Wedding Gift Etiquette

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  1. ter1413

    ter1413 Senior member

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    Exactly.

    I met the couple on a wknd trip to Boston. She had known them for years. We met for dinner/drinks with some other friends and half way through the night the bride to be asks me...."So are you coming with X to our wedding?" I didn't know what to say.

    X gets the official invite about a month later(she already had a save the date notice) and we just started planning. Wedding was in Sept. I met them in April/May. I had never been to London and we made the most if it.

    X arranged the gifts from the both of us. Really nice stuff. I didn;t know the couple at all...really. But it was a great trip/wedding and one of the best vacations I ever had.
     
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  2. mafoofan

    mafoofan THE FOO Dubiously Honored

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    You forgot: jar of pickles conspicuously missing a pickle.
     
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  3. gomestar

    gomestar Super Yelper

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    speaking of pickles, I found out that my father in law is a pickle fanatic. I made him a bunch of big batches of pickles, each a different flavor. He ate all of them in like a week, and then bought more cucumbers to re-use the brine.

    I scored there.
     


  4. ter1413

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    You ever check out The Pickle Guys on Essex St? They make some good stuff. All types...
     


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    I'm Chinese. For several recent weddings of cousins, I have given the couple a check in the amount of $188.88. Feels like about the right amount, with some nice symbolism (8 being a lucky number in the Chinese culture). So I agree with the above posts that $200 is a good ballpark figure to start. Add or subtract depending on how you feel about the couple.
     


  6. mafoofan

    mafoofan THE FOO Dubiously Honored

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    I don't know where this $200 number comes from. For some situations it has to be too little, and for others too much.
     


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    ter1413 Senior member

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    ^^
    That's why it is prob a good number.
     


  8. mafoofan

    mafoofan THE FOO Dubiously Honored

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    You could say the same thing about any other number as well.
     


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    ter1413 Senior member

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    But you say that for some situations, $200 is too much. And some $200 is not enough. Why so?
     
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    mafoofan THE FOO Dubiously Honored

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    Does this really require explanation? Among other things, expectations and means play a big role.
     


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    Ok. Miscommunication.
    The $200 number was thrown out there but obviously it goes up and down based on means.

    Re expectations....I disagree. If a married couple is "expecting" to receive some serious "bank" at their wedding....join the fucking mob.
    Guests are there to help you celebrate...not to provide a down payment for a house(or furnish one.)
     


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    ter1413 Senior member

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    If pB was a multimillionaire(maybe he is), then he may feel that $10K is "standard."
    If he isn't, he may feel that $200 is about right/too much or too little. But that $200 number may be right in his wheelhouse without having to think about it too much.
     


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    mafoofan THE FOO Dubiously Honored

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    If he was a starving college student, $200 might be way too much. The point is that $200 is a totally arbitrary benchmark. It might as well be $20, $50, or $1,000.
     
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    But he isn't. The $200 number is for pB based on this thread.

    Again, obviously, a starving student may only be able to give $20 or $50. The thread got sidetracked, but that $200 number was based on pB(for the most part.)
     


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    My $200 suggestion was in direct response to pB and my general expectations of his current situation. Not a poor college student.

    Edit. ter beat me to it
     
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