Collar Stays

Manton · May 7, 2008

I have stopped wearing them.

First, I forgot them on a trip. The shirt seemed fine without them. Later, I deliberately did not wear them to an occasion that was somewhat informal. I liked the way my collar naturally rolled. Then, taking a huge risk (JKB, are you listening?) I wore a white shirt without stays to an important business meeting. The meeting was a success.

So no more collar stays. Is this like the SF equivalent of bra burning?

Cordovan · May 7, 2008

Originally Posted by Manton

I have stopped wearing them.

First, I forgot them on a trip. The shirt seemed fine without them. Later, I deliberately did not wear them to an occasion that was somewhat informal. I liked the way my collar naturally rolled. Then, taking a huge risk (JKB, are you listening?) I wore a white shirt without stays to an important business meeting. The meeting was a success.

So no more collar stays. Is this like the SF equivalent of bra burning?

Interestingly, I forgot mine this morning. I should not admit this, but was wearing the shirt sans tie. I felt self conscience all day until I got back and put stays in immediately.

Much better now.... I have reached peace and tranquility.

Cordovan

academe · May 7, 2008

One of my collar stays fell-out of my shirt during washing, and I didn't notice until I'd worn the shirt and was ready to wash it again. Strangely enough, no one else seem to notice either...

Honestly, I think it probably depends on the stiffness of the collar material. Some shirts have relatively stiff collars, where a collar stay probably is superfluous. Other collars are a little more flaccid. If it doesn't bother you to have slightly flaccid collars (and I suspect 99.999% of the public wouldn't notice), then more power to you.

Gipper40 · May 7, 2008

depending on the spread of the collar, you can indeed get away with it. Actually, it's an extra step in the morning--and honestly, how many times did you forget the damn stays once you have donnedyour tie and jacket. i'll also lay down a bet that there's a huge warehouse co-op , owned by the world's dry cleaners, filled with brass stays. My cleaners never ever fess up.

Flambeur · May 7, 2008

speaking of, what's a good online place to buy like 50-100 GOOD collar stays?

Max Inseam · May 7, 2008

I think it depends on the shirt collar and the weather. In the middle of a hot muggy summer in DC, an unstarched collar without a collar stay has a tendency to curl. Or so I've convinced myself the few times I've forgotten to put in a stay -- is it my imagination?

Tomasso · May 7, 2008

Originally Posted by Manton

Is this like the SF equivalent of bra burning?
More like iammatt hostage syndrome.

academe · May 7, 2008

Originally Posted by Gipper40

depending on the spread of the collar, you can indeed get away with it. Actually, it's an extra step in the morning--and honestly, how many times did you forget the damn stays once you have donnedyour tie and jacket. i'll also lay down a bet that there's a huge warehouse co-op , owned by the world's dry cleaners, filled with brass stays. My cleaners never ever fess up.

Ha! I wonder if there's a market for brass stays? Melt them down to make...???

Manton · May 7, 2008

Originally Posted by Tomasso

More like iammatt hostage syndrome.

No, he wears them!

BTW, I believe this is the first time you have trolled me since I have been back. It finally feels like home again.

odoreater · May 7, 2008

Originally Posted by Cordovan

Interestingly, I forgot mine this morning. I should not admit this, but was wearing the shirt sans tie. I felt self conscience all day until I got back and put stays in immediately.

Much better now.... I have reached peace and tranquility.

Cordovan

You wear collar stays when you are wearing your shirt open collared without a tie? People actually do that?

denning · May 7, 2008

I too have recently (within the last month) begun eschewing my collar stays. It started when one started poking through its pocket and I thought, "That's enough!"

mmkn · May 7, 2008

Originally Posted by Manton

I have stopped wearing them.
First, I forgot them on a trip. The shirt seemed fine without them. Later, I deliberately did not wear them to an occasion that was somewhat informal. I liked the way my collar naturally rolled.

What next???

"First, the weather was a little hot. The shirt seemed fine without the tie and with the top two buttons unbuttoned. Later, I deliberately tried a Tom Ford, and 'VoilÃ !' the hotties did double takes and my wife clung to me?????"

- M

itsstillmatt · May 7, 2008

I wear them, but mine are very floppy and my shirt interlinings very soft. I probably shouldn't bother, but if I took the task of replacing teh collar stays in my shirts after ironing away from my wife, she would probably feel like her life had lost a bit of meaning.

Manton · May 7, 2008

I think it's easier for me to get by without them because my collars are more spread. Even without the stays, the points always remain in contact with the shirt body. I don't know if it would work so well with a more closed point collar.

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