What differentiates a friend from an acquaintance?

[CDFS]

Originally Posted by Hombre Secreto

Right.

I know I'm right.

 

[Hombre Secreto]

Originally Posted by CDFS

I know I'm right.

You know nothing.

 

[CDFS]

Originally Posted by Hombre Secreto

You know nothing.

Do you even have siblings?

 

[Hombre Secreto]

Originally Posted by CDFS

Do you even have siblings?

Nine

 

[CDFS]

Originally Posted by Hombre Secreto

Nine

Ah. I only have two (brothers). Perhaps that's why they feel special and unlike friends. It's not so much that I have stronger feelings for my brothers, but different.

 

[Hombre Secreto]

Originally Posted by CDFS

Ah. I only have two (brothers). Perhaps that's why they feel special and unlike friends. It's not so much that I have stronger feelings for my brothers, but different.

I haven't met like half my siblings.

Anyways like a sibling, I would never abandon a true friend. To me at least 3 people I know transcend family blood lines. To me a friendship is something really exclusive, and a sacred thing like a family.

 

[Blackhood]

I would buy a friend a beer. I would not buy an acquaintance a beer.

 

[ektaylor]

Originally Posted by Blackhood

I would buy a friend a beer. I would not buy an acquaintance a beer.

What about vodka?

 

[ConcernedParent]

Originally Posted by ektaylor

What about vodka?

That costs even more.

 

[CDFS]

Originally Posted by Hombre Secreto

I haven't met like half my siblings. Anyways like a sibling, I would never abandon a true friend. To me at least 3 people I know transcend family blood lines. To me a friendship is something really exclusive, and a sacred thing like a family.
While I don't want to be (perceived as) an ass, there seems some contradiction there, buddy.

I'm with you on the exclusive and sacred part. But to me friendship can be sundered, as has happened in the past with childhood friends without much drama, but brothers are brothers.

 

[Hombre Secreto]

Originally Posted by CDFS

While I don't want to be (perceived as an) ass, there seems some contradiction there, buddy.

I'm with you on the exclusive and sacred part. But to me friendship can be sundered, as has happened in the past with childhood friends without much drama, but brothers are brothers.

My father has kids in different states, and different countries, and I will just leave it at that.

No one forces you to be friends with anyone. The bond is made by two people, and isn't forged by birth. I don't see why you have to be automatically blood related to truly care, and love another being.

 

[CDFS]

Originally Posted by Hombre Secreto

My father has kids in different states, and different countries, and I will just leave it at that. No one forces you to be friends with anyone. The bond is made by two people, and isn't forged by birth. I don't see why you have to be automatically blood related to truly care, and love another being.
I guess we misunderstood eachother. I didn't mean that at all. To me, the relationship between siblings feels unlike those with friends in a similar way that my relationship with my parents feels different than those with my friends. Or perhaps as my relationship with my GF feels different. About twelve years ago I came to live with a landlady of then 87. Last year she was 98 and all that time we became and stayed friends which mostly consisted of me visiting and drinking lots of coffee while we talked about life. She wasn't my grandmother though...

 

[Hombre Secreto]

Originally Posted by CDFS

I guess we misunderstood eachother. I didn't mean that at all. To me, the relationship between siblings feels unlike those with friends in a similar way that my relationship with my parents feels different than those with my friends. Or perhaps as my relationship with my GF feels different.

About twelve years ago I came to live with a landlady of then 87. Last year she was 98 and all that time we became and stayed friends which mostly consisted of me visiting and drinking lots of coffee while we talked about life.

She wasn't my grandmother though...

That can seem like an acquaintance to some, but a friend to you. That's why in my first post I mentioned that it was hard to answer the OP's question because of the feelings involved in different individuals.

 

[CDFS]

Originally Posted by Hombre Secreto

That can seem like an acquaintance to some, but a friend to you. That's why in my first post I mentioned that it was hard to answer the OP's question because of the feelings involved in different individuals.

If you mean from the outside, you're probably right.

I think the difference with friends and acquaintances is in part effort. One should be prepared to put in some and before one does you're not friends although when you become friends you may say you where friends all along.

Effort can be as little as setting up a meeting/playdate.

On the other hand friendship is not a given with effort.

 

[Joffrey]

I consider someone a friend once I start confiding in them. Some friends I confide in a lot more, others less.