What do you do if your tailor tells you you're fat?

Originally Posted by 83glt

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Why don't you take care of business. Lose a lot of weight as fast as you can. Then go hit on her and take her out and hammer the crap out of her and give her some "man make-up". Then treat her like ****. At that point, it'll be your tailor who decides on whether to carry on the relationship.

I am rather surprised by the level of comments like this.

whether someone tells you that you are fat or doesn't they are still thinking it. If you are spending a decent amount of money on a nice tailored suit to try and improve your appearance you have to wonder whether that money might not be better spent on a gym membership.

Originally Posted by NiFTY

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whether someone tells you that you are fat or doesn't they are still thinking it. If you are spending a decent amount of money on a nice tailored suit to try and improve your appearance you have to wonder whether that money might not be better spent on a gym membership.
While I disagree with what the tailor did, perhaps you should make the best of this sorry situation, and persevere with your weight loss. All the best.

Perhaps you should have Weetabix or a slice of toast for breakfast, instead of a full English every morning.

BareSolid, please stop.

Originally Posted by apropos

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BareSolid, please stop.

+1 Bare Solid, don't know who you are trying to impress with your snide remarks. I think you have insulted the OP enough. Please desist and apologise to the OP.

I'm gonna to state the bleedin' obvious. You either take it as an insult or you don't, that's entirely up to you. If you prefer a more civil service, go elsewhere. On the other hand, since they are being frank with you, be very frank with them, and I mean frank, not bitter. It could be a good working relationship. I'd be more worried about the sloppy work.

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Originally Posted by voxsartoria

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From which Flusser book is that? - B
I think that's actually from Debrett's...

Originally Posted by Nicola

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Don't run. Bad for your knees at your size. Plenty of other low impact things you can do. Think barbell step ups.
Cross/Elliptical trainers were made for this very reason.

Originally Posted by mjHession

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This one is for some laughs, as well as some advice. I recently decided I wanted to find a better tailor in my area (30 min north of Philly). I find about this guy Joe Centofani, he seems to be regarded as the best around here on SF, so I go in there and I think it's his daughter who probably about mid 40's, tells me im too young to be this big (im 24 and wear a 48r). I told her that i have lost some weight a few years ago, but have sat where im at for a while now. I was about 350lbs, now around 260. She doesn't take the time to even pin my sleeves at the same length, joe noticed this though and pointed it out to her, then when I was leaving she says (maybe as a joke) i only need to loose 40 more pounds to look good in a suit. Should I go somewhere else or just deal with her comments? Sure I know i'm fat, but i don't need her telling me. Also I want to build a relationship with my tailor, not sure how that will happen with her. Thoughts?
Maybe I am wrong but to me the (no pun intended) 'measure' of a good tailor would include the skills to make a suit for a man of any disposition, and do it well. The daughters comments were certainly direct, but only you saw her manner and her eyes. On a positive note (If you have relayed the words of the daughter accurately), the way I would infer it is encouragement to lose a bit more weight, which is your goal anyway. Question: Was her manner sincere? Did she smile in a nice way while saying it? It is possible she may want you for herself once her father is done working on your suit. This may be your future wife, who knows? I congratulate you on the weight you have already lost. If you feel that she was genuine, and in her own way was trying to encourage you, then perhaps you can go back there for a second visit. If she is sincere, tell her,'You make me look good today, and minus 40lbs from now, I'll be back for alterations...with flowers. Please keep us updated.

change tailor if you're offended

Everybody should get a 2nd chance. If you still have some confidence in the tailor, I'd address him directly and tell him how astonished you were by the episode and how you felt afterwards. It is important for the tailor to know. Also, by doing this you give him the possibility to react and come with an answer. In the end what counts is that you get a good suit

Rudeness has no place in any kind of relationships.

What's the point making people feel uncomfortable especially when they're your customers?

This lady is not very clever.

I've suffered from weight gain and loss my entire adult life. From 25 to 60 years old, I've ranged from 155 Lbs. to 215 Lbs. Right now I'm about "a deuce" : but on the way down. As recently as a year ago I was about 170 Lbs!

I think I suffer from rebound effect. At this point in my life I care less about perfect style than good health. No bespoke with me. But I've got stuff like Oxxfords ( I'm stodgy ) that range from 40R to 46R.

A very prominent tailor and I have a friend in common who is truly a "big timer". His main concern is that his suits are cut with lots of room to accommodate weight gain. And then if he should loose the weight back it can be altered. Rebound effect.

Originally Posted by Kentishman

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I think that's actually from Debrett's...



Cross/Elliptical trainers were made for this very reason.

Also rowing machines - very low impact and much more challenging when done with proper technique than it might look.