Wedding band advice

[stanwelks]

I'm getting married and need to get a wedding band. I've never worn a ring, and am not too fond of the idea, though she wants me to wear one.

Can anyone provide any suggestions? I will not wear yellow gold or diamonds.

Thanks.

 

[pvrhye]

Why? A wedding band is a perfectly masculine thing. Hell, it's one of the few nice accessories men can wear. Wear it proudly.

 

[Gibonius]

It's slightly annoying for a week or two, then your brain blocks it out and you don't even notice it. I enjoy wearing one, a visible sign of the marriage. I find myself fiddling with it on occasion and smile, reminds me of the wife in a context that I wouldn't have thought of her otherwise.

I have a yellow gold and platinum mokume gane ring. It's a woodgrain pattern, fairly subtle. I wanted something different and settled on this. 6mm width, could have gone wider and I certainly wouldn't go narrower.

I don't really see why people worry about weight, one of the selling points for titanium is the lightness. Even gold or platinum is only a few ounces, and it's right at the base of your finger. You really don't notice the weight at all. Nothing wrong with titanium, just find them a bit pedestrian. Gold has been the classic for jewelry for millenia for a reason.

Platinum is pretty reasonably priced compared to gold these days. You can beat it up pretty good too.

 

[ThatGuy]

Be original and get yellow gold

Everyone thesedays detests yellow gold for some reason. They are all opting for white/ rose gold or platinum.

Don't know your budget, but get something more interesting than a plain band.

 

[Klobber]

White gold or platinum then. Nuff Zed.

 

[pvrhye]

Originally Posted by ThatGuy

Be original and get yellow gold

Everyone thesedays detests yellow gold for some reason. They are all opting for white/ rose gold or platinum.

Don't know your budget, but get something more interesting than a plain band.

Probably because people like to match their metals and don't wanna go gold on everything else.

 

[b.boris52]

White gold

 

[Not Ed Harris]

I've got a 5mm plain court ring in palladium. It's a bit cheaper than white gold and to the untrained eye, pretty undistinguishable.

It might seem a bit cheap of me, but we were going through a bit of a bad patch financially in the run-up to the wedding and it was a sacrifice I was happy to make. It certainly doesn't mean any less to me than if I did go for white gold. If you're interested, the wife has her grandmother's platinum wedding band.

It is a little odd at first, but you soon get used to it. The problem is, if you take it off to do messy things, remembering to put it back on.

Another tip. Titanium is fine, but apparently it's possible to get tungsten carbide rings. They're pretty much indestructible, which may seem good but if you're in an accident and they need to cut off your ring to save your finger they might have issues with that.

 

[Leaves]

People have been wearing yellow gold wedding bands for thousands of years. This white gold thing is going to pass. Yellow gold will always be "El Classico".

I think a wedding ring looks very masculine if it's just a plain ring with no bling bling. I can see your aversion to diamonds, I would never wear diamonds myself. Maybe when I become Emperor of the World though. I would wear a gigantic diamond crown and call it the Peace Maker. But I think this might be a few years away.

 

[graymerica]

I looked all over the place for a wedding band, and finally bought a plain platinum comfort fit (rounded edge) band from amazon.

It was 1/3 the price of anything at a local jewelry store. I had it appraised locally and they confirmed that it was platinum. Platinum is the way to go. Gold is too soft. Tungsten and Titanium is too hard and can not be cut off your finger if it swells. (you could lose your finger)

It gets a dull patina and will match anything.

I like simple stuff and I was not going to pay full retail for something that basic. The amazon one was identical to the local ones.

Let your wife wear diamonds, get a band that is plain and that you do not need insurance on. If you lose it, you can just go back to amazon and get another one.

 

[ter1413]

Originally Posted by Klobber

White gold or platinum then. Nuff Zed.

+1

 

[culverwood]

Yellow gold and discrete.

I have one which is squared off so that it does not irritate the two adjacent fingers, it may be unnecessary but it works for me.

 

[mic]

Originally Posted by Not Ed Harris

Another tip. Titanium is fine, but apparently it's possible to get tungsten carbide rings. They're pretty much indestructible, which may seem good but if you're in an accident and they need to cut off your ring to save your finger they might have issues with that.

True this! I've had to cut rings off on 2 occasions. It isn't an issue with any other material I'm aware of.

 

[dah328]

Originally Posted by graymerica

It was 1/3 the price of anything at a local jewelry store. I had it appraised locally and they confirmed that it was platinum. Platinum is the way to go. Gold is too soft. Tungsten and Titanium is too hard and can not be cut off your finger if it swells. (you could lose your finger)
Both tungsten and titanium can be cut. Either is a good choice for an inexpensive wedding band.

 

[Wolfador]

I had a Tungsten band for about a year and my wife had a white gold ring, however she is allergic to most metals and we kept having to get it coated so it would not cause her to break out.

So about a year ago we both got tattoo's instead of rings. Just a simple V XXV (5-25 for our anniversary)

They are just on the top of the ring finger and mine can easily be covered by my actual ring if I need it to be.