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I broke up with my gf (general breakup thread)

unjung

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Originally Posted by kwilkinson
I'm pushing on a year with no true end in sight. Meetup for drinks?
Anyone who's interested, Kwilk and I are meeting up here to cry in our beers (actually I'm good, and have been for about two years - so he's gonna cry and I'm gonna top):
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Also bro, it takes a while before the pace of recovery increases:
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Time on the X, happiness on the Y, increasing.
 

edinatlanta

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Originally Posted by unjung
Anyone who's interested, Kwilk and I are meeting up here to cry in our beers (actually I'm good, and have been for about two years - so he's gonna cry and I'm gonna top):

uKs10.jpg


Also bro, it takes a while before the pace of recovery increases:

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Time on the X, happiness on the Y, increasing.


OOOO! Plan it right and maybe even Teacher could show up!
 

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Originally Posted by Teger
look, as i keep saying, it aint done. you will be back with her within a week.

even this reply proves it - 'the thing is I don't want her back, BECAUSE I KNOW SHE MIGHT NOT REALLY WANT ME.'

your like/dislike of her is a function of her like/dislike for YOU. judge her not for her feelings for you (does she like me? doesn't she like me?) but rather was a function of her qualities.


Answer me this, how am I going to be back with her, if she doesn't want to be with me?

I don't want to be with someone, who doesn't want to be with me, by that logic, despite the fact that I still love her , I do not want to be with her, and that is my closure.
 

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Originally Posted by MarkI
Answer me this, how am I going to be back with her, if she doesn't want to be with me? I don't want to be with someone, who doesn't want to be with me, by that logic, despite the fact that I still love her , I do not want to be with her, and that is my closure.
cause im saying she doesn't want to be with you this minute, but its gonna change and you'll get back with her. maybe you should be saying 'no matter what she wants/says/feels, im done'. but i don't think you feel that way.
 

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Originally Posted by Teger
cause im saying she doesn't want to be with you this minute, but its gonna change and you'll get back with her. maybe you should be saying 'no matter what she wants/says/feels, im done'. but i don't think you feel that way.

Well of course, it's a whole different ballgame if you factor in thinking that maybe she isnt over me, and being with me, and this relationship.

BUT I am not hoping for that, and not leaning in that direction.

So basically it's like this, as long as she's disinterested, so am I, if her interest rekindles, then I might feel differently.

I don't think the odds of her changing her mind are very high though, in a way I hope I am wrong, but I guess only time will tell.
 

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Originally Posted by unjung
Anyone who's interested, Kwilk and I are meeting up here to cry in our beers (actually I'm good, and have been for about two years - so he's gonna cry and I'm gonna top):

uKs10.jpg


Move the meet to Fargo and you can bunk at my place, I'll feed you and show you the readily-bangable bitches downtown.

I'm sure Teacher will drive down from GF. Seems to me we have a Minot member who might tag along.
 

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Originally Posted by MarkI
Well of course, it's a whole different ballgame if you factor in thinking that maybe she isnt over me, and being with me, and this relationship.

BUT I am not hoping for that, and not leaning in that direction.

So basically it's like this, as long as she's disinterested, so am I, if her interest rekindles, then I might feel differently.

I don't think the odds of her changing her mind are very high though, in a way I hope I am wrong, but I guess only time will tell.


shes not over you

guarantee it
 

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Originally Posted by Teger
shes not over you

guarantee it


Ok, so even if this is the case, you think she would still attempt to get in touch with me, if I explicitly said I would reply to her texts, or answer her calls?

Should I somehow make it known, that this was something I regret, and she can keep in touch. Something tells me thats the wrong, wrong way to go.
 

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Originally Posted by Teger
shes not over you

guarantee it


How are defining "not over you" here? As in she still has feelings for him, or she still wants to date? The former doesn't necessitate the latter.
 

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Originally Posted by MarkI
Ok, so even if this is the case, you think she would still attempt to get in touch with me, if I explicitly said I would reply to her texts, or answer her calls? Should I somehow make it known, that this was something I regret, and she can keep in touch. Something tells me thats the wrong, wrong way to go.
edit: i read this wrong. she will get back in touch with you regardless
Originally Posted by HgaleK
How are defining "not over you" here? As in she still has feelings for him, or she still wants to date? The former doesn't necessitate the latter.
maybe, maybe not. my view is that regardless theyll get back together within a week.
 

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Teger, what you're saying is stupid. Of course she isn't over him. And of course he isn't over her. you make it sound like the second a breakup happens both parties are supposed to just stop feeling whatever they were feeling 10 minutes ago. Get real brah.
 

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Originally Posted by MarkI
Ok, so even if this is the case, you think she would still attempt to get in touch with me, if I explicitly said I would reply to her texts, or answer her calls? Should I somehow make it known, that this was something I regret, and she can keep in touch. Something tells me thats the wrong, wrong way to go.
no. You shouldn't. Sit back. Wait. Relax. Breathe, in...out....ok. Give it a few days. You go running back to her, she'll go back to running from you.
 

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yea don't contact her. i read it wrong.

she will get in touch with you regardless.
 

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Originally Posted by MarkI
Ok, so even if this is the case, you think she would still attempt to get in touch with me, if I explicitly said I would reply to her texts, or answer her calls?

Should I somehow make it known, that this was something I regret, and she can keep in touch. Something tells me thats the wrong, wrong way to go.


Originally Posted by matt
you are more likely to **** this up by leaving a door open than by closing one. Think "scarcity". People want what they can't have. Your time needs to be scarce.

^^^I don't think I've ever seen him say something that hasn't proven to be true in the long run with regards to women...
 

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****, crazy girl is talking about suicide again. She's already hurt herself, don't know what I'm supposed to do. She's going to a hospital tomorrow. Should I just leave her alone?
 

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