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Wedding planning update: Please help me convince my fiancee that my groomsmen do not have to be carb

Discussion in 'Classic Menswear' started by quaker13, Nov 15, 2012.

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    quaker13 Senior member

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    As i get further and further into this wedding planning i am realizing how much i hate the idea of both the groomsmen and bridesmaids wearing the same dress and suit. my fiancee is putting up a fair bit of resistance to me pursuing this unorthodox measure, but i would appreciate any help the forum can give in the form of picture examples of not so matchy matchy groomsmen suit execution. i will be wearing a charcoal grey 3 piece via suit supply. i go in for measurement this weekend. the first link is the look i am going for the 2nd pic is the look i would hate my groomsmen to have

    http://www.nbc.com/the-tonight-show/video/jeremy-renner-part-1-72712/1411565/

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  2. unbelragazzo

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    You are fighting the good fight, sir. I'd try to get a better fitting collar situation that JR has in that vid, and no black tie for your wedding, but you are on the right track.

    Don't have any pictures to help your cause, sorry. But I went to a friend's wedding last year where they just told the guys to wear grey 3 piece suits. I thought it looked great. When I google "wedding pictures" I just get a stream of matchy catastrophes like the one you have posted there.
     
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    thanks for the encouragement brother
     
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    Perhaps your girlfriend is a visual person that needs to see a picture of precisely what it is you are proposing? Simply proposing a "bring your own suit" look for the groomsmen does not sound great, but a picture of what you are proposing that has been well executed may get the job done for you.
     
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    That's a great idea. If only the OP had thought of it.

     
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    i want each of my 3 groomsman to wear a charcoal grey suit and i will pick out the shirt and tie combo as part of my groomsmen's gift. maybe one person wears a solid purple tie and blue contrast collar shirt; another wears burgundy tie maybe with a paisely pocket square...etc. don't really have a specific motif yet
     
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    unbelragazzo Senior member Dubiously Honored

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    I think I'd just go all white shirts.
     
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    If you are going to provide them with shirts as a gift, please do not just buy the shirts and hope they fit. You should go shopping with them to make sure they are getting the right size. A good fit is important to pulling this off well.
     
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    You're going to lose this argument regardless if you get what you want or not.

    It ain't your day, pal. You're a prop in the play she's been planning for decades. Resentment lasts a lifetime. Your groomsmen don't care and you need to learn to pick your fights better.

    Good luck with this.
     
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    unbelragazzo Senior member Dubiously Honored

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    The Michael and Anna Costa Photography one has the right intent, if some sloppy details.
     
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    Maybe I am just an obstinate kinda guy, but I don't think it's fair for her complete takeover every aspect of OUR wedding. I think that makes for a bad precedent and in life you can't always get what you want. I am all about compromise, but I told before i proposed and after she is not getting total carte blanche of the weddding planning
     
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    This.
     
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    unbelragazzo Senior member Dubiously Honored

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    Guys, I think we can try and help the OP in convincing his fiancee' that non-HS-prom-looking groomsmen is best for everyone without giving him relationship advice? Having never met the OP or his fiancee', let's leave that part to him.
     
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    Agreed.
     
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    I think a couple of key points from the article you linked to about the mix and match craze...

    1. The author has seen good and bad...but when it's bad it's really bad.

    2. It's all about the accessories. Differentiate with ties, bow ties, socks, pocket squares, etc. Like Unbelragazzo said, sticking with white shirts may be best. Most of the pictures in the article seem to work off a white shirt.

    It's one thing to mix and match with your groomsmen, but don't forget about coordinating them with the bridesmaids as well. Imagine how it will look in a photo with the ENTIRE bridal party in it. Will it look cohesive? Or just appear as if nicely dressed people were pulled off the street. When you've both agreed on a primary color theme for the wedding perhaps work the outfits around that color and allow for some complementary colors in the accessories.

    Best of luck to you.
     
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    unbelragazzo Senior member Dubiously Honored

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    It should look exactly like nicely dressed people were pulled off the street. Or rather, that nicely dressed people came together for an important and celebratory occasion that wasn't stage managed to the last detail. But, basically like people pulled off the street who are having a great time and happy to be there.
     
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    When I finish making and enjoying dinner I am going to have so much fun with this.....
     
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    thanks in advance
     

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