Why do americans never say 'goodbye' when hanging up the phone?

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  1. Patrician

    Patrician Senior member

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    Now, I might be wrong or this might only happen in movies (?!), but why do Americans never say 'good bye' when hanging up the phone?

    - Hi john.
    - Hi mark.
    - bla bla bla.
    - bla bla bla.
    - So, I gotta go.
    - Yeah me too.
    *click*

    I mean, this can come off as kind of rude, don't you think? But on the other hand, if no one does it, why bother, right? So, why is this?
     
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    I have the opposite problem with friends. None of us has it in us to hang up on one another.
     
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    Now, I might be wrong or this might only happen in movies (?!), but why do Americans never say 'good bye' when hanging up the phone?

    - Hi john.
    - Hi mark.
    - bla bla bla.
    - bla bla bla.
    - So, I gotta go.
    - Yeah me too, but I'll talk to you later.
    *click*

    I mean, this can come off as kind of rude, don't you think? But on the other hand, if no one does it, why bother, right? So, why is this?


    My friends all say some form of goodbye. I have no idea what you're talking about.

    I have the opposite problem with friends. None of us has it in us to hang up on one another.

    [​IMG]
     
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    As long as my exit theme music has begun playing, the "good bye" just seems kind of redundant.
     
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    sho'nuff grrrrrrrr!!

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    i always say bye. or 'k bye' or 'k..gotta go..bye' 'ok later' depends on who i am talking to.
    and vice versa.

    anyone who hangs up the phone without saying some sort of salutation is deemed by me as some sort of a jerk. so no, i dont get this often as the OP claims.
     
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    I dont think Ive ever uttered the words "Good Bye" in any situation with any person and dont recall anyone ever saying that to me. Sounds WAY to formal and kind of final, like your last good bye or something.

    Its always:
    Bye
    See ya later
    Take it easy
    Talk to you soon
    Adios
    Have a good one
    Tell your mom I said whats up
    Later
    etc...
     
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    That's just movies and TV.
     
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    Now, I might be wrong or this might only happen in movies (?!), but why do Americans never say 'good bye' when hanging up the phone?

    - Hi john.
    - Hi mark.
    - bla bla bla.
    - bla bla bla.
    - So, I gotta go.
    - Yeah me too, but I'll talk to you later.
    *click*

    I mean, this can come off as kind of rude, don't you think? But on the other hand, if no one does it, why bother, right? So, why is this?


    I always end the conversation with some variation on "goodbye." In fact, I've joked with friends about the fact that people in movies never use any form of the term.

    What has me curious is whether you judge all cultures by what you see in movies.
     
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    I always say later. When I do say goodbye it is because it really is goodbye. [​IMG]
     
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    Thomas Senior member

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    oh, crap: 12,634 posts and I've never finished one with 'good=bye".

    I hope you'll all forgive me

    l8r
     
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    I dont think Ive ever uttered the words "Good Bye" in any situation with any person and dont recall anyone ever saying that to me. Sounds WAY to formal and kind of final, like your last good bye or something.

    Its always:
    Bye
    See ya later
    Take it easy
    Talk to you soon
    Adios
    Have a good one
    Tell your mom I said whats up
    Later
    etc...

    Actually I was referring to any 'greeting' phrase, not just good bye.
     
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    Have you noticed this? Sometimes you'll get in a rut with they way you say goodbye. Do you find yourself using the same phrase over and over again with everybody? And you feel a little stupid, you know? Like if you're leaving a party and you have to say goodbye to 5 or 6 people in a row. And you say: "OK, hey, take it easy." "OK, hey, take it easy." "OK, hey, take it easy." "OK, hey, take it easy." "OK, hey, take it easy." You feel like a ******* moron. So you know what I do? Every month I change the way I say goodbye. Whether I need to or not, every month I start using a different phrase. People like that - they notice that little extra effort. They'll say to me, "Pardon me, but didn't you use to say, 'OK, hey, take it easy'?" and I say, "Yes I did, but not anymore." Now I say, "Farewell!" "Farewell till we meet again." "Peace be with you. May the forces of evil become confused on the way to your house." That's a strong one isn't? People will remember you if you talk like that. Or sometimes you can combine several ways to say goodbye that don't seem to go together. Like, "Toodleoo, go with God and don't take any wooden nickels." Then people don't know what the **** you're talking about. Or you can say goodbye in a realistic manner: "So long Steve. Don't let self-doubt interfere with your plans to improve your life." Now here's a situation you run into all the time. Do you notice how when you're leaving someone many times they'll give you a message to give to someone else? Like they'll say, "Give my love to Klaus." "Tell Klaus Rebecca sends her love." Do you mind that? Do you mind being used that way? Do you mind the awesome responsibility of having to carry Rebecca's love to Klaus? Suppose you don't see Klaus. What are you going to do with Rebecca's love? Carry it around? Give it to someone else, maybe: "Wilhelm, I can't find Klaus. Here's some of Rebecca's love." Suppose Wilhelm doesn't know Rebecca. Can he legally accept her love? Especially when it was intended for Klaus. Suppose you give Wilhelm Rebecca's love for Klaus and then you see Klaus, what are you going to give him? All you had was Rebecca's love and you've already gone and given that to Wilhelm. Can you logically ask Wilhelm to give back Rebecca's love to Klaus? Maybe he's gotten used to it by now. Can Klaus sue Wilhelm? Can Wilhelm be arrested? Can you be arrested for transporting love across a state line? Alright, just for the sake of argument, let's leave Wilhelm out of this altogether. Suppose Rebecca gives you her love to give to Klaus and you do see Klaus. What form should the love take? Can you risk giving Klaus a tongue kiss? Which brings up another problem: Maybe Klaus is gay. Klaus doesn't want Rebecca's love. Klaus wants Wilhelm's love! If Klaus tells you to give his love to Wilhelm, say, "Bull**** Klaus! You give your own love to Wilhelm. I'm going to find Rebecca." And sometimes people want you to take a hug and a kiss to someone for them. Now they've got you carrying cargo. "Give them a big hug and a kiss for me!" Usually it's women. I find that women are a little more expressive at times like these. And sometimes they're really explicit: "Bye, bye, Elena. Drive carefully. And give Jake a big ******* for me!" Well, why don't you have Klaus take care of that for you?
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    I always end the conversation with some variation on "goodbye." In fact, I've joked with friends about the fact that people in movies never use any form of the term.

    What has me curious is whether you judge all cultures by what you see in movies.

    Certainly not, just seems typical for lazy Americans. [​IMG]
     
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    Now, I might be wrong or this might only happen in movies (?!), but why do Americans never say 'good bye' when hanging up the phone?

    - Hi john.
    - Hi mark.
    - bla bla bla.
    - bla bla bla.
    - So, I gotta go.
    - Yeah me too, but I'll talk to you later.
    *click*

    I mean, this can come off as kind of rude, don't you think? But on the other hand, if no one does it, why bother, right? So, why is this?


    Actually I was referring to any 'greeting' phrase, not just good bye.

    "talk to you later" is just that. It's a form of goodbye.
     
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    Patrician Senior member

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    "talk to you later" is just that. It's a form of goodbye.
    Haha you're right, bad example. I'll fix that. edit:fixed.
     

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