I was kidding huntsman, just getting a little tired of his endless insistence that his life is a failure since he does not have every aspect figured out by 30. I meet ppl pretty regularly that seemingly switched gears very late in their career to have it turn out very well. Drive and a passion for success seem to often outweigh all else. The inferiority complex is completely unwarranted and it's probably what is isolating him from others. No one wants to heat about how big a failure someone is on a regular basis, and that goes 10 fold if you are actually a success.