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You're Overdressed!

rlx

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Better to just smile and ignore the comment. Some people just don't know any better.
 

HRoi

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i think it was another way of saying "you're making us look bad!"
 

SkinnyGoomba

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Originally Posted by Thomas
Well, if you go around looking like Alpa Chino in your dark suit/dark tie, that's what you get.

I've never been told that, even when I was. If I'm the only person wearing a tie, I'll put the tie in my pocket, and maybe lose the coat if we're talking sumemrtime, but after that...****'em.

Sometimes, though, it's more a matter of not being overdressed but rather too formal in your outfit: a navy blazer/grey trouser is more formal/dressy than brown coat/beige chinos.


So, you're saying I got exactly what i deserved. Ahh, see now this is the type of answer I come to expect on SF, thank you sir!
 

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I would have laughed about my mistake, hung up the jacket and tie and enjoyed myself. I don't care how they do it "in your family" (a bit elitist, are we?), you looked out of place and someone called you on it. Don't be angry at that person because you ended up looking obnoxious.

Oh, and I'm new to this forum...if I keep reading, will I start overdressing for parties all the time and then blaming everyone else for underdressing?
 

ZackyBoy

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Who gives a **** dude... it just shows you put an effort forward to the hosts.
 

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Originally Posted by mcmurphy
I would have laughed about my mistake, hung up the jacket and tie and enjoyed myself. I don't care how they do it "in your family" (a bit elitist, are we?), you looked out of place and someone called you on it. Don't be angry at that person because you ended up looking obnoxious. Oh, and I'm new to this forum...if I keep reading, will I start overdressing for parties all the time and then blaming everyone else for underdressing?
Who does this guy think he is? ...calling someone well dressed obnoxious
 

SkinnyGoomba

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Originally Posted by mcmurphy
(a bit elitist, are we?) Yeah Oh, and I'm new to this forum...if I keep reading, will I start overdressing for parties all the time and then blaming everyone else for under dressing?
Yes, at some point you'll realize that if you don't look like **** and fit in, you're fucked!
 

SkinnyGoomba

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Originally Posted by dv3
Who does this guy think he is? ...calling someone well dressed obnoxious

Thats what i was thinking, I come from an attitude of making my guests feel welcome, not ostracizing them for not being mind readers.
 

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Originally Posted by mcmurphy
I would have laughed about my mistake, hung up the jacket and tie and enjoyed myself. I don't care how they do it "in your family" (a bit elitist, are we?), you looked out of place and someone called you on it. Don't be angry at that person because you ended up looking obnoxious. Oh, and I'm new to this forum...if I keep reading, will I start overdressing for parties all the time and then blaming everyone else for underdressing?
This kind of attitude is terrible. He's not elitist for giving a ****. He showed up to a party, he didn't walk in and scream out 'You're supposed to dress like ME!' If someone adheres to the bare minimum standards for themselves, it doesn't make the others elitist, it makes that person lazy/ignorant/shy/whatever their reason is for choosing the bare minimum. If SkinnyGoomba were humble about his dress, why can't others enjoy the sight of a well-dressed man instead of clawing at him to drag him back down to their own level? It's akin to the no less puerile way of clamoring 'Mom! Billy has more cereal than me!'
 

Hany

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Simple answer to such comments: "Look son, there's no such thing as being overdressed."
 

Mark from Plano

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Originally Posted by SkinnyGoomba
Yes, at some point you'll realize that if you don't look like **** and fit in, you're fucked!

It's a race to the bottom out there my friend. You can either join the descent or say '**** 'em' and keep on swimming.
 

blackbowtie

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Originally Posted by Dedalus
Being overdressed can also be considered rude.

How so? I think there is not enough respect and consideration these days for the host. After all the effort put into making it somewhat of a special event I think by dressing up you are in a way telling the host that the event is a special one and that you are honoured to have been invited (hence the extra effort in dressing).

Turning up to a BBQ in a suit, for instance, may be impractical - for you rather than anyone else - but I don't see how it can be construed as "rude".
 

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Originally Posted by blackbowtie
How so? I think there is not enough respect and consideration these days for the host. After all the effort put into making it somewhat of a special event I think by dressing up you are in a way telling the host that the event is a special one and that you are honoured to have been invited (hence the extra effort in dressing). Turning up to a BBQ in a suit, for instance, may be impractical - for you rather than anyone else - but I don't see how it can be construed as "rude".
It's rude because none of the other guests are dressed up. You don't go to a party to one-up everyone else. especially not the host. Your intentions are admirable, but not everyone will see it that way.
 

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Originally Posted by nahneun
It's rude because none of the other guests are dressed up. You don't go to a party to one-up everyone else. especially not the host. Your intentions are admirable, but not everyone will see it that way.

That only works if there's a specified dress code, or if the level of formality expected is pretty obvious (eg a barbecue). For something like an engagement party, the expected level of formality can evidently vary a lot and is hard to predict without a dress code, so it would be wrong to call someone out for being either underdressed (unless they actually look indecent, I suppose) or overdressed (unless they're wearing something that's obviously over the top, such as court dress).
 

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I think it's rude to call someone on being overdressed and don't think that you were in this case, but I do think it is possible to be overdressed. Generally though I think of being overdressed as when one's atire is entirely out of place. It is not out of place to wear a coat and tie to a cocktail party or a barbeque, but it might be inappropriate to wear a dinner jacket and that would be overdressed. Generally though comments like "you're overdressed" really mean "****, I look bad in comparison."
 

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