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Who do  you dress for?

Lydia

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I dress for all the fashionable people I don't know, whose opinion doesn't matter, and whom I would probably hate if we ever met.

But, I never see anyone fashionable anyway, so I've barely showered or shaven over the last couple of months.
 

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I suppose I dress for myself and for the compliments I get from my wife and co-workers.

Unfortunately, it's a dangerous road because once you've established yourself as the stylish guy at work and in life, you have to constantly dress nicely. If I were to just throw on a pair of ill-fitting pants and an ugly wrinkled shirt, people would assume there was something wrong with me or my marriage...

Bradford
 

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I dress because of original sin. Getting Kiton to do bespoke in figleaves was a bear.
 

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I think there's a divide between those single (who may still concern themselves with the opinions of others) and those long married (who dress for themselves). My wife has no interest in my clothes (only in hers). It's easier to have your own separate financial resources for purchases-you really don't want to have discuss each purchase with your spouse.
when I was single my friends used to push me to dress down for dates, I would go out from work in a suit and I was a little "intimidating". I did adopt a more casual uniform for dating - I would usually wear a tee shirt and a solid color 3 botton dark suit - but I am happy that I found my wife, who likes the way that I dress.
 

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I'm a stay at home dad, but I still dress for my 'work'. When my wife comes home I want to present her with a hot meal, a clean house, two happy kids, and a nice clean well dressed husband. This was particularly hard for the first 6 months with each of the children and its only been since the second was over a year old that I've been getting where I want to be as far as dressing. Of course, the dinner, the clean house and the happy kids were and still are the priorities over my personal appearance.
 

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Familyman - that's real work :) More men need to bust that whole stereotype... Having done the single parent thing I respect ya.

As to my dress it depends but I definately find myself looking for any/all good excuses to wear ties. My tastes have expanded a great deal over the past few years. Back when I was in business attire every day it was conservative bordering on stuffy, now I figure I can get away with wearing whatever I want. I'm not successful enough to be considered eccentric yet but I am slowly crossing over into being 'one of those creative types'.

All in all I'd say I dress 30% for me, 70% for Jill. Jill has a major fabric fetish and I get hugged more wearing cashmere - easy call.

...For those attending in New York I apologize in advance, I promise she is fondling your suit and not harassing you.
 

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Familyman - that's real work :)  More men need to bust that whole stereotype...  Having done the single parent thing I respect ya.
Absolutely. I know two men who are stay-at-home dads (they resume other activities when their wife comes home and takes over).
 

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Hmmm, who do I dress for?

When outfitting my wardrobe, I often ask "would this article violate a sartorial tenet and how best can my expression be seen within "˜that frame?" After all, dressing is an art is it not? Thus, I dress rules first and self second.
 

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I dress for myself, with respect for the time of day, circumstances or occassion.

My wife doesn't know what it costs but I know she has a general idea. She assumes that any trip I take to New York or London is for a fitting.

Of course, I do sneak fittings in from time to time.

Will
 

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She assumes that any trip I take to New York or London is for a fitting.
Heh. I have the same problem. "Dear, I know the ticket says Heathrow, but I'm really going to Minsk. It's just a layover. Honest."
 

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Myself - I don't think anyone else cares really. At best, my lovely wife is mildly amused by my eccentricities, but for the most part she tries to ignore them (exception; ascots - those she openly dislikes).

My work colleagues are mostly dressed by their wives - and it shows. I've been working in banking for the majority of my career and I am amazed at how poorly my contemporaries have always dressed (even before business casual). I recall a thread several weeks ago that discussed how New York investment bankers (and Wall Street in general) dressed. In my experience, most dressed far below the standards espoused on this forum. Off the rack $500 suits paired up with a Hermes tie (purchased by girlfriend) and their one and only pair of black AE Park Avenue cap toes (polished once a quarter when they happened to be in the office at the same time the shoe shine guy made his rounds). As our careers progressed, the endless hours of working, traveling and eating calorie laden meals (when most people are experiencing REM) take their toll producing an ever expanding waist line. Thus, the $500 suit is replaced by an off the rack $800 suit. The tie is still Hermes (purchased by woman formerly known as girlfriend - since promoted to wife) and the shoes are the same unpolished (but worn out) pair of Park Avenues.

Case in point; yesterday evening I had dinner with a friend of mine. He is the number 1 ranked equity analyst in his sector and region (not disclosed). As we were waiting to be seated I noticed two things about his appearance; his terribly wrinkled suit has missing buttons on each sleeve and his shoes - unpolished Park Avenues - had flattened toe boxes, curled up to point of being classified as elf issue. This is a man whose insight and intelligence I respect greatly. But the simple truth is he just doesn't care about his clothes.

So does it matter to me that many people consider sartorial dress a 19th century costume that adds nothing of substance?

No.

I dress the way I do because I have my own standards - eccentric as some may be.
 

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Unfortunately, it's a dangerous road because once you've established yourself as the stylish guy at work and in life, you have to constantly dress nicely. If I were to just throw on a pair of ill-fitting pants and an ugly wrinkled shirt, people would assume there was something wrong with me or my marriage...

Bradford
So true. (Except for the marriage part; I am terminally unattached...) However, these are two crosses I am happy to bear for the moment.
 

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