^ sorry to derail ^^ these ^^^ and also what gibonus said, but i missed the multi quote. imo there is no way a relationship can last long term without each person have some independent time to themselves, and the mutual respect that the other party may need some head clearing time before they can launch into interaction of any substance. especially after work. also, there are things my wife enjoys that i dont, and visa versa. its important to allow your SO to be able enjoy and pursue their interests even if you dont share them. and its important for them to accept that you may not share that interest and do have to partake in it. allowing each other to retain some independence and not forgo hobbies and interests goes a long way to a happy sustainable longterm relationship.