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Turning points, the bar exam, etc.

Discussion in 'Social Life, Food & Drink, Travel' started by CTGuy, Jun 29, 2006.

  1. Dakota rube

    Dakota rube Senior member

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    My turning point was when I finally realized to stop worrying about things over which I have no control. It changed my life. Took 51 years and 3 days, but it changed my life.
     


  2. alflauren

    alflauren Senior member

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    I've been a lawyer for two years. I'm also 26. Both the advice about not getting stuck in a rut and also about figuring out exactly what you want to do is very important.

    When I left school, the legal job market was tight but starting to pick up. I took the first thing that came along even though I had no interest in actually doing it. Now I'm spinning my wheels at a firm, doing things that pay the bills but not much else.

    A new attorney needs to be particular about the first job that they take. One MAJOR piece of information that I wish I knew when I started is that what ever your first job is, it completely brands you for life. I do litigation, and have tried to move into some transactional work, but it has been a nightmare. Even if you tell a firm that you will start at their base first year salary, they would rather have someone with no experience than one who has worked in another field.

    So, here I am...two years in and stuck. My solution is business school. I'm applying to MBA programs this fall.

    Best of luck with the bar exam!
     


  3. Mr. Pink

    Mr. Pink Senior member

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    reuben: Here's the Lennon quote:

    Life is just what happens to you,
    While your busy making other plans


    I'm not sure I care for the "to you" but I suppose it's accurate.
     


  4. Matt

    Matt [email protected]

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    my personal experience is that life has a way of snowballing for the better.

    i still think back to how crestfallen I was after graduating in Australia, stuck working in retail in Adelaide - a city I hated, selling suits in a department store and unable to crack a real job.

    I was devastated to miss out on a PR job in local government - and if I had gotten it, fuck, Id still be living in the same suburb I hated growing up.

    Eventually I just kicked my own ass, went to Melbourne following a woman who is now my ex but still a friend, and my life kinda started then. Had some huge setbacks, learned from them, and always ended up better for them.

    Good luck with the bar CT, and if you want to immerse yourself in post study sin, United flies here from the US with but a short Jantzen break in HK, and the first beer or 10 is on me.
     


  5. javyn

    javyn Senior member

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    I'm working on becoming a really good paralegal. That way I can make the same amount as a crappy lawyer, but get to go home at 5 every day instead of 9 or later.
     


  6. DNW

    DNW Senior member

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    my personal experience is that life has a way of snowballing for the better.

    I don't think anyone gets a lifetime of shit luck. If you keep bouncing back from your failures often enough, lady luck is bound to reward you.
     


  7. CTGuy

    CTGuy Made Guy

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    RJ: The lawyer comments are spot on. I can totally see it and I would likely put myself with one foot in that category. Probably like many lawyers though (and law students) I do not see myself as totally adhering to the classic lawyer mold. Going to law school for me was a combination of ending up back in Hartford after I graduated, working a shitty job in insurance and what I see as a strange oedipal approval seeking thing since my Dad (who was an attorney) died in college.

    Whether law school was the best fit for me- I just cannot really say. There is a lot about what I have done as a part time clerk that makes me think practicing I will be a good attorney, but there is plenty about law school that has served mostly as a learning experience in terms of what my major shortcomings are. I'm objective, hardworking, good with people, knowledgable on a wide range of subjects, and generally pretty humble in terms of doing busy work when it needs to be done. On my weak side- I am not terribly well organized- big picture is frequently more important to me, and I keep a lot of things in my head instead of on paper, which does not appear to be the best trait for an attorney.

    Taking the bar right now, I think my ideal job would be something that gave me the potential to learn the legal side of business or simply a business so that down the line I could do something more entreprenuerial. While I would definitely do the Big Law or even Medium Law thing right now to pay the bills, realistically I can't see myself doing it for the rest of my career and being happy. RJ is on point with respect to how law school fits into things with my life view- I went to law school because I knew I wanted something bigger and better, but I didn't know what or how, but since I was an opinionated, young bookworm, I went to law school.

    I suppose my questions have a lot to do with coming out of school for the first time and maybe making some decent money, feeling mildly secure, and feeling like there are options out there in terms of what I want to do with my life.
     


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    odoreater Senior member

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    Tomorrow is going to be one of those life-changing days for me.
     


  9. skalogre

    skalogre Senior member

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    Tomorrow is going to be one of those life-changing days for me.

    Uh oh. Good luck (whatever it is)
     


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    Uh oh. Good luck (whatever it is)

    Changed my mind. Decided that changing my life 2 weeks before the bar exam probably isn't a good idea.
     


  11. tiger02

    tiger02 Militarist

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    Changed my mind. Decided that changing my life 2 weeks before the bar exam probably isn't a good idea.
    Don't let the man keep you down. Trannys are more accepted than ever. Go for it!
     


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    Don't let the man keep you down. Trannys are more accepted than ever. Go for it!

    Trannys don't wear EG shoes! [​IMG]
     


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    Quirk Senior member

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    Changed my mind. Decided that changing my life 2 weeks before the bar exam probably isn't a good idea.

    Buy the ring now. Ask her after you pass.

    Hey, you're making us guess, here...
     


  14. odoreater

    odoreater Senior member

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    Buy the ring now. Ask her after you pass.

    Hey, you're making us guess, here...


    Already bought the ring...
     


  15. skalogre

    skalogre Senior member

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    Don't let the man keep you down. Trannys are more accepted than ever. Go for it!

    ROTFL

    (not that there is anything wrong with that)
     


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