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You're Overdressed!

Discussion in 'Classic Menswear' started by SkinnyGoomba, Jul 1, 2009.

  1. ferguscan

    ferguscan Senior member

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    Just a vent!

    Am i the only person who finds it particularly rude to be told you're overdressed for something, like a party, where it was unspecified?

    Over the weekend i went to an engagement party, something that in my family its pretty normal to show up in a sportcoat and pants, maybe a tie or even a suit. You're honoring the couple getting married and its supposedly a pretty big deal.

    OK, it turns out it was indoor/outdoor, but not a barbecue, it was catered.

    I was at church earlier that day (thats rare enough as it is! hehe) and show up at the party in a suit.....immediately upon walking through the front door someone shouts out "your overdressed".

    I found this to be awkward and pretty rude, so i fired back "I rented this for $20, just for today!".

    Later when told that i 'can' remove my jacket, I told the person i didnt want to loose all the pieces since i had to return it by 9 o'clock.

    How do you guys handle this? Do you take your jacket and tie off and kick back? or do you tell them to find something else to worry about?

    Would you ever tell an invited guest of yours that they're underdressed, or do you consider this rude?


    Did you look awesome in your suit? Yes? Then everyone else can go f$%k themselves. Take this attitude with you wherever you go.

    And your response should've been: "I chose to dress for the occasion. What's your excuse for looking like shit?"

    Stuart
     
  2. Toiletduck

    Toiletduck Senior member

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    So much animosity. Are SFers really that bad at fitting in, albeit well dressed, in real life?
     
  3. SkinnyGoomba

    SkinnyGoomba Senior member

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    you're fine, Skinny. Don't let the asshole get to ya.

    slightly OT: I've been tasked to do my sister's wedding invitation here, and I might HAVE to put in the wedding invitation that its a formal attire affair... and it ticks me off that it has come to this- having to tell people to dress appropriately.


    lol thanks, even if you do put that its a formal attire affair, you'll have to answer phone calls and explain that this means suit and tie.....not dress shirt and khakis.
     
  4. SkinnyGoomba

    SkinnyGoomba Senior member

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    So much animosity. Are SFers really that bad at fitting in, albeit well dressed, in real life?
    I like to make light of it for the most part, but i was unusually offended by this person to call me out like that on the way in the door. It would be a completely different story had it been a close friend of mine. It struck me as being a knee-jerk comment made by someone who probably hadn't realized that there are other people on the planet, who do not have the same standards, but who also host and attend parties, those parties also having a variety of standards.
     
  5. Sanguis Mortuum

    Sanguis Mortuum Senior member

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    I went to a wedding Saturday and out of about 350 people, I was the only one under 40 in a suit. It was awful. I heard the guy in front of me complaining to his friend that he had to "dress up", while he was wearing flip-flops!

    Wow, if he really has so little respect for the happy couple that he can't even be bothered to 'dress up' for their wedding then I don't know why he bothered showing up at all...
     
  6. radicaldog

    radicaldog Senior member

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    "I'm dressed how I like to dress"

    or

    "No, I was just bored"

    or

    "Am I?".
     
  7. trogdor

    trogdor Senior member

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    The correct answer is:

    "That's because your mum always makes me put my suit back on after I've fucked her."
     
  8. Liberty Ship

    Liberty Ship Senior member

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    I get accused of being "overdressed" a lot. Even when I wear jeans, boots, and a sports jacket. I have become adept at finessing the comment. In this case, I would have responded, loud enough for as many people to hear me as heard the boor, "I dressed this way out of respect for the event, the engaged couple [name them], and the hostess. How did you decide what to wear?"

    But sometimes, I just comment that I need to wear a jacket to conceal the GUN.

    You can take some comfort that the boor would probably have dressed no differently under any circumstances. His rude comment is indicative of a pathetic loser trying to neutralize what he saw as a threat. Probably a life long pattern -- easier to cop out and be rude than to step up.
     
  9. chewy

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    I've always thought it is rude to BE overdressed. The fundamental concept of manners is to make everyone else you're around feel comfortable.
     
  10. chewy

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    Calling someone out on their being rude is also very rude. So, yes, in that sense it is rude to call someone out on being overdressed.
     
  11. laphroaig

    laphroaig Senior member

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    Why would you assume "you're overdressed" was meant with malice or as an insult?
     
  12. why

    why Senior member

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    Why would you assume "you're overdressed" was meant with malice or as an insult?

    Neither of those are required for a lack of propriety.
     
  13. Canal Directo

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    I've always thought it is rude to BE overdressed. The fundamental concept of manners is to make everyone else you're around feel comfortable.

    Showing up wearing t-shirt, shorts and flip-flop at an engeagement party is ok, while trying to pay some respect and wearing a tie and coat is rude!!! WTF??
     
  14. PocketCircle

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    Taking the pants off and showing my shiny thong just makes them shut up.
     
  15. Piobaire

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    This thread has totally delivered.

    Next time Skinny, look the guy up and down slowly, then say, "Well, I can see why you would feel that way...but I've had rough times before too, it'll be all right."

    One of my personal rules of life are, I'd rather be overdressed, than underdressed.
     
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  16. SkinnyGoomba

    SkinnyGoomba Senior member

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    I get accused of being "overdressed" a lot. Even when I wear jeans, boots, and a sports jacket. I have become adept at finessing the comment. In this case, I would have responded, loud enough for as many people to hear me as heard the boor, "I dressed this way out of respect for the event, the engaged couple [name them], and the hostess. How did you decide what to wear?"

    But sometimes, I just comment that I need to wear a jacket to conceal the GUN.

    You can take some comfort that the boor would probably have dressed no differently under any circumstances. His rude comment is indicative of a pathetic loser trying to neutralize what he saw as a threat. Probably a life long pattern -- easier to cop out and be rude than to step up.


    I'd love to say something like that to someone being rude, but I dont think it would work out very well.
     
  17. SkinnyGoomba

    SkinnyGoomba Senior member

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    This thread has totally delivered.

    Next time Skinny, look the guy up and down slowly, then say, "Well, I can see why you would feel that way...but I've had rough times before too, it'll be all right."

    One of my personal rules of life are, I'd rather be overdressed, than underdressed.


    LOL, this is Gold! This one is going into the lineup!
     
  18. luftvier

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    But sometimes, I just comment that I need to wear a jacket to conceal the GUN.

    This is gold.
     
  19. SkinnyGoomba

    SkinnyGoomba Senior member

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    they might believe me if i use that one.
     
  20. Medtech71

    Medtech71 Well-Known Member

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    Still no one has eplained how a suit a tie is rude exactly?? Door men wear suits and ties...insurance salesmen wear suits and ties....game show hosts wear them...but you shouldn't wear one to an engagement party? I would think that if the occassion was that informal, then the host or hostess should have clarified the dress before hand. The onus is on the inviter not the invitee...it is extremely rude of them to not have done this, and that makes them arseholes - with a capital arse.
     

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