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Originally Posted by iammatt
Question to those of you with more experience.

How do the various generalizations being made about the gay community, the differences between gay and straight relationships etc change when you move from a community in which there is a longer history of gay acceptance to one which is less tolerant, while staying in the same greater community, say in the US? I don't really mean the difference in interaction between the gay and straight communities, but whether the basic structure, and various subgroups have formed differently in more gay friendly places like SF and West Hollywood, where the entire community faces less overt hostility, versus other cities in the US.


Where I live now it's become very evident as the center city is cosmopolitan while surrounding areas are very socially conservative. The repression of homosexuality outside the city center has actually made a lot of gays into willing refugees from the aforementioned conservatism. As a result the downtown and surrounding areas probably have a greater homosexual demographic than normal. Most people around here have a 'live and let live' attitude toward it, but when confronted the old NIMBY attitude still shows itself.
 

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That makes sense. I guess what I was getting at, though, was more along what blvfr was referencing, and that is whether in a setting in which there is less discrimination, and therefore slightly less impetus to function as a cohesive group, whether there is more friction between different subcultures, and whether there is simply more gay diversity, since it is possible to let go of an overriding identity of being simply gay. In other words, when the gay culture is seen as more normal in a given area, does it develop like any other culture, with all of the rifts and striations, or is even minimal acceptance so new in the US that even in the most open cities, there is still an important identity of being gay.

Obviously, I am way over generalizing, but...
 

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Real Bisexual: Sees dude at business meeting, sucks his dick in the men's room, moves on with life, doesn't need to talk about it.

Fake Bisexual: Acts like a dick in numerous threads, makes up story about having questionable sexuality to win general sympathy on internet men's clothing forum.

Closeted Homosexual: Sees dude at business meeting, wants to suck his dick in the men's room, but is still kidding around with himself and dating women, posts story on internet men's clothing forum anonymously to indulge his gayness without crossing the line.
 

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Originally Posted by Douglas
Real Bisexual: Sees dude at business meeting, sucks his dick in the men's room, moves on with life, doesn't need to talk about it. Fake Bisexual: Acts like a dick in numerous threads, makes up story about having questionable sexuality to win general sympathy on internet men's clothing forum. Closeted Homosexual: Sees dude at business meeting, wants to suck his dick in the men's room, but is still kidding around with himself and dating women, posts story on internet men's clothing forum anonymously to indulge his gayness without crossing the line.
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Connemara

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Originally Posted by LabelKing
I am proud to say I have never had the remotest urge to suck anything's appendage or ****.
You should venture to Berkeley and look for some hairy hippie ****.
 

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LabelKing, my professional opinion is that you really need to either get banged, or go bang somebody.
 

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Originally Posted by Eason
LabelKing, my professional opinion is that you really need to either get banged, or go bang somebody.
Actually, I've given some thought to this, and I've never had any overwhelming urge, ever.
 

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Originally Posted by LabelKing
Actually, I've thought about this, and I've never had any overwhelming urge, ever.
How about after Negroni number three?
 

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Originally Posted by LabelKing
Actually, I've given some thought to this, and I've never had any overwhelming urge, ever.

Doesn't have to be overwhelming even, just ********** it ffs.
 

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Originally Posted by iammatt
That makes sense. I guess what I was getting at, though, was more along what blvfr was referencing, and that is whether in a setting in which there is less discrimination, and therefore slightly less impetus to function as a cohesive group, whether there is more friction between different subcultures, and whether there is simply more gay diversity, since it is possible to let go of an overriding identity of being simply gay. In other words, when the gay culture is seen as more normal in a given area, does it develop like any other culture, with all of the rifts and striations, or is even minimal acceptance so new in the US that even in the most open cities, there is still an important identity of being gay.

Obviously, I am way over generalizing, but...


Have you ever been to The Castro? There's your answer.
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You probably need to take hormones or something.
 

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