Thoughts on buying holiday gift for new (wonderful) girlfriend

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  1. Cognacad

    Cognacad Senior member

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    Hi all,

    I have been with my new girlfriend since early October. I honestly think she is the one.

    I want to give her a great gift(s) for the holidays. Jewellery is not out of the question. I could buy a few smaller gifts as well. I am not looking to spend more than 200-250$ or so, perhaps preferably less since its still somewhat early. I am currently a (funded) doctoral student, so I don't have a lot of coin, but I don't want to be cheap either.

    Simple things like going out to supper, a nice card, and some wine etc. are a given and will happen regardless of the big gift.

    Some gifts such as a nice cashmere scarf are pretty standard and good, but if you do suggest something like that, I would appreciate a specific brand/kind :)

    Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated!

    P.S. I bought some nice pearl earrings for my ex last year, so I won't be going down that road!

    EDIT: Thanks everyone, bought her some nice earrings/bracelet. Will go down well I'm certain.
     
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    acidboy Senior member

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    anything in a tiffany blue box?
     
  3. Cognacad

    Cognacad Senior member

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    It is my impression that tiffany is very overpriced and also would be more than the amount I specified?
     
  4. Lord-Barrington

    Lord-Barrington Senior member

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    Give her something simple but meaningful. Going all out after three months is the type of shit I did when I was 15. Be grown up about this, homie.
     
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    Cognacad Senior member

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    I am fine with that, but it is easier said than done getting something simple and meaningful (which I may do in addition). This is not what it was like when I was 15, and I think she will give me something quite nice as well, so I need to do the same.

    Edit: also, is 150-200$ "all out"? I am happy to spend less if I can get something nice.
     
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  6. Lord-Barrington

    Lord-Barrington Senior member

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    Depends how broke you are.

    All this depends on what your relationship is like. at this stage of the game, I hate to say it but you're still in the zone where you don't want to look desperate. If she's already head over heels for you and is going to buy you a Rolex for Christmas, then do whatever you want. But if she's still feeling you out, so to speak, tread lightly!
     
  7. Cognacad

    Cognacad Senior member

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    Thank you for the advice. We are beyond the zone where I need to worry about looking desperate or sealing the deal or anything like that. We are quite committed and serious about this and we have both had relationships in the past and have grown and matured because of them. I think I can dish out a decent gift. 100$ would do too, but like I said I am willing to go higher.

    Edit: I suppose I should clarify we have been seeing each other and talking and hour a day and seeing each other frequently since august, but a couple since october 7th or so.
     
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  8. Lord-Barrington

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    That's nothing. Your relationship is in its infancy. Just be cool.
     
  9. Cognacad

    Cognacad Senior member

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    I am cool, we are cool, everything is good. I appreciate the advice, thank you, but I am not looking so much for advice on our relationship status and such, no offence meant.

    I do appreciate that it is still early for most types of jewellery or to go all out, but I am well funded and money is not a huge concern for me. Maybe you are all right and I shouldn't go all out, but the matter still remains that I don't have any good suggestions! haha.
     
  10. patrick_b

    patrick_b Senior member

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    I wouldn't immediately count out the blue box from tiffany's. They have a sterling silver collection that's very reasonably priced and still carries the panache of tiffany's. You may run the risk of her seeing the tiffany box and immediately thinking, "holy shit, he got me a diamond!" then opening the box to see sterling silver. So you could preface the gift giving by informing her that you didn't go crazy, but thought she would love item x.

    http://m.tiffany.com/Shopping/Category.aspx?cid=288158&mcat=148204

    I'm with you, a couple hundred bucks sends a perfect message at your stage of the relationship and financial position (no offense intended, I just mean doctorate student). It's not going all out or being cheap.
     
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    What is a holiday gift?
     

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