question for you guys is: what should I do on the shirt, tie, and PS combo?
The obvious choice is a white shirt, but my fiancee's dress is ivory. I don't want to make her dress look dingy by wearing a bright white shirt right next to her. I could go ecru, but I just don't like the way ecru looks. Can I do something with texture or weave or fabric that will make a white shirt less stark looking? I'm planning on doing mitered barrel cuffs with a semi-spread collar, so no cuff links or anything like that.
As for the tie, we've got a dark purple/brown/aubergine color and a lighter green color throughout the flowers and decorations, and I'd like to mimic that with the ties. I'm planning on giving my groomsmen a green tie from thetiebar.com, but I'm having a tough time deciding what to do with my tie. I'd like to do something in a solid, deep purple, but help me out on material and weave. Is raw silk/knit/wool/grenadine too casual? Do I have to go satin per usual? What about a silver glen check over a purple background? I'm willing to spend quite a bit more for my own tie. I'd feel bad spending more on mine than my groomsmen, but I don't think they'll notice.
For the pocket square I'm planning on matching my shirt color (e.g. a simple white linen square with a tv fold if the shirt is white), although I have considered a white linen with purple edging or even purple silk paisley with white detailing to complement the tie. Which reminds me, I'm planning on rocking purple socks.
My main goal here is to look put together. I don't want to look stuffy, I want to be comfortable, but I want to feel and look great. More than anything, I don't want to be that weird groom who looks like he's competing with his bride for attention. I want to be an accessory that makes her look even better.
Any recommendations you might have would be great. If I've forgotten anything, I know, it's because I'm a newb. Thanks in advance!
So my wedding is coming up in a couple of months, and I was hoping to get your input on my attire. To give you some seasonal/weather info, it's in Phoenix in December. Being Arizona, it shouldn't be wet outside, nor should it be very cold. The wedding is at 1 in the afternoon in a beautiful church (yes, they exist in the Southwest, albeit in fewer numbers), with the reception to follow at a country club. Neither my fiancee or I are incredibly formal; for our wedding we're going for a kind of "casual elegance", which, of course, is a bit of a useless description, because who would object to being casually elegant? Regardless, with that in mind, I decided to forgo the tux and go with a suit. I also don't want to buy a tux when my wardrobe is so lacking in suits, and renting is, of course, right out. Plus it's an early afternoon wedding, so tux is out.
I have a rather large wedding party (8 guys--four brothers, four friends), and while I would have been willing to go whole hog and purchased something in the $500-$1k range for a suit, they're not as
I'm planning on having my groomsmen wear black shoes, while I wear a pair of dark brown Gravatis I picked up on the BS a couple months ago. They're bluchers, but I'm ok with that, and I doubt anyone at the wedding will know the difference between bluchers and oxfords anyways. I think the brown versus everybody else's black shoes will help me stand out as the groom, but I am a little concerned this might not look as good as I think it will. What do you think? I can always rock some black bals.
My real question for you guys is: what should I do on the shirt, tie, and PS combo?
The obvious choice is a white shirt, but my fiancee's dress is ivory. I don't want to make her dress look dingy by wearing a bright white shirt right next to her. I could go ecru, but I just don't like the way ecru looks. Can I do something with texture or weave or fabric that will make a white shirt less stark looking? I'm planning on doing mitered barrel cuffs with a semi-spread collar, so no cuff links or anything like that.
As for the tie, we've got a dark purple/brown/aubergine color and a lighter green color throughout the flowers and decorations, and I'd like to mimic that with the ties. I'm planning on giving my groomsmen a green tie from thetiebar.com, but I'm having a tough time deciding what to do with my tie. I'd like to do something in a solid, deep purple, but help me out on material and weave. Is raw silk/knit/wool/grenadine too casual? Do I have to go satin per usual? What about a silver glen check over a purple background? I'm willing to spend quite a bit more for my own tie. I'd feel bad spending more on mine than my groomsmen, but I don't think they'll notice.
For the pocket square I'm planning on matching my shirt color (e.g. a simple white linen square with a tv fold if the shirt is white), although I have considered a white linen with purple edging or even purple silk paisley with white detailing to complement the tie. Which reminds me, I'm planning on rocking purple socks.
My main goal here is to look put together. I don't want to look stuffy, I want to be comfortable, but I want to feel and look great. More than anything, I don't want to be that weird groom who looks like he's competing with his bride for attention. I want to be an accessory that makes her look even better.
Any recommendations you might have would be great. If I've forgotten anything, I know, it's because I'm a newb. Thanks in advance!