I don't know the OP personally, but maybe he doesn't have anyone to go to about it. It's not like this is the first thread that has involved personal grieving (although not as serious as this situation) on SF. It's NOT the first time... it's one of MANY times. I fundamentally think that they are problematic and dangerous for the OP's of those threads, just like asking for medical advice, ("My arm just fell off. Should I see a doctor?) If he has no one to talk to, FIND SOMEONE in his life who can help or who knows him. A priest, psychologist, other family member, even a support group. Human beings in times of real grief need someone who can address their real situations and issues in person. We as SFers on teh interwebz cannot... and thus, should not. The OP is more valuable than that; his mother was more valuable than that.