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Working as a private chef

Discussion in 'Social Life, Food & Drink, Travel' started by mgm9128, Jun 30, 2011.

  1. mgm9128

    mgm9128 Senior member

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    I was in NYC this past weekend, and I met a woman, recently widowed, in her 60's, who lives on the 30th floor of The Carlyle on Madison Avenue. We had a pleasant conversation, and after explaining who I am, and what I do, she offered me to come be her private chef. She splits her time between New York and Denver, and would like me to stay with her in her spare bedroom to act as her personal cook. We didn't discuss how much I would be paid, or any of the logistics of it, but I have her information, and she told me to give her a call if I was interested.

    It seems like a pretty good opportunity, for the time being, at least, since I don't wish to make cooking my career. And I think work as a private chef would be less hectic and demanding than work in an actual kitchen. I'd also be able to remain creative and in control, which is good.

    So, I have been thinking about it the past few days, and would like to get some opinions from others.
     
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    mgm9128 Senior member

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    I also should mention that this is the view from her apartment. [​IMG]
     
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    mgm9128 Senior member

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    In a "friend's mom" sort of way, she is a nice looking woman.
     
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    Figure out why her last chef left. You will be living with your boss, always a difficult situation, so make sure it has at least some chance of working out.

    Did you cook for her, or was the offer on the spot? If the latter, does she want you to do more than cook for her? Are you sure?
     
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    Rambo Senior member

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    What DO you do MM?
     
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    I've had a few relatives and a couple friends be personal assistants or chefs for individuals or families. When living separately the relationship always becomes intrusive, when together, sometimes life threatening.

    That said, I totally think you should do it and post the stories here.
     
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    I wouldn't think too much about it before getting an idea of the salary. I don't know what is standard in the industry, but it might be really low. Any time help is "live in" the salary is reduced considerably.
     
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    davesmith Senior member Affiliate Vendor

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    a few things.

    DO NOT get involved with her in a relationship way

    DO find out if she'll give you her credit card to go shopping in manhattan

    DO find out if she is really ill and soon you'll have to help her go to the bathroom
     
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    A guy who lives in my building is a private chef for some hedge funder. He said it gets boring and he misses the "kitchen".
     
  11. mgm9128

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    Figure out why her last chef left. You will be living with your boss, always a difficult situation, so make sure it has at least some chance of working out.
    How can I ascertain this in a graceful way?
    I keep some photos of the food I make on my phone, always thinking it may come in handy one day. We also had very good chemistry, and both share similar backgrounds, so working for her would be very pleasant, in my estimation. If she wants me to cook for her to test my food, I'd be more than happy to oblige.
     
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    it's a totally different ballgame than a restaurant job. remember that you'll be an employee and you're job will not be to cook what you think is delicious food, but to make her ideas delicious. and people who can afford private chefs tend to be a bit demanding.
     
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    do it. no questions. Pack your bags immediately.
     
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    What DO you do MM?
    ahem
     
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    How can I ascertain this in a graceful way?

    This is unlikely to be the first time she has had live-in staff. She realizes that this would be a very big commitment for you and so, just as she will no doubt check your references before giving you a key, you should just let her know that you are interested, but want to make sure it will be a good situation for you.

    You might also consider using the google to see if you can find out who has worked for her in the past. Might be surprised what you dig up.
     
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    an enormous strap-on and whips, once the dishes are done
     
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    I would go for it. As you said, you don't want to be a chef your whole life but cooking for someone who seems like they would be well connected could be a great asset for whatever you do in the future.
     
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    What DO you do MM?
    It's a good question. I will let you know when I find out for sure.
    it's a totally different ballgame than a restaurant job. remember that you'll be an employee and you're job will not be to cook what you think is delicious food, but to make her ideas delicious. and people who can afford private chefs tend to be a bit demanding.
    Yes, I've considered this. She seems to be willing to allow me to have creative control, she just told me what she does and does not eat. The point though is that, to me, this won't be like work--at least I hope it won't--because it's doing something I genuinely love to do.
    This is unlikely to be the first time she has had live-in staff. She realizes that this would be a very big commitment for you and so, just as she will no doubt check your references before giving you a key, you should just let her know that you are interested, but want to make sure it will be a good situation for you. You might also consider using the google to see if you can find out who has worked for her in the past. Might be surprised what you dig up.
    Yes. I have Googled her. The problem is she has a very generic name, and it's hard to search through all the results to actually find her.
     
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    The point though is that, to me, this won't be like work--at least I hope it won't--because it's doing something I genuinely love to do.

    anything, ANYTHING you're getting paid to do on demand becomes work. and this is coming from a guy who has been a music critic and a restaurant critic.
     
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    ojfc

    Also, it is an awful job, from what I know.
     

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