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Girlfriend's Crazy Ex-Boyfriend - what to do?

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Originally Posted by mharwitt
looking forward to the 2012 "I can't believe I just spent the past two years of my life with this girl" thread.

That's if the guy doesn't cut ********* off.
 

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[Matt]Take up boxing and learn how to throw a right cross.[/Matt]

This is probably your best course of action to defend yourself if necessary.
 

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Originally Posted by Teacher
I'm not sure about where you live, but temporary restraining orders are issued by the police (usually, at least) and aren't really that hard to get (again, usually). No lawyers are needed. Beyond that, I'm not sure. And of course, Ambulance Chaser is right: it's not a guarantee of protection. Still, if he violates it in any way, he can get into trouble, a restraining order is better than not having one.

Okay, thanks. I'll inquire about it when I speak with the police later on. I'm in Ontario, Canada, fwiw. And yes, I'm well aware that it won't physically stop anything, but it would be reassuring to know that if he walked into my work, anyone could call and have him arrested. I'm more worried about the immediate physical threat of an attack if he were to show up unannounced and try something. But I'm aware that short of a gun (which isn't a possibility because I'm in canada) or a 24/7 bodyguard, there isn't really much I can do.
 

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Incman:

How old are you?

TyC
 

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Originally Posted by mharwitt
alright, but leaving really isn't as hard as you're making it, and in this instance is a)probably worth it, and b) will solve the problem you began this thread for. two months is smitten, not love.

incidentally i'm willing to bet that she won't file any restraining order and he won't come after you.

looking forward to the 2012 "I can't believe I just spent the past two years of my life with this girl" thread.


As I mentioned earlier, I have known her about a year and a half, and we have been developing feelings for each other for much longer than 2 months, so I'm not sure
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In regards to b), me leaving now wouldn't change his feelings towards me, so it's a moot point.

Originally Posted by Ambulance Chaser
[Matt]Take up boxing and learn how to throw a right cross.[/Matt]

This is probably your best course of action to defend yourself if necessary.


I've been considering taking up some form of martial art for a couple months now...this may be the spark I need to do it.
 

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Originally Posted by Incman
Much easier said than done.
Bull. Life needn't be full of this melodramatic crap ... and that's just what this is.
 

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Originally Posted by Crane's
So does the OP have his own place?

Going to get a RO with a note? Doubtful.


No, I don't. I'm living with family while I go to school. (P.s., not a trust-fund kid. Broke as hell, pay room/board, work 20ish hours a week, pay for my own schooling, no car, straight As and motivated/hardworking). And yeah, as mentioned I don't know how a RO works, just that I'll inquire about it.

Originally Posted by TyCooN
Incman:

How old are you?

TyC


19
 

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Originally Posted by RSS
Given the circumstances ... I'd remove myself as far as possible from all involved ... including the girl.

+1, haven't read past this post, clearly, a 19 y.o. boy shouldn't be thinking about love and can certainly get over it.
 

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Originally Posted by Joenobody0
You sound like a codependent teenager who wants the thrill of saving a girl who's "really worth it" and "been through some hard times". Do whatever you want and maybe some day you'll grow up.

Originally Posted by Incman
Not even close.

Originally Posted by Incman
...I'm in love with this girl, and I know we'll be together for a long time. Perhaps it's the dumb teenager in me (inb4 someone bolds and +1's that), but I'm willing to put up with the baggage because she's more than worth it.


You do not know in any way that you're going to be together for a long period of time. You're a 19 year old kid. She's a mentally fucked up 21 year old kid. She's not worth it. You need to focus on going to school (if you're already there, then take more or harder classes) and making something out of your life. Not ******* around with bullshit like this.
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Originally Posted by forex
+1, haven't read past this post, clearly, a 19 y.o. boy shouldn't be thinking about love and can certainly get over it.

At what age, exactly, is someone allowed to fall in love?
 

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Originally Posted by Joenobody0
You do not know in any way that you're going to be together for a long period of time. You're a 19 year old kid. She's a mentally fucked up 21 year old kid. She's not worth it. You need to focus on going to school (if you're already there, then take more or harder classes) and making something out of your life. Not ******* around with bullshit like this.
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Maybe I'll look back in 10 years and regret, but on the other hand I'm quite sure I won't. I'm in school doing all the right things, and having a gf isn't/wont affect that. She's not mentally fucked up, she's very realistic and down to earth.
 

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Originally Posted by kwilkinson
At what age, exactly, is someone allowed to fall in love?

Good question. I didn't choose for it to happen, and I can't just throw it away (not that I'd want to). I guess it's just human nature to look down on people younger than yourself.
 

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Originally Posted by kwilkinson
At what age, exactly, is someone allowed to fall in love?

no younger than 25,how old are you? 22? go back to your kitchen, boy.
 

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Originally Posted by Incman
Good question. I didn't choose for it to happen, and I can't just throw it away (not that I'd want to). I guess it's just human nature to look down on people younger than yourself.

I don't think anyone is looking down on you,I think people are speaking out of experience. Believe you me, you will forget this girl in no time and it will probably be in your best interest.
 

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