When should I call her? - Help SF!

[Anonymouss]

Hey SF, I can't think of anyone else on the internet who can better help me with my current dilemma.

So I met this girl last night while I was out getting a late night burrito with some friends (I'm a university student). We instantly hit it off, and I invited her to come back to a party my friends house that we were heading too.

On the way over, I learned that this girl lives one floor above me, not sure how I didn't meet her until now.

Because it was already pretty late when the got there, the party winded down within an hour or so, and we decided to walk back to our building together. We stopped on the front steps and talked for like an hour. Then she asked me if I wanted to crash or to "come up and watch like a movie or something with me".

"Golden" I thought.

To make a long story short, we didn't really watch the movie, but we didn't go all the way either. She said she didn't want to sleep with a guy she had only met a few hours earlier. In retrospect, I'm probably glad she said that

Anyways, we said goodbye at like 6:30am, and I made it back downstairs. So, when do I call her? I don't want to look too eager, but on the other hand we really hit it off, and I would love to see her again soon. Help guys!

 

[CDFS]

You know I used to wait two days to call anybody, but now it's like everyone in town waits two days. So I think three days is kind of money.

 

[otc]

wait a few more hours and then go up there with a sack of condoms in one hand and a pump-bottle of lube in the other...probably pull ********* out for effect.

inform her that it is ok to sleep with you now because a few hours have turned into 24 hours which is a day.

 

[ter1413]



wait a few more hours and then go up there with a sack of condoms in one hand and a pump-bottle of lube in the other...probably pull ********* out for effect.

inform her that it is ok to sleep with you now because a few hours have turned into 24 hours which is a day.

don't forget some suds...

 

[Anonymouss]

Haha alright guys, Thanks for the advice.

Tuesday night is sounding like the winner

 

[otc]



Haha alright guys, Thanks for the advice.

Tuesday night is sounding like the winner

tuesday? no man, ******* call her whenever you want. Do you like this girl? if yes, then don't play games. It could backfire if you've got nothing to talk about or something, but otherwise there would be nothing wrong with a call or a text right now. Tuesday means you either really aren't that interested or you are playing some stupid game...you're a college student so its not like you are too busy to call. You could call and arrange to meet up again...but schedule that for tuesday if you aren't in a hurry or have other plans already. You went home with this girl and spent the night (and it sounds like you would have done the nasty if she had asked)...why on earth wouldn't you be fine calling her whenever? Its not like this is some acquaintance you met at a gathering and got a phone number from.

 

[drmmr]

+1, don't wait to call her wtf.

 

[randallr]

I agree. Don't wait. This question makes me think you aren't the stud you want us to think you are. I spent the night every night for an entire month at my gf's apartment after I met her. It was awesome getting action on the reg like that.

 

[Nil]

The best thing about youngins these days is that texts usually suffice and are less formal than calling, so that whole waiting period thing doesn't matter. Give it a day or two then shoot one her way.

 

[Anonymouss]

I agree. Don't wait. This question makes me think you aren't the stud you want us to think you are. I spent the night every night for an entire month at my gf's apartment after I met her. It was awesome getting action on the reg like that.

I'm not trying to make myself sound like a stud. This is my freshman year, and although I certainly had a solid and female filled highschool career, my experience with same-night semi-drunken hookups is almost zero.

The best thing about youngins these days is that texts usually suffice and are less formal than calling, so that whole waiting period thing doesn't matter. Give it a day or two then shoot one her way.

Dropped her a text earlier tonight, we chatted for a little while. Although almost every text she sent me sounded pretty flirty, she didn't jump on my hints of getting together tonight.

All in all, I have a pretty good feeling about all this, I really like this girl, maybe I'll see if I can get in touch with her tomorrow evening.




Also, I'm a little drunk right now, so please excuse my typing/explanations.

 

[Sazerac]



Dropped her a text earlier tonight, we chatted for a little while. Although almost every text she sent me sounded pretty flirty, she didn't jump on my hints of getting together tonight. 

Didn't jump on your hints? Try simply stating -- on the phone, not in an SMS -- that you want to get together. It's called being a grown man.

I don't mean to harsh on you, but women hate passive guys. If you want to get together, say so.

 

[Anonymouss]

Alright, I'll call her later this afternoon and be more straight-up.

Don't worry about being harsh, I came here for advice, my internet thick-skin is on.

I've always been a pretty shy guy, and moving from a small town to the city for school is already a bit of a culture shock for me.

Didn't jump on your hints? Try simply stating -- on the phone, not in an SMS -- that you want to get together. It's called being a grown man.

I don't mean to harsh on you, but women hate passive guys. If you want to get together, say so.

 

[billsayers]

You should be fine if you call her on today. You already made contact via text yesterday so it will not seem out of place.

Just be casual when you ask to meet up...when I was in college, my most successful lines were "a few friends and I are going to XYZ for dinner, want to come with?" or "thinking about heading to the library for a few hours, want to join me?"

Good luck and enjoy your college experience...it only gets harder to meet girls as you get older.

 

[randallr]



You should be fine if you call her on today. You already made contact via text yesterday so it will not seem out of place.

Just be casual when you ask to meet up...when I was in college, my most successful lines were "a few friends and I are going to XYZ for dinner, want to come with?" or "thinking about heading to the library for a few hours, want to join me?"

Good luck and enjoy your college experience...it only gets harder to meet girls as you get older.

Mine were "I really can't sleep with you because you're dating this guy I'm kinda friends with. On second though, if you insist." IF you don't believe me ask Edwin.

@Anon...Give us deets. Rip it up.

 

[Xericx]

yeah, should have called her mid afternoon to "grab a drink" later on that night.

that 2 day rule is only for new women you met cold, you've already warmed up to her.