Bokeh
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I've pretty much been in hibernation mode these past 5 years after my 2nd divorce.
Now that Im re-entering the world, I realize that my social skills pretty much suck.
after hearing a voicemail I left for someone a few days ago I realize I sorta mumble and slur my speech.
in social situations It seems I either talk way too softly(most often), or too loudly.
I seem to get mentally overexcited when I am finally interacting in a social situation, and usually regret it the next day.
I usually get nervous and my mouth seems to dry out pretty fast, so I avoid talking. sometimes I think my breath might stink a little as time goes on since brushing teeth, or after drinks & dinner, or even that I may accidentally spit while I'm talking
I never think of something to talk about, and I'm usually short, abrupt and to the point with my answers when talked to. I have a hard time following conversations because I am usually overthinking about how I should react or respond.
Im not sure if I have a hearing problem or it's just because too many other thoughts are on my mind, but I seem to have a hard time listening to people in noisy environments, but those are the environments I like.. I've had my hearing checked and the results were that I had no problems, but that is done in a sound booth..
any tips on how I can rebuild/practice my social skills? I don't want to try too hard and come off fake, but I know I need to improve in this area.
-thanks
Now that Im re-entering the world, I realize that my social skills pretty much suck.
after hearing a voicemail I left for someone a few days ago I realize I sorta mumble and slur my speech.
in social situations It seems I either talk way too softly(most often), or too loudly.
I seem to get mentally overexcited when I am finally interacting in a social situation, and usually regret it the next day.
I usually get nervous and my mouth seems to dry out pretty fast, so I avoid talking. sometimes I think my breath might stink a little as time goes on since brushing teeth, or after drinks & dinner, or even that I may accidentally spit while I'm talking
I never think of something to talk about, and I'm usually short, abrupt and to the point with my answers when talked to. I have a hard time following conversations because I am usually overthinking about how I should react or respond.
Im not sure if I have a hearing problem or it's just because too many other thoughts are on my mind, but I seem to have a hard time listening to people in noisy environments, but those are the environments I like.. I've had my hearing checked and the results were that I had no problems, but that is done in a sound booth..
any tips on how I can rebuild/practice my social skills? I don't want to try too hard and come off fake, but I know I need to improve in this area.
-thanks