Thanks for quite possibly the most useless piece of advice one could give to this guy. He's taking onus for the situation he's in, and you contradicted yourself by saying that not everyone can be successful, yet success is of their own efforts. Anybody can find success, it's just a matter of hard work, focus, and a little bit of dumb luck. He has time to turn it around...that's why it's on his shoulders. If you want to coddle him fine, I prefer the get up and get after it mentality.