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alright this is a two part question. maybe wrong forum for this emo stuff but here goes ...
part1: What are your thoughts on ADD? is it pure feel-good victimocracy BS or a real illness? i've always been inclined to the former, but i'm beginning to question whether it's for realz.
part 2: mostly been thinking about this because of issues with the GF. when i'm not wasting time on SF, i'm a hard-working, high-achieving, possibly micro-managing type. GF is very, very smart but not the high-achieving type. i've always attributed this to some combination of laziness, different worldview, and being female. but lately i've realized she has extraordinary difficulty focusing on even simple tasks that she needs to accomplish.
this has been causing enormous tension for me lately, as our fates are linked for the time being, and I have to constantly observe, endure, and empathize (which I can't) with her failure to meet basic obligations. i already lead a stressful life, and unnecessary stress from someone else's procrastination is not something i need. so, I'm questioning the viability of this LTR. i do not want to end up in a similar situation to SirGrotius down the road.
recognizing that i may be part of the problem - i've tried just not caring / tough love approach but it didnt produce results - my question is this: is it possible for a high achiever to coexist with a non achiever?
part1: What are your thoughts on ADD? is it pure feel-good victimocracy BS or a real illness? i've always been inclined to the former, but i'm beginning to question whether it's for realz.
part 2: mostly been thinking about this because of issues with the GF. when i'm not wasting time on SF, i'm a hard-working, high-achieving, possibly micro-managing type. GF is very, very smart but not the high-achieving type. i've always attributed this to some combination of laziness, different worldview, and being female. but lately i've realized she has extraordinary difficulty focusing on even simple tasks that she needs to accomplish.
this has been causing enormous tension for me lately, as our fates are linked for the time being, and I have to constantly observe, endure, and empathize (which I can't) with her failure to meet basic obligations. i already lead a stressful life, and unnecessary stress from someone else's procrastination is not something i need. so, I'm questioning the viability of this LTR. i do not want to end up in a similar situation to SirGrotius down the road.
recognizing that i may be part of the problem - i've tried just not caring / tough love approach but it didnt produce results - my question is this: is it possible for a high achiever to coexist with a non achiever?