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What was your big break?

Discussion in 'Business, Careers & Education' started by therussian, Jul 4, 2011.

  1. smartxtai

    smartxtai Member

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    The reason why I am thinking about my career kinda harshly from the start is that I have never thought about it before. i was always in the mentality of go to college, get a job. i did that, i got a job, it just feels wrong that i don't have a next step of planned action and the sooner i come up with something and know where i want to be headed, the less likely i would be one of those million people of mediocrity.

    You're on the right track. Keep thinking about what you want in life, then decide a career path that will provide you the necessary knowledge to get there. Don't let your career dictate your future. Rather, let your desired future dictate your career.
     
  2. Lord-Barrington

    Lord-Barrington Senior member

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    SF Rule #234: If you don't accept your current role in life, you're a self-entitled complainer. Our lives suck and so should yours.
    Says the guy who wants to start a private equity fund out of thin air once he graduates from business school. The OP wanted real advice and he's getting some. If you have anything substantial to add, please feel free to do so.
     
  3. Lord-Barrington

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    I wouldn't say Ive always muddled through life slightly below average. I rocked high school, but that was just cause it was easy - i was lucky that i got accepted to the school i went to based on the fact i didn't play any sports and wasn't involved in any clubs (bullshit like that).

    When i got to college i got frustrated with my school because i realized that 90% of my classes were impossibly hard just to be hard. I didn't accept the trade off of studying for countless hours just to do a little better, and with that free time and mentality came a, much different lifestyle [​IMG]

    The reason why I am thinking about my career kinda harshly from the start is that I have never thought about it before. i was always in the mentality of go to college, get a job. i did that, i got a job, it just feels wrong that i don't have a next step of planned action and the sooner i come up with something and know where i want to be headed, the less likely i would be one of those million people of mediocrity. Also, a smart man once told me engineering is too much work for the pay, which i didn't want to believe when he told me it, but i am definitely starting to see it.

    I would still like to get an MBA eventually, it is just seeming less realistic. I would be ecstatic if I could go back to the school i took my undergrad at for a MBA (a top 10 B school as well or up there considering what type you want...) but that probably wont happen

    I've just always felt a pressure from my parents and family to succeed, which to them means make money. Although being an engineer and topping out at 100-120 a year, salary, isn't bad. My dad likes to remind me i could be doing better, i could be making more, on a daily basis. Even though my parents and all my aunts and uncles immigrated here and don't have an education, and out of my cousins and siblings I am the youngest one who went to the best school who is already doing better than most of them. i don't want to sound like i only care because of my dad, he just does a great job of satisfying the annoyance role, i am doing it mostly for myself.

    i guess i am not very familiar with the whole career path, corporate America scene because i have never been exposed to it by family or people i know, just like college i am forced to figure it all out myself with little guidance on reality. i don't want to sound like im whining by saying that, there were just a lot of things about college that would of made a big difference if i knew them coming in, not figuring them out 2-3 years after i started, so i am trying to soak up as much information as i can right now for i can reduce the possibility of feeling the same way about my career.


    SF is full of educated people who are living in quiet agony because they feel that they should be doing more/earning more/living more than they currently are. It's a depressing current that runs through these forums but it really does go with the demographic. SF is populated by mostly successful and smart people and these are the types who are rarely happy with their lot in life.

    My best advice would be to continue to strive for achievement in your professional life but try as hard as possible to figure out what success is for you. Success shouldn't be about pleasing your parents or swinging your cock around at your next high school reunion. I think for most people true success is a mix of professional achievement, personal satisfaction and time to pursue hobbies and interests. If that's not you, then I can't help you. But most people, when they really forget about external pressures like pleasing their parents and keeping up with the Jones's, often come back to a definition of success that is about balance.
     
  4. newinny

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  5. Lord-Barrington

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    Bark bark bark. Shut the f*ck up. You ruin these forums with your negativity. The post your referring to was a curious question about how people start PE funds in emerging markets and there was a brief discussion = the point of online forums. What's your incredible business background that allows you to crap on every business/MBA thread?
    Suck my balls, loser. You criticize me for being negative after I give this guy what any normal human being would probably recognize as pretty sound, realistic, and sympathetic advice. If you want to keep beating off in the mirror over your high flying dreams of capital, be my guest. But quit coming into threads and crapping on anyone who is trying to give level headed advice. I still can't believe you actually started a thread on a fashion forum about how to raise a PE fund and you're coming in here like you know shit. Moron.
     
  6. newinny

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  7. Lord-Barrington

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    Ah the ol' why create an intelligent thread on a fashion forum chestnut. Must be zingers like that that got you in your sh*tty business school. If you value this site so little, get lost.

    Business school? What the hell are you even talking about, twat?
     
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  9. Lord-Barrington

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    Given the volumes of advice you've given about MBA's I assumed you've gone. Given the quality of that advice, I assumed it was terrible.

    You're all over the place, man. Quit embarrassing yourself.
     
  10. Connemara

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    To answer the OP, my big break was finding a mentor who changed the way I approached my career and is directly responsible for my current success.
    Huh [​IMG]
     
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  12. Lord-Barrington

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    This brawl has sidetracked the thread. I'm done with it.

    I stand by the advice I gave. I think it's good advice and I hope the OP will take it to heart.
     

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