My dad died on Wednesday

Originally Posted by rdawson808

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My dad was a good guy. He taught me to tie a tie and how to hit a baseball.

When I would visit he would ask me if I wanted to go hit a bucket of balls at the driving range. I always said no thanks. I really regret that now.

He suffered a stroke Tuesday night and within hours it had caused him to be on a respirator with a morhpine drip. Wednesday afternoon the family decided that because he didn't want to be left on life support and because the prognosis was not good for surgery, that the respirator would be removed. He passed peacefully less than thrity minutes later. I am thankful that he was not in any pain. But I miss him.

Go out and hit that bucket of balls with your dad when he asks. Even though he's kinda joking because he knows you don't golf and you have a bum shoulder. Go do it. You'll be happy you did.


bob

I'm really sorry for your loss.

I went through a very similar situation. Dad died a few years ago (when I was 19). He always wanted to go out, play golf, get outdoors, spend time together, but I was too much of a dick to appreciate it.

Originally Posted by lpresq

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Heh?? Im not sure religion has anything to do with this.

His statement had nothing to do with religion, he was referring to how the Jewish culture responds to and deals with a death.

I'm really sorry to hear the bad news, Bob. It's huge loss.

My condolences.

Bob, sorry to hear about your loss.

--Andre

My sincere condolences.

Very sorry to hear of your loss. Your advice is very sage. And I applaud the courage of you and your family in making the choice that you did. You made a choice based on the needs of your father, not on the needs of the family. You did good.

You have my condolences.


(Please, trolls if you have nothing nice to say, in this thread at least say nothing at all )

I'm really sorry to hear about your loss. Your post made me think. I often feel bad and somewaht guilty for having chosen to live so far from my parents - and today is one of those days.

I'm really sorry for your loss. Thanks for sharing with us, and for your advice, I will take it to heart.

my sincere condolences

Bob,

Sorry about your loss. I hope you and your family remember your father fondly for many healthy, happy years.

Originally Posted by HORNS

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His statement had nothing to do with religion, he was referring to how the Jewish culture responds to and deals with a death.

+1, he was talking about Jewish law and his belief that it was well conceived, nothing more

My condolences Bob. Your post reminds me of when my father passed. I remember being on a golf outing and around the 11th hole he said he didn't feel well and was going back to the clubhouse to take a rest. I'd probably had 6 or 10 beers by then and instead of showing concern I gave him a nice dose of some good-natured **** about getting old. Later that week he got diagnosed with lung cancer and it was then that I realized his lungs just weren't getting enough oxygen that day. I felt pretty bad about what I said.

My dad was my best friend and I still miss him 20 years later. It was very painful at first...paralyzing actually. But as time goes on things get better and if you had a good relationship, and it sounds like you did, you will only remember the good times and smile. Often I ask myself, "what would dad say/think?", and try to act accordingly. I hope that you had time to say your final peace and no matter, be grateful that the end was quick and painless. And always remember that death is a part of life and that the pain will eventually fade...and that your dad continues living through you. Again, my deepest sympathies.

My condolences to you and your family at this time Bob.

If you dont mind me asking, how old was he?

Originally Posted by gdl203

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I'm really sorry to hear about your loss. Your post made me think. I often feel bad and somewaht guilty for having chosen to live so far from my parents - and today is one of those days.

I see and interact with my folks everyday, albeit in our own dysfunctional ways, and yet I cannot stand them as much as up to a certain degree they cannot stand me too. I have often thought about this and I don't wanna do the guilt and regret thing when they're gone and I wish things were different.

Taking our folks for granted is more of a rule than the exception I guess... I do share Bob's sentiment of spending more quality time with your folks before its too late and in my own way I do my bit to make it right with my folks. Call them up, share a drink or smoke with them, goto their house and hang out, send your kids to visit.... its gonna be worth it.