I wish I had some suggestions for you - I was and am horrible around people I do not know. It was a minor miracle I met my wife. I'll give you this though; I think you may get a lot of good ideas if you just ask your female friends. Get as many opinions as possible, separate out the chaff and go for it. No use going for ever with this and then always have the nagging "what if" feeling... P.s. I agree with CTGuy; take any - reasonable - excuse to start a conversation.