Persephone
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I quite agree that there is very little you can do if you are a part of the wedding party except attempt to educate the groom. I know only too well that most men consider all clothing decisions to be the realm of women, and often couldn't care less what they are wearing. I used to help plan a formal ball back in England, and was frequently tasked with the ungrateful job of enforcing the dress code in what is generally a far more formal and traditional culture.
My response mostly addressed the groom whose initial post requested advice regarding attire for his attendants, and who claimed that the wedding is all about the bride. I am a woman, and my emphatic response to this assertion is: NO! It is a ceremony that involves the couple, their respective families and friends, not just the bride.
+1 for the most part.
I definitely agree that men should be more involved in these things. The problem is when you are a groomsman and the groom just outsources everything to his fiancee and doesn't have a lot of knowledge about these traditions and how formal dress is supposed to work. The average guy in the U.S. or most other countries is probably not going to disagree with what his wife wants on something like what the groomsmen should wear and you can only do so much. People on this forum are an exception, but you have very little control over things when you are in the wedding party and not the guy getting married. I'd bet most of the guys here who are bothered by having to rent a tux when they own a better one would never agree to wear a rented tux to their own future wedding.
I quite agree that there is very little you can do if you are a part of the wedding party except attempt to educate the groom. I know only too well that most men consider all clothing decisions to be the realm of women, and often couldn't care less what they are wearing. I used to help plan a formal ball back in England, and was frequently tasked with the ungrateful job of enforcing the dress code in what is generally a far more formal and traditional culture.
My response mostly addressed the groom whose initial post requested advice regarding attire for his attendants, and who claimed that the wedding is all about the bride. I am a woman, and my emphatic response to this assertion is: NO! It is a ceremony that involves the couple, their respective families and friends, not just the bride.