I broke up with my gf (general breakup thread)

Originally Posted by Jumbie

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I'd be happy to be dumped by text because I'd know that person was a colossal waste of DNA.

I dumped a chick by text once in high school.

This is how the conversation went.
Me: hey we need to talk, it's serious.
Her: i'm kinda busy, just text it to me
Me: I can wait until we actually talk later
Her: it's fine, just text it to me
Me: k i wanna break up. ttyl.

Originally Posted by jptoor

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Got dumped via text.

Worst part, all she said was, "You're an incongruous person. I don't know how to feel about that."
Then she stopped texting me back, and won't return my calls.

Originally Posted by m@T

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sorry to hear that man. I'd recommend not calling for a while, as much as it may suck, just give her a few days grace, let her miss you a bit, then resurface and see where you stand.

I don't know if she deserves that. Who texts somebody hurtful **** like that and then won't explain themselves? For once, I disagree with M@t's idea. Don't text or call or "resurface". If she does, get an explanation from her then move on. You don't need that ****. It would be doubly awesome if she offers to take you back, then you hook up with her and drop her like she did you. But that would only reinforce her bullshit and make her feel like she took the higher road. So I say "move on".

Originally Posted by kwilkinson

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I dumped a chick by text once in high school.

This is how the conversation went.
Me: hey we need to talk, it's serious.
Her: i'm kinda busy, just text it to me
Me: I can wait until we actually talk later
Her: it's fine, just text it to me
Me: k i wanna break up. ttyl.

Texting in high school seems so anachronistic...

Originally Posted by m@T

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It had to be done.

She's great, but it wasnt a relationship that was heading anywhere, so after a year and a half I put a stop to it.

Just kinda eating into each other's futures if we keep going like that.

It's still sad though.

Don't sweat it - you are a free man now. Congrats.

Awkward how I just found this topic today.

I can understand it (the initial break up of this thread). Sometimes it looks like you have everything but it's not making you happy. Only because you think you love your partner doesn't mean that the relationship works. You can try but it won't change the world.

Now just how should I explain that to the crying person at the other end of the phone?

Originally Posted by Szeph el ratón

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Awkward how I just found this topic today.

I can understand it (the initial break up of this thread). Sometimes it looks like you have everything but it's not making you happy. Only because you think you love your partner doesn't mean that the relationship works. You can try but it won't change the world.

Now just how should I explain that to the crying person at the other end of the phone?

Explain it in person?

Originally Posted by Jodum5

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Explain it in person?
Far distance relationship... something around 8000 km. But yes, would be the gentleman way to do it.

Originally Posted by Jodum5

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I don't know if she deserves that. Who texts somebody hurtful **** like that and then won't explain themselves? For once, I disagree with M@t's idea. Don't text or call or "resurface". If she does, get an explanation from her then move on. You don't need that ****. It would be doubly awesome if she offers to take you back, then you hook up with her and drop her like she did you. But that would only reinforce her bullshit and make her feel like she took the higher road. So I say "move on".
actually, my second breakup of this thread was done by text. I was so ******* pissed at her that night (we came home, she went to sleep) and I was looking at her thinking 'nothing in the world is gonna make me get into that bed, I'm outta here'. Bailed and texted her one word from the cab ride home. "Enough". Woke up to a torrent of calls and texts. Ignored them all and went to Cambodia for a bachelor party, drank ****** off for a week, and ignored all her 3x daily calls on the grounds that I owed her nothing, and explanations count as something...let her figure it out. She figured it out, I took her call one day, and two weeks later we were back together. Yeah, I'm an asshole when I want to be. Interestingly I was talking with her friend last week about the whole episode, and her friend was like "I thought you were the biggest asshole for doing that, and then I realised a month later you knew exactly what you were doing...you just wanted her to think about it instead of spelling it out." Correct. Of course, six weeks later, she moved to Canada, and here I am again.

Originally Posted by jptoor

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Got dumped via text.

Worst part, all she said was, "You're an incongruous person. I don't know how to feel about that."
Then she stopped texting me back, and won't return my calls.

That quote seems like it's out of a Bret Easton Ellis novel.

**** **** **** ****

ruh roh?

Originally Posted by m@T

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**** **** **** ****
She moving back?

Does GF read Styleforvm?

Originally Posted by Rambo

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She moving back?

Just missing her, I guess. Hugs, Matt (no ****).

plenty of missing her. But we spoke this morning and had a bit of a blowout. ****.