rnoldh
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I have not posted in a while and there is a reason.
My Mom celebrated her 94th birthday on June 18, 2011 and then died 8 days later on June 26th.
She died in Ft. Lauderdale, Fl. and I have basically just got back from burying her in W Palm Beach, Fl. Because of religious reasons she had to be buried quickly and I live in Houston, Tx. It was very stressful, hurried and hectic.
Since I am an only child and all her friends and relatives are very, very old it was a very small funeral.
I could care less about the kind of funeral I have ( since I am not religious at all ), but of course I followed my mother's wishes. My Mom was only a little religious. But after some thought I figured it was the right thing to do for the family ( some who are religious ) and for my Moms wishes. The funeral was very small small but very nice with only about 9 attendees.
She was buried in W Palm Beach, Fl., not far from Palm Beach and the Breakers Hotel where I would take her for an annual lunch each year. She was definitely not the type to be a guest at the hotel.
Of course at 94 years of age, it was not exactly surprising or certainly before her time. But she did not have any acute illnesses that seemingly would have killed her soon. The Drs. told me it was a cardiac event ( probably a catch all phrase ). I take GREAT SOLACE in that she died in her home, quickly and painlessly. I called a lady the day my Mom died who I had look in on my Mom regularly ( she lived in the same condo complex ), but when the lady got to my Mom it was too late and she immediately called an ambulance, but Mom was DOA at the hospital.
My Dad died in 1970 so it was different and many years ago. Maybe, in a sense they will be together again ( my Mom never re - married ). As I said I am not religious a bit. And with no children, I might get cremated at death and scattered who knows where.
She obviously lived a long life and had her ups and downs. But she always maintained her dignity and independence and there is a lot to be said for that. If anyone comments in the thread, I might tell a story or two about her seeing a young Frank Sinatra and working for civil rights back in the 1950s when Jews could.
Anyway it seems like just yesterday that I gave her a Diamond ring on last years visit to Ft. Lauderdale ( since my Dad could not afford one, way back when ).If I find it, I might post that picture here since I like to remember her happy.
Dying is part of living of course but it is still tough. None of us get out of this thing alive!
I know most here ( with very few exceptions ) are younger than I. Has anyone lost a parent? I am sure many have lost grandparents ( including me who has lost all 4 of course ). It was recommended that I do things ( like this perhaps ) to get my mind off of the grief, so I will do that. Anyone want to comment or share their experiences please do. I'm sure that like in many areas of life, some like me, some dislike me, and most could care less. Truly, no one could think of anyone that disliked my Mom. She was that type of person.
Regards All,
A
My Mom celebrated her 94th birthday on June 18, 2011 and then died 8 days later on June 26th.
She died in Ft. Lauderdale, Fl. and I have basically just got back from burying her in W Palm Beach, Fl. Because of religious reasons she had to be buried quickly and I live in Houston, Tx. It was very stressful, hurried and hectic.
Since I am an only child and all her friends and relatives are very, very old it was a very small funeral.
I could care less about the kind of funeral I have ( since I am not religious at all ), but of course I followed my mother's wishes. My Mom was only a little religious. But after some thought I figured it was the right thing to do for the family ( some who are religious ) and for my Moms wishes. The funeral was very small small but very nice with only about 9 attendees.
She was buried in W Palm Beach, Fl., not far from Palm Beach and the Breakers Hotel where I would take her for an annual lunch each year. She was definitely not the type to be a guest at the hotel.
Of course at 94 years of age, it was not exactly surprising or certainly before her time. But she did not have any acute illnesses that seemingly would have killed her soon. The Drs. told me it was a cardiac event ( probably a catch all phrase ). I take GREAT SOLACE in that she died in her home, quickly and painlessly. I called a lady the day my Mom died who I had look in on my Mom regularly ( she lived in the same condo complex ), but when the lady got to my Mom it was too late and she immediately called an ambulance, but Mom was DOA at the hospital.
My Dad died in 1970 so it was different and many years ago. Maybe, in a sense they will be together again ( my Mom never re - married ). As I said I am not religious a bit. And with no children, I might get cremated at death and scattered who knows where.
She obviously lived a long life and had her ups and downs. But she always maintained her dignity and independence and there is a lot to be said for that. If anyone comments in the thread, I might tell a story or two about her seeing a young Frank Sinatra and working for civil rights back in the 1950s when Jews could.
Anyway it seems like just yesterday that I gave her a Diamond ring on last years visit to Ft. Lauderdale ( since my Dad could not afford one, way back when ).If I find it, I might post that picture here since I like to remember her happy.
Dying is part of living of course but it is still tough. None of us get out of this thing alive!
I know most here ( with very few exceptions ) are younger than I. Has anyone lost a parent? I am sure many have lost grandparents ( including me who has lost all 4 of course ). It was recommended that I do things ( like this perhaps ) to get my mind off of the grief, so I will do that. Anyone want to comment or share their experiences please do. I'm sure that like in many areas of life, some like me, some dislike me, and most could care less. Truly, no one could think of anyone that disliked my Mom. She was that type of person.
Regards All,
A