Wedding planning update: Please help me convince my fiancee that my groomsmen do not have to be carb

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  1. duggyald

    duggyald Senior member

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    I think it's ok to argue with your fiancee on a few matters, BUT when it comes to wedding details..give her your utmost support because whether you like it or not it is the bride who ultimately makes the decisions with this things. .well at least that's what happened with my wedding.
     
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    unbelragazzo Jewfro Dubiously Honored

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    Guys, seriously, go find your own thread to complain about your bridezillas who apparently would divorce you if you questioned their taste in rental tuxedos. OP claims to have a relationship with his fiancée wherein they actually talk about issues they disagree on and both care about, and then come to a decision together. Though this may seem foreign to you, let them do it their way and either help or gtfo.
     
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    Why not get married twice? Once your way, the other, hers. Everyone is happy.
     
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    tactical1 Senior member

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    I'm wondering if Unbelragazzo has ever been in a wedding.

    Obviously I don't know your fiance, but if she won't go for something like the photo of the gentlemen in gray suits with different ties, I just can't see how pressing this argument ends well. She sounds like a traditional girl, and tradition dictates uniformity.

    This is styleforum, where 1% of men - or less - anguish over buttonholes and other things the 99% never even notice. A bride to be in the 99% with a traditional vision is not "bridezilla."
     
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    unbelragazzo Jewfro Dubiously Honored

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    1) tradition does NOT dictate uniformity. It is a modern invention.

    2) I'm not married but I have been in weddings. But that is irrelevant. OP came here looking for help in showing his fiancée why this idea is a good one. Why not either provide that help or leave? Why give relationship counseling for a couple you don't know when you haven't been asked?
     
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    Claghorn Senior member Dubiously Honored

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    I'm engaged. I asked my fiance what she thought. She rolled her eyes and told me to get off StyleForum. But also added that I could do whatever I wanted with the groomsmen as long as it wasn't ridiculous (trusting my judgment...not just apathy on her part).

    The guy is trying to convince his wife-to-be to allow him to dress his groomsmen how he (or they) will. They clearly have a healthy relationship with open dialogue. I think we all agree that as far as style goes, the non-matching suits are a good thing. And since he isn't asking, "Hey, is debating with my fiance over the groomsmen's outfits a good idea?", we should stop trying to answer that question.

    OP, do you have pictures of the bridesmaids' dresses? Perhaps if SF got together and presented her with various tie and suit possibilities to match, it'll help your cause.
     
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    This is probably a loosing argument. But I think they key to this is convincing her the bridesmaids dont have to match. It wont look right if you have matching bridesmaid dresses and then mismatched groomsmen.

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    Also consider this above picture. It sould be hard to find one dress that fits all the different body styles well. The bridesmaids get to picl what they are comfortable with. For example the girl on the left has sleeves and most of the rest are sleeveless.
     
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    you will need a prenup if you plan to hang around @ Styeforum...congratulations!
     
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    I'm in a band that plays 6 or so weddings a year, so I've seen a lot of different approaches. I think the opposite works pretty well. Have everyone wear a suit and shirt that's more or less the same color and then have maybe one accessory that is all the same. I think the best thing is wear similar color (but not exactly the same) ties, but maybe all wear the same boutineer. That way it doesn't look like a high school prom court, but still a cohesive group of friends supporting their buddy in his wedding and marriage. Just my $0.02.
     
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    no she wants to go with purple, but she hasn't even found her dress let alone her BMs
     
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    It's a close up but it sort of illustrates the point, especially with the tie selection. Albeit, the braces are terrible.
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    Good luck! I'm doing the same for my wedding.

    - Chris
     
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    Went to a wedding last night - gents in non-matching charcoal suits, looked great.
     

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