RAN1989
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Hello all!
I've been a lurker on this site on and off for the past 5 years or so.
To keep my life story short(sh):
I'm 27 and gearing up for my MBA next year in Manhattan/NYC. I didn't grow up with money, didn't grow up cultured, but my parents put a lot of stress on education so I was fortunate enough to attend some good schools. I spent the majority of my 20's partying, sleeping around, getting fat, not saving a dime, racking up debt, and jumping from job to job. This past year or so has been the most crucial in setting me up in my career and the rest of my life. Now that I know exactly what I want to do and am heading to school for it, I've started mapping out my goals and taking life a bit more seriously. I've been hitting the gym, moved back home to save up and pay off debt, I've been reading a lot more and going out a lot less. Alongside this, I've been trying to make a lot of small changes to my image, behavior, and the way I carry myself so that I stand out professionally and socially. I'm naturally a people person and good looking dude, but still have plenty of faults. I need to dress better, communicate more efficiently, gain A LOT more confidence and stop worrying all the damn time, increase my knowledge base, and become a bit more disciplined among many other things.
So for any of you who have gone through a similar journey of "reinventing" one self, what things and tips did you receive/do that were most transforming in making you the best version of yourself?
Here are a few of the many questions I have for you distinguished gentlemen:
1. How did you gain the confidence to really not give a !@$# what people think about you and to just go after what you want?
2. What are some wardrobe essentials that I need to pick up as I head to big boy world in the Big Apple? (Suit Supply or Indochino? - How many suits do I need? Shirts?, etc.)
3. How did you become a relentless and hard worker?
4. Have you ever had to cut a good friend because you felt like they didn't add any value to your life and was only holding you back? How'd it go? What did you tell him/her?
5. What is the most important thing you learned about people as you went through this transformation?
6. Daily routine that keeps you moving and motivated/centered?
7. Was there any breakthrough experience of "Ah ha!" moment that was eye-opening and shifted your perspective on life?
Bonus Question: What are your thoughts on dating and marriage? (I ask this because as I get older, it seems like more of a possibility that I might end up either unmarried or going the Derek Jeter route...)
Feel free to answer any of the questions above or just give me your own advice. It is all very much appreciated! Thank you!
I've been a lurker on this site on and off for the past 5 years or so.
To keep my life story short(sh):
I'm 27 and gearing up for my MBA next year in Manhattan/NYC. I didn't grow up with money, didn't grow up cultured, but my parents put a lot of stress on education so I was fortunate enough to attend some good schools. I spent the majority of my 20's partying, sleeping around, getting fat, not saving a dime, racking up debt, and jumping from job to job. This past year or so has been the most crucial in setting me up in my career and the rest of my life. Now that I know exactly what I want to do and am heading to school for it, I've started mapping out my goals and taking life a bit more seriously. I've been hitting the gym, moved back home to save up and pay off debt, I've been reading a lot more and going out a lot less. Alongside this, I've been trying to make a lot of small changes to my image, behavior, and the way I carry myself so that I stand out professionally and socially. I'm naturally a people person and good looking dude, but still have plenty of faults. I need to dress better, communicate more efficiently, gain A LOT more confidence and stop worrying all the damn time, increase my knowledge base, and become a bit more disciplined among many other things.
So for any of you who have gone through a similar journey of "reinventing" one self, what things and tips did you receive/do that were most transforming in making you the best version of yourself?
Here are a few of the many questions I have for you distinguished gentlemen:
1. How did you gain the confidence to really not give a !@$# what people think about you and to just go after what you want?
2. What are some wardrobe essentials that I need to pick up as I head to big boy world in the Big Apple? (Suit Supply or Indochino? - How many suits do I need? Shirts?, etc.)
3. How did you become a relentless and hard worker?
4. Have you ever had to cut a good friend because you felt like they didn't add any value to your life and was only holding you back? How'd it go? What did you tell him/her?
5. What is the most important thing you learned about people as you went through this transformation?
6. Daily routine that keeps you moving and motivated/centered?
7. Was there any breakthrough experience of "Ah ha!" moment that was eye-opening and shifted your perspective on life?
Bonus Question: What are your thoughts on dating and marriage? (I ask this because as I get older, it seems like more of a possibility that I might end up either unmarried or going the Derek Jeter route...)
Feel free to answer any of the questions above or just give me your own advice. It is all very much appreciated! Thank you!