lordofpi
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This weekend past, I attended a birthday party for my cousin. She is a lawyer, and I was mailed a nice invitation to the affair, which was arranged by her firm. The host, her law partner, had the invitations read that dress was "informal, but dressy;" we were to have a 5-course meal in a separate dining room of a 4-star restaurant. I knew there were going to be about 70 people in attendance, only about 8 of which I would know (i.e., non-family). The age range was 25 (my age) all the way to the host's parents, who were most likely in their mid-Seventies.
Even if the invite had said otherwise, I knew the restaurant we were to attend, and I was not going to dress below the threshold for the establishment. That wasn't a problem, however, based on the invitation. I wore a double-breasted taupe suit, light orange broadcloth buttondown collar dress shirt, orange/black paisley tie, black silk pocketsquare, and A&E cordovan oxfod plain-toes. It sounds a little odd, but it looked pretty good.
I was one of the first to arrive. As people started piling in, I started to look around. Eighty-five percent of the people wore jeans, more than half of whom wore [I guess] nice tee shirts (they thought, at least) -- the other half wearing untucked buttondowns, only a fraction of which were actual dress-shirts. The remaining 15% showed men in chinos or dark trousers and a buttoned dress-shirt (top 3 buttons undone) and women in business-casual attire and 1 or 2 dresses.
The most dressed (excluding myself) was the host's father who wore dark navy slacks, royal blue blazer (probably from JC Penny), and a 85% polyester/15%cotton blend grey button-down -- opened two buttons at the top. The only reason I mention the cheapness of the clothes is because I know these people make upwards of $500k a year.
The host, the one who specified "Informal but dressy" was dressed exactly like this guy (apologies to whoever this is in the picture; I had to find someone random who was dressed this way).
I did not see one suit, one necktie, one bowtie, tie pin, sport coat or odd suit jacket of any kind -- with exception to the host's father who had the blazer. I'm sorry if this is a common type of post around here, but I was just so appalled, I had to vent to a group of people who could understand. I did not feel out of place, I felt like they all were (I guess one could argue this is snobbish, but I just saw no reason for me to be ashamed for dressing properly).
I don't know what kind of response I am looking for here, I guess I just thought I'd reaffirm what we all already know about the decline of proper dress.
Even if the invite had said otherwise, I knew the restaurant we were to attend, and I was not going to dress below the threshold for the establishment. That wasn't a problem, however, based on the invitation. I wore a double-breasted taupe suit, light orange broadcloth buttondown collar dress shirt, orange/black paisley tie, black silk pocketsquare, and A&E cordovan oxfod plain-toes. It sounds a little odd, but it looked pretty good.
I was one of the first to arrive. As people started piling in, I started to look around. Eighty-five percent of the people wore jeans, more than half of whom wore [I guess] nice tee shirts (they thought, at least) -- the other half wearing untucked buttondowns, only a fraction of which were actual dress-shirts. The remaining 15% showed men in chinos or dark trousers and a buttoned dress-shirt (top 3 buttons undone) and women in business-casual attire and 1 or 2 dresses.
The most dressed (excluding myself) was the host's father who wore dark navy slacks, royal blue blazer (probably from JC Penny), and a 85% polyester/15%cotton blend grey button-down -- opened two buttons at the top. The only reason I mention the cheapness of the clothes is because I know these people make upwards of $500k a year.
The host, the one who specified "Informal but dressy" was dressed exactly like this guy (apologies to whoever this is in the picture; I had to find someone random who was dressed this way).
I did not see one suit, one necktie, one bowtie, tie pin, sport coat or odd suit jacket of any kind -- with exception to the host's father who had the blazer. I'm sorry if this is a common type of post around here, but I was just so appalled, I had to vent to a group of people who could understand. I did not feel out of place, I felt like they all were (I guess one could argue this is snobbish, but I just saw no reason for me to be ashamed for dressing properly).
I don't know what kind of response I am looking for here, I guess I just thought I'd reaffirm what we all already know about the decline of proper dress.