Wedding planning update: Please help me convince my fiancee that my groomsmen do not have to be carb

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  1. quaker13

    quaker13 Senior member

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    As i get further and further into this wedding planning i am realizing how much i hate the idea of both the groomsmen and bridesmaids wearing the same dress and suit. my fiancee is putting up a fair bit of resistance to me pursuing this unorthodox measure, but i would appreciate any help the forum can give in the form of picture examples of not so matchy matchy groomsmen suit execution. i will be wearing a charcoal grey 3 piece via suit supply. i go in for measurement this weekend. the first link is the look i am going for the 2nd pic is the look i would hate my groomsmen to have

    http://www.nbc.com/the-tonight-show/video/jeremy-renner-part-1-72712/1411565/

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    unbelragazzo Jewfro Dubiously Honored

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    You are fighting the good fight, sir. I'd try to get a better fitting collar situation that JR has in that vid, and no black tie for your wedding, but you are on the right track.

    Don't have any pictures to help your cause, sorry. But I went to a friend's wedding last year where they just told the guys to wear grey 3 piece suits. I thought it looked great. When I google "wedding pictures" I just get a stream of matchy catastrophes like the one you have posted there.
     


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    thanks for the encouragement brother
     


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    Perhaps your girlfriend is a visual person that needs to see a picture of precisely what it is you are proposing? Simply proposing a "bring your own suit" look for the groomsmen does not sound great, but a picture of what you are proposing that has been well executed may get the job done for you.
     


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    unbelragazzo Jewfro Dubiously Honored

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    That's a great idea. If only the OP had thought of it.

     


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    i want each of my 3 groomsman to wear a charcoal grey suit and i will pick out the shirt and tie combo as part of my groomsmen's gift. maybe one person wears a solid purple tie and blue contrast collar shirt; another wears burgundy tie maybe with a paisely pocket square...etc. don't really have a specific motif yet
     


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    unbelragazzo Jewfro Dubiously Honored

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    I think I'd just go all white shirts.
     


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    If you are going to provide them with shirts as a gift, please do not just buy the shirts and hope they fit. You should go shopping with them to make sure they are getting the right size. A good fit is important to pulling this off well.
     


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    You're going to lose this argument regardless if you get what you want or not.

    It ain't your day, pal. You're a prop in the play she's been planning for decades. Resentment lasts a lifetime. Your groomsmen don't care and you need to learn to pick your fights better.

    Good luck with this.
     


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    unbelragazzo Jewfro Dubiously Honored

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    The Michael and Anna Costa Photography one has the right intent, if some sloppy details.
     


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    Maybe I am just an obstinate kinda guy, but I don't think it's fair for her complete takeover every aspect of OUR wedding. I think that makes for a bad precedent and in life you can't always get what you want. I am all about compromise, but I told before i proposed and after she is not getting total carte blanche of the weddding planning
     


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    This.
     


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    unbelragazzo Jewfro Dubiously Honored

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    Guys, I think we can try and help the OP in convincing his fiancee' that non-HS-prom-looking groomsmen is best for everyone without giving him relationship advice? Having never met the OP or his fiancee', let's leave that part to him.
     


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    Agreed.
     


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