What do you do if your tailor tells you you're fat?

Discussion in 'Classic Menswear' started by mjHession, Oct 14, 2009.

  1. mjHession

    mjHession Senior member

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    This one is for some laughs, as well as some advice. I recently decided I wanted to find a better tailor in my area (30 min north of Philly). I find about this guy Joe Centofani, he seems to be regarded as the best around here on SF, so I go in there and I think it's his daughter who probably about mid 40's, tells me im too young to be this big (im 24 and wear a 48r). I told her that i have lost some weight a few years ago, but have sat where im at for a while now. I was about 350lbs, now around 260. She doesn't take the time to even pin my sleeves at the same length, joe noticed this though and pointed it out to her, then when I was leaving she says (maybe as a joke) i only need to loose 40 more pounds to look good in a suit. Should I go somewhere else or just deal with her comments? Sure I know i'm fat, but i don't need her telling me. Also I want to build a relationship with my tailor, not sure how that will happen with her. Thoughts? Edit: Rather then have this in the middle and most not read it I've added this here maybe it will get seen. Post #71; Update: I called the tailor today, and spoke with him directly, He was at first very short with me, and told me to call back when his daughter came in. I think it is the norm for him to pass off smaller ordeals to her. After thinking for a bit I called back and told him that I was displeased that he wouldn't even hear my question and told him I was just going to come in and pick up my coat (it is a morning coat for my wedding needed to be let out and inch turns out there is no material to let out) and I said I would just pick up and get my other two coats while I was their if you don't want to work with me I'll jsut take my business elsewhere. When I got there it was like I was in a whole different shop. The daughter approached me, I told her I was there to pick up my coat, she said i think dad wants to talk to you. He had me try on each jacket, spoke in detail to me about what adjustments could be made for each one, and what was probably worth doing and what was not. Then he had me try on the morning coat, gave me a few suggestions, 1 putting in a bigger lining and stretching the wool, 2 leaving the coat unbuttoned as that would probably look okay, 3 getting a piece of cloth from the manufacturer and adding a seam to the back or one to each side, I called the manufacturer and they have left over cloth from these coats, they are going to send me some free I just have t pay for shipping and he is going to make it fit right. Also the women remeasured the sleeves on the two coats i was leaving there and spent much greater time and effort in getting them right, asking me what I thought each time, and making slight adjustments a few times till they were right spot on. Very satisfied now. Not sure if I hit a bad day, or what but I am super satisfied now. Note: I am working on loosing weight, but since I already have a future wife it's not the biggest concern of mine. Slow and steady. Again maybe the AT will knock off a few inches, we'll see next summer.
     
  2. sho'nuff

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    if you took offense then go somewhere else, if it dont bother you too much try her back later when you do lose more weight. ive had people tell me straight out that i m fat and i dont mind i dont like it when people sugar coat it like i think i dont know and it would hurt my feelings.
     
  3. GBR

    GBR Senior member

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    Go somewhere else and tell the cow why you are. Put her well in her place as a servant not a close friend able to make such comments as if one would anyway.
     
  4. pdial

    pdial Senior member

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    Tell them to go f*ck off. If someone at any other business said that to me I tell them the same. I don't think the fact that its a tailor should make any difference.
     
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    Eh, I'd probably appreciate that kind of candor. She may be on to something...
     
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    unjung Senior member

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    You'd prefer your tailor lie to you? Unless you're in the NFL, or are 6'8", you're fat.
     
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    intent Senior member

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    Obligatory "Is she hot"?
     
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    You'd prefer your tailor lie to you? Unless you're in the NFL, or are 6'8", you're fat.

    This was his first time in the store and he didn't even solicit her opinions on his weight. Aside from that, it wasn't the tailor who told you you're fat, just his assistant, correct?

    In any case, if you don't care what the hell she thinks then don't worry about it, especially since the place comes recommended by SFers.
     
  9. David Reeves

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    That's awful! What is that all about?!
     
  10. wetnose

    wetnose Senior member

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    The truth hurts.

    Deal with it, lose the weight and you'll be a better man for it.
     
  11. texas_jack

    texas_jack Senior member

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    My tailors have suggested such things but not on the first meeting. Then again, I'm not near as big as you.
     
  12. Twotone

    Twotone Senior member

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    "And you miss, are ugly. But, with a bit of exercise and diet I will soon be thin."

    Twotone
     
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    "And you miss, are ugly. But, with a bit of exercise and diet I will soon be thin."

    Twotone


    Going Churchill always works.
     
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    I do not see the point of rudeness in a business transaction.

    If you were a perfect 40, you will be less likely to go bespoke.
     
  15. mafoofan

    mafoofan THE FOO Dubiously Honored

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    This all sounds odd. However, I don't think it's necessarily out-of-line for a tailor to comment on your physique--the subject is central to the service he provides.
     

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