Why do I lose sexual interest in my GF's

Maybe when you get comfortable, your libido turns itself off? There's a lot of pressure from society for us guys to "perform", so maybe your hormones tell themselves that you have "won", and performing is no longer necessary.

I'm also the type of guy who likes to cuddle, and I'm amazed by the number of girls I've been with who can't stand it, which strikes me as odd. I feel like I'm the one being used for sex

Originally Posted by Spilotro

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I feel like I'm the one being used for sex

Just roll with that, brother.

Sounds like mommy issues.

I also much prefer the chase. Just the other day I was wondering why that is. In all honesty, I think it stems from my parents telling me I could achieve anything I set my mind to as I was growing up. I'm very rarely satisfied with what I have - whatever it is - and am always looking for the next better thing. It's a problem.

Originally Posted by Brad

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I also much prefer the chase. Just the other day I was wondering why that is. In all honesty, I think it stems from my parents telling me I could achieve anything I set my mind to as I was growing up. I'm very rarely satisfied with what I have - whatever it is - and am always looking for the next better thing. It's a problem.

You and every other American.
Astronaut-Dream Denial Syndrome.

Just to add my last few comments, I have been married for a very long time as we got married young. I watch internet Appreciation probably daily, given that we have no firewalls at work and that my day goes from very busy to doing nothing multiple times over the course of a day. My sex life with my wife is at the very least as hot and as frequent as when we were 20. I could not see myself married to her or anyone if sex was an infrequent activity or if when it was done, it was done in a "let's get this over with" way. Sex does not define either of us nor our marriage but if there was no animal attraction between the two of us, how long do you think before everything else goes to ****? Men and women are equally horny, the day you stop being horny for the opposite sex, there are definite issues that need to be worked out. Be they mommy, sexual orientation, sexual fetish or whatever issues, I would suggest the OP figure something out quickly because he will never have a successful relationship if the sex is non existant, unless he hooks up with a nun, and I have my doubts about them.

Originally Posted by redgrail

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You and every other American.
Astronaut-Dream Denial Syndrome.

Do you really think it's that common?

Originally Posted by Bradford

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My amateur 2-cents analysis.

I guess the question would be how much do you actually respect women? The comments about pursuing and bedding women and having more sex than most people your age suggest to me that you treat women as objects to be attained as sexual trophies, not so much as people with whom you want to pursue a real relationship.

I'd suggest putting off the sex for a while in your future dating and building a relationship based on something other than physical attraction. That way the sex is an added benefit, not the entire basis of the relationship.

Originally Posted by Baron

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I can relate to this a little bit - I've gone through periods of chasing a lot of girls and I've found that I ended up losing my sexual interest in them pretty quickly. The reason in my case was that I was pursuing women I didn't really like, but I liked the notion of bedding them. That notion wears thin once you've accomplished that task at hand. The trick is to not keep seeing someone unless you're really strongly attracted to them. Don't stay with someone out of guilt just because you've slept with them. It may be that you're avoiding the women that you're most attracted to because you're afraid of rejection from them, so you pursue women that you know you can get instead.

Well-said.

Originally Posted by Tarmac

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Sounds like mommy issues.

Mommy issues = Amerikajinda

Oedipal victor?

Originally Posted by edmorel

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Just to add my last few comments, I have been married for a very long time as we got married young. I watch internet Appreciation probably daily, given that we have no firewalls at work and that my day goes from very busy to doing nothing multiple times over the course of a day. My sex life with my wife is at the very least as hot and as frequent as when we were 20. I could not see myself married to her or anyone if sex was an infrequent activity or if when it was done, it was done in a "let's get this over with" way. Sex does not define either of us nor our marriage but if there was no animal attraction between the two of us, how long do you think before everything else goes to ****? Men and women are equally horny, the day you stop being horny for the opposite sex, there are definite issues that need to be worked out. Be they mommy, sexual orientation, sexual fetish or whatever issues, I would suggest the OP figure something out quickly because he will never have a successful relationship if the sex is non existant, unless he hooks up with a nun, and I have my doubts about them.
Ed, this is a great response.

see a shrink. sounds like you have a madonna-whore complex.

probably has something to do with ur self esteem issues? where you need to feel wanted by many people to feel you are good enough? and once the person likes you, you need to feel it from someone else to feel good about yourself etc. i dunno i just know having a low self esteem ***** up a lot more things then people think it would. i have a friend who has a ridiculously low self esteem, and its discusting how fucked up he is in so many ways you wouldnt imagine. all because of a low self esteem.

Originally Posted by Brad

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Do you really think it's that common?

In white middle-class young people - sure. Especially the more successful they are. Coddled by parents and told they can achieve anything, they buy it and are disappointed when they don't graduate top of their class at Harvard/can't land a 10.5 hottie in a bar/what have you. I see it all the time.

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In white middle-class young people - sure. Especially the more successful they are. Coddled by parents and told they can achieve anything, they buy it and are disappointed when they don't graduate top of their class at Harvard/can't land a 10.5 hottie in a bar/what have you. I see it all the time.

Well, if you add the disappointment from not shooting 70 after playing golf for a little over a month, then yeah, that's me.

Originally Posted by Brad

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Well, if you add the disappointment from not shooting 70 after playing golf for a little over a month, then yeah, that's me.

Don't drink tooo many beers! Today I shop a 94 b/c I was a little tipsy!

Originally Posted by kwilkinson

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Don't drink tooo many beers! Today I shop a 94 b/c I was a little tipsy!

Good luck in Chicago, big dog.