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Wedding planning update: Please help me convince my fiancee that my groomsmen do not have to be carb

Discussion in 'Classic Menswear' started by quaker13, Nov 15, 2012.

  1. CesarC

    CesarC Senior member

    Aug 17, 2012
    greater Philadelphia area
    Wow, I am surprised (sort of) by the back-and-forths on this thread. FWIW, my gf and I have discussed this sort of thing on our own and it turns out that *I* am the only one who has been planning a wedding for decades, and that she has some sticking points but that generally it would be mostly my planning... Not saying that's the case here, but on SF in particular I'm not sure how general stereotypes apply, since I doubt most men pay so much attention to sartorial detail as we do.

    Anyway, for my contribution, some photos from a friend's wedding. Terrible photos, mind you, but similar styling of suits with white shirt and differently colored accessories seemed to do the trick. Not exactly what the OP was looking for, but something to help, I should hope.


    Edit: Just saw that the fiance was ok with different-colored ties, so I guess maybe I can reenforce that point? Though technically these are flowers, not squares.
    Last edited: Nov 27, 2012
  2. E TF

    E TF Senior member

    May 29, 2011
    Herts, U.K.

    Ironically, matching ties and different suits would almost certainly look better than matching suits and different ties. When I have been a groomsman in the past, I've had this once or twice - the groom has taken us all out for lunch and bought us ties (once they were all matching, once they were all the same colour, but with subtly different textures and patterns). That looked fine imo. Why don't you suggest that as a compromise? ie. let them wear their own suits but buy them all nice ties that match or nearly match?
  3. bigasahouse

    bigasahouse Senior member

    Mar 9, 2009

    That's the one! Thanks!

    From Manton:

    "I suppose this is good a place as any to make a point that needs to be made. There is no need for the groom, his best man, and his ushers to match in every respect from neck to toe. In fact, it looks silly. Take a look at pictures from very elegant weddings in prior years, and you see that in fact the wedding party does not match.


    Among its other problems, all-matching wedding parties just scream “rented clothes!” Certainly if the dress code is morning coat, then everyone in the party should wear a morning coat. But shirt, tie, vest, etc., can and should all be a little different. After all, we men are not robots."


    Nov 10, 2012
    If the bridesmaids dresses do not match exactly the groomsmen should not have to either....But you might be able to do "coordinating"
    Is it black tie? Do you have any other color options besides purple?
  5. Tatano

    Tatano Member

    Mar 15, 2012
    Well, after reading through this thread I thought I'd chime in with my 0.02

    When I got married, I had a bespoke tux made. White with black pants. Casablanca was my inspiration. Although the pocket square was black.

    My groomsmen did not all wear the SAME outfit (same suit from same store), but they were all required to wear a black tux with a black bow tie. (Tux's with Bowties) The result was great. It didn't look like one of those crappy rental weddings. There was uniformity but it was more 'natural' (if that makes any sense). Some bowties were different than others, some jackets were different than others. They were all wearing the same boutonniere to highlight that they were groomsmen.

    A wedding is a day that belongs entirely to the bride and the bridegroom. My groomsmen didn't look like circus puppets, but they also didn't get in the way of stealing any kind of spotlight from us. Normally that would sound eccentric, but this is the ONLY day where being eccentric simply just doesn't matter.

    I gave my wife free reign over whatever she wanted. But she respected me enough to understand that my groomsmen were just that...mine.

    Hope this helps.
  6. Tatano

    Tatano Member

    Mar 15, 2012
    Also, her bridesmaids also wore the same color, but different dresses.
  7. suits123

    suits123 Active Member

    Nov 30, 2012
    My wedding is this june. I am wearing a shadow stripe black suit, and my groomsmen are wearing dark grey. I think it looks better in pictures, but above all: you can actually tell who the groom is. If you see a picture or your a guest you don't know who the groom is until your actually standing at the alter. For the groomsmen pics you are done for if you don't know the couple.
  8. jawlz

    jawlz New Member

    Dec 4, 2012
    Have been lurking reading threads for some time, but finally posting. This is what we did for my wedding - my then-fiance and I picked out a tie and pocket square that was roughly the same color as the bridesmaids' dresses, bought one for each groomsmen and for myself, and then told my groomsmen to wear a suit between medium and light gray and a white shirt. It worked out fine, and even when one of the groomsmen showed up in a suit closer to tan than to gray, the whole party still looked good, and the unified ties and pocket squares kept everything with a cohesive look.
    Last edited: Dec 4, 2012

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