Things That Are Bothering You, Got You All Hibbeldy-Jibbeldy, or just downright pissed, RIGHT NOW!

[Piobaire]

Good luck with all that. Seriously, hope it works out for you. Certain relationship topics are almost impossible to navigate without obtaining at least one scar and this would be one of them.

 

[double00]

Last week my oncol told me we should have more kids (assuming of course that my sperm are alive which is not a given) i told wifey but is water under bridge at this point. Good luck with it all

 

[jcman311]

Thats part of the risk of “1 more”. You can’t guarantee that. We went for 1 more and like @Numbernine , we had twins. I’m snipped now. If we want another, we’ll adopt.

 

[beargonefishing]

If you want another kid, PM me. I'll give SF members a good price.

 

[jcman311]

I got 4. 2 sounds so much better.

A lot of days zero sounds the best.

 

[beargonefishing]

A lot of days zero sounds the best.

I love my kids, always. Do I always like them? You could probably piece that answer together with my post history.

 

[brokencycle]

If you want another kid, PM me. I'll give SF members a good price.

How much are you paying to take one off your hands?

 

[Texasmade]

Mrs. UnF wants another baby. We have a great pair of kids and a perfect family and she thinks a third will be accretive to long-term happiness (in particular more grandkids). I think she’s probably right but there are certainly risks not to mention the financial considerations given the lifestyle we have chosen - eg private schools, nanny, etc.

The thing is no matter what we do, I’ve already lost in the short to medium term. If we stand pat she’s bummed. If we move forward she has to go through pregnancy which is no walk in the park.

Here’s the kicker: she isn’t fully committed either. She wants my agreement for her to further explore what she really wants.

So yeah, this doesn’t augur well.

 

[Omega Male]

Can not recommend. Boarding school is $65,500 a year, post tax. It adds up.

 

[brokencycle]

Can not recommend. Boarding school is $65,500 a year, post tax. It adds up.

Yikes. I wouldn't go that far to send a kid to boarding school, I think. A good private school around here is like $6k/yr.

Maybe that book is his side hustle so he can afford more kids. The incremental cost would be much lower for us if we lived in a house which can accommodate a larger family (to the standards my wife would want), sent our kids to public schools and had a stay at home parent. None of those things are true for my family - well except possibly the house thing. She is open to trying to have the kids share a room.

Yeah, take it with a grain of salt. He also argues that private school is generally a waste of money because genetics appears to be a far bigger factor, and twin/adoption studies show that those kinds of things matter far less than we think. The ones ranked highest are like $20k-30k/yr, though I wonder if that is more a prestige bias thing more than anything.

 

[edinatlanta]

A lot of days zero sounds the best.

It is. Future of the human race be damned.

 

[UnFacconable]

Yikes. I wouldn't go that far to send a kid to boarding school, I think. A good private school around here is like $6k/yr.


Yeah, take it with a grain of salt. He also argues that private school is generally a waste of money because genetics appears to be a far bigger factor, and twin/adoption studies show that those kinds of things matter far less than we think. The ones ranked highest are like $20k-30k/yr, though I wonder if that is more a prestige bias thing more than anything.

Yeah, this is a YMMV situation. The public school we were assigned was far from average. It was one of the worst in our city (a 1/10 rating in Greatschools for those familiar). From what I understand, the better public schools receive additional funding from parents to the tune of ~$3k per student per year to pay for supplies and additional teachers which isnt far off from private schools in your town.

As for private schools here, I'm not aware of any that charge as little as $6k. While there may be some prestige bias or premium, and we didn't look at every school under the sun, based on what we did see all of the private schools in our broader area (excluding some parochial schools) charge top dollar and price wasn't much of distinguishing factor.

 

[brokencycle]

Yeah, this is a YMMV situation. The public school we were assigned was far from average. It was one of the worst in our city (a 1/10 rating in Greatschools for those familiar). From what I understand, the better public schools receive additional funding from parents to the tune of ~$3k per student per year to pay for supplies and additional teachers which isnt far off from private schools in your town.

As for private schools here, I'm not aware of any that charge as little as $6k. While there may be some prestige bias or premium, and we didn't look at every school under the sun, based on what we did see all of the private schools in our broader area (excluding some parochial schools) charge top dollar and price wasn't much of distinguishing factor.

That's because everything is way more expensive out there.

I had a recruiter from a very well known tech company in the Bay Area reach out to me about a job. It sounds interesting, and I'm following up, but I don't know how they can pay me enough to not have a major lifestyle downgrade. To live the same amount of time to work, I would have to pay 8-10x what my current house is worth. Plus my state income tax rate would go up significantly.

 

[edinatlanta]

Yeah, this is a YMMV situation. The public school we were assigned was far from average. It was one of the worst in our city (a 1/10 rating in Greatschools for those familiar). From what I understand, the better public schools receive additional funding from parents to the tune of ~$3k per student per year to pay for supplies and additional teachers which isnt far off from private schools in your town.

As for private schools here, I'm not aware of any that charge as little as $6k. While there may be some prestige bias or premium, and we didn't look at every school under the sun, based on what we did see all of the private schools in our broader area (excluding some parochial schools) charge top dollar and price wasn't much of distinguishing factor.

Shoulda sent em to Catholic schools. They'd either be turned off religion forever or become (hopefully) pious like me.

Also, I swear you've posted way more than your count indicates.

 

[edinatlanta]

Finally breaking in new tiki mug. The painkiller is a bit off. But its actually dulling a really ****** week for me personally. Helping my parents company out with something and my mom throws me under a bus. Just like i dont want anything to ********** with them right now. I know shes a ****** manager because she doesn't really express what she wants or is thinking or generally handle things that are more than simple.

Anyway this was the mug for the tiki festival in Atlanta earlier this year. Couldn't make it but now i have the mug.