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Would you be comfortable dating a woman who made significantly more money than you?

Discussion in 'Social Life, Food & Drink, Travel' started by Radagast, Sep 7, 2010.

  1. Don Carlos

    Don Carlos Senior member

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    I figured I'd be more settled and successful in my career at this point of life.

    If it's any consolation, pretty much everyone else in today's generation is in the same boat. Except for, like, big time traders or something. Generations Y and younger got bent over the table and fucked repeatedly by the Baby Boomers. Up the ass. With neither lube nor a courtesy reach-around.

    Just keep the perspective in mind that everyone is fucked, not just you. That's what I tell myself whenever I start freaking out about how much less successful I am at 30 than my father or grandfather were. The opportunities just aren't here like they used to be. Unless you get extremely lucky or start a successful business or something.
     
  2. Dakota rube

    Dakota rube Senior member

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    No. She does not own a liquor store. Her mother might.

    Is her mother single?
     
  3. philosophe

    philosophe Senior member

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    Am about to marry someone who has made significantly more than me for the last decade.

    Congrats!

    As for a spouse who earns more, it's worked well for me for a long time. What you need is a reliable and equal partner in life, and the most important things are not about money.
     
  4. ter1413

    ter1413 Senior member

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    Comfortable? I'd be damn excited.

    could have not said it better!
     
  5. kwilkinson

    kwilkinson Senior member

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    What you need is a reliable and equal partner in life, and the most important things are not about money.
    Truth. I honestly couldn't imagine being with someone with whom money was such a big issue. Or rather, I couldn't imaginable being comfortable with someone if I was so insecure about such trivial things. OP needs to let go of his insecurity and realize that this is nearly meaningless in the grand scheme of things.
     
  6. Mark from Plano

    Mark from Plano Senior member

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    I was married for about 20 years. For the first 12-13 years I made more. For the last 7-8 years my ex-wife made more money than me. In some years nearly double.

    I'm currently dating a woman that makes (probably) at least as much as I do and I wouldn't be surprised if she made significantly more. We haven't exchanged financial information as yet, so I can't be sure. However I am certain that she doesn't make substantially less than me.

    Obviously I have no problem with it.


    On the downside, the increase in income by women has been cited in recent studies as a significant cause in the increase in the divorce rate. In short, when she no longer is financially obliged to put up with your shit, she no longer will.
     
  7. Piobaire

    Piobaire Senior member

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    I would love if Mrs. Piob make double or triple what I do. I've always said her only flaw was that she was not a millionaire heiress. FWIW, there were two years where she made as much or more than me, a long time ago when I was in grad school. Caused zero problems. Now, however, I keep telling her I'd like to be a house husband. This makes her say hateful things, like I'd have to get rid of my current vehicle and drive a Yaris, stop buying wine, etc. Totally unreasonable!
     
  8. kwilkinson

    kwilkinson Senior member

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    This makes her say hateful things, like I'd have to get rid of my current vehicle and drive a Yaris, stop buying wine, etc. Totally unreasonable!
    [​IMG] [​IMG] How dare she!!!?!?!? That's not even funny to joak about.
     
  9. Piobaire

    Piobaire Senior member

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    [​IMG] [​IMG] How dare she!!!?!?!? That's not even funny to joak about.

    I bet she didn't seem that mean, did she? [​IMG]
     
  10. kwilkinson

    kwilkinson Senior member

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    I bet she didn't seem that mean, did she? [​IMG]

    No, she seemed so nice. But now I see why you two get along so well.[​IMG]
     
  11. mensimageconsultant

    mensimageconsultant Senior member

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    Good advice. Career/money is a nagging insecurity for me; I figured I'd be more settled and successful in my career at this point of life.

    I'm somewhere between 5'10 and 5'11. One of my college girlfriends was 6'1. Friends would ask me how I date a taller woman. They thought it should be issue. It never was. I'm fine with the height I am, and she was a good girl, so why not. I suppose I should look at this the same way.


    It's rare for women to date shorter men. (Probably not surprising to most readers.) Also, to address someone else's claim, it was in the news recently that men are more likely to cheat when the woman is the higher earner. Explanations were offered, but one that wasn't is that higher-earning women probably tend to be more superficial and therefore might be picking bad boys.
     
  12. Da Luis Vuitton Don

    Da Luis Vuitton Don Senior member

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    i would be inspired to make an equal or greater amount.good thing my current spouse lives off of me!!!!! [​IMG]
     
  13. Kajak

    Kajak Senior member

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    Can this be a MarkI pearody threak?
     
  14. acidboy

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    having her earn around the same money as I do means I can't offer her money to have sex with me anymore. [​IMG]
     
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    Depends on whether her friends/colleagues are total tossers.
     
  16. anxietyalways

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    I'm an auditor, so I make decent money, and am used to making more than the girls I date. However, the girl I am currently dating is a lawyer, makes more money than me, and it's actually a pretty big turn on.

    I didn't realize how great it was to date someone who was financially ambitious until I actually did it. Probably couldn't go back to dating a girl who made significantly less than me at this point. It's great to be in your mid 20s and, as a couple, easily take in over 6 figures.
     
  17. whiteslashasian

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    I'm an auditor, so I make decent money, and am used to making more than the girls I date. However, the girl I am currently dating is a lawyer, makes more money than me, and it's actually a pretty big turn on.

    I didn't realize how great it was to date someone who was financially ambitious until I actually did it. Probably couldn't go back to dating a girl who made significantly less than me at this point. It's great to be in your mid 20s and, as a couple, easily take in over 6 figures.


    Pretty similar here. Combined I think we make the old "fallback" SF salary.

    We haven't talked hard numbers but I think she takes home close to 50% more than I do.
     
  18. MrMonkey

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    Although it has never mattered to me (doesn't matter at all now, since I am married), however I have dated those that earn a significant amount more, and those that earn less. As long as neither is too concerned, it wouldn't ever be a problem.

    Just make sure your motivation is actually her, not the money else you would risk being labelled a free loader. As long as this is not the case, go for it!
     
  19. Allen

    Allen Senior member

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    I wouldn't really care, but it sounds awesome. Why not? In fact, I think it would be awesome to marry a woman who is independently wealthy and wealthy enough so I don't have to work either. Just think how much free time you'd have... That won't happen in a hurry, though [​IMG])
     
  20. nlakind

    nlakind Senior member

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    She was pretty
    She was smart
    she was witty
    Yeah she had charm
    Cupid shot me
    that's what got me down the aisle
    But that match made in heaven
    Went straight to hell
    Split up our possessions
    Put the house up for sale
    And I learned a lesson I won't be forgetting
    The next time around

    I'm gonna marry for money
    I'll be so damn rich it ain't funny
    I'm gonna have me a trust fund, yacht club, hot tub piece of the pie
    Find me a sweet sugar mama
    With a whole lot of zeros and commas
    Don't really care if she loves me
    She can even be ugly
    I'm gonna marry for money

    I won't have to love her family
    I won't have to like her friends
    and if it works out like I planned it,
    I won't ever have to work again

    Repeat Chorus

    Solo

    Y'all I'm gonna fly to Hawaii
    On a Lear Jet the old lady buys me
    I'll call her sweet heart & honey if she's a hundred and twenty
    I'm gonna marry for money...
    I dont care if she loves me
    She can be really ugly
    I'm gonna marry for money

    Oh, cha-ching mucho deniro
     

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