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Things That Are Bothering You, Got You All Hibbeldy-Jibbeldy, or just downright pissed, RIGHT NOW!

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by Bergdorf Goodwill, Feb 7, 2007.

  1. A Canuker

    A Canuker Senior member

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    Freaking car won't start. Hoping that it's just the battery or something but I dunno, waiting for AMA to answer the phone and come help me....arg.
     


  2. lasbar

    lasbar Senior member

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    Very true especially the enablers part of it...

    She is only acting like that because your parents allow her to do so..
     


  3. edinatlanta

    edinatlanta Senior member

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    Here's the thing. She acts that way toward everyone. I've seen it do it to her friends, to other family, to me. Its just who she is. The extent of my parents' "enabling: is letting her live at home. My mom had said a few weeks ago she was going to tell my sister she can't live here. Like, put it this way. I don't know what else she would do right now (in general) living-wise if my parents didn't let her move in. I mean, basically if your daughter is out of options, has no job and is just emotionally unstable, but not a drug user or doing anything illegal/dangerous, like IRDK what the best option is.

    I don't know what's going to happen to her. I would put even money on she moves/gets kicked out by April and is back home again by Christmas next year. Similar scenarios have played out but I kind of get the sense that my mom was excited to finally have an empty house after decades of raising children and having a 30+ year-old baby is not in the cards.
     


  4. lasbar

    lasbar Senior member

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    Friends will normally only allowed that type of behaviour for a while only...

    The Parents dilemma is different...

    She is their daughter and the emotional landscape is different...

    A mix of love,duty,guilt,sense of failure,disappointment,furstation is a complex cocktail to analize for the parents..
     


  5. Douglas

    Douglas Stupid ass member

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    where is piobaire's hands-up cat avatar?
     


  6. edinatlanta

    edinatlanta Senior member

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    FWIW, I'm more just venting on my end. I've got no compunction just telling her deuces. I just don't know what my parents will do.
     


  7. in stitches

    in stitches Kung Joo Moderator

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    t-bird. good words.
     


  8. Thomas

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    good call.

    Also: as long as her parents let her get away with it, she has no incentive to change.
     


  9. globetrotter

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    good luck, ed, that's rough. she sounds a lot like my sister.



    on a seperate note - I got together with my brother and his family for Christmas at a water park. it was fun, and we didn't have any blow ups, but I feel bad at how distant and different I have grown from my brother. my sister in law smokes a lot of pot, and my brother told me about it last year. so now every time she disappears for an hour or so, I know what she is doing. also, she smokes pot with her 17 year old daughter, literally a few times a day. my brother married a not terribly bright woman, and his kids aren't terribly bright, and it is hitting home now that he has not terribly bright kids, and I think it is very hard for him to internalize. anyway, it was a nice enough couple of days, but I feel bad for my brother, and I feel a little bad that I don't identify with my nieces very much. such is life
     


  10. why

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    My family is awesome. My father is the kind of guy that anyone is comfortable around. I swear people invite him to parties and events to guarantee that everyone will have a good time. My mother works hard and never made excuses for us when we were growing up and she came from a horrible situation and has helped her siblings get themselves out of it. My brothers are my best friends and our childhoods and teenage years are endless sources of jokes and stories. We all live far away from each other and even if we don't talk for months at a time we never feel distant. We listen to each other's advice, never get offended, and all of us would do nearly anything to help another out of a bad situation. :slayer:
     


  11. patrickBOOTH

    patrickBOOTH Senior member Dubiously Honored

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    I find your above post offensive. :nodding:
     


  12. in stitches

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    You know, there may be some merit to the idea of happier families being spread further apart. Not true for all families (as I know a few who defy this illogic) but still. I think I get along better with my cousin in England than I do with my brother 45 miles away.

    And I can feel the beginnings of a beer tasting binge, but the problem with this is that 1) I hardly drink these days. One glass of Le FIn du Monde would find me handing over the keys. , so b( I need someone to drink with so I can try more than one beer in an evening, but the wife has an even lower tolerance than I do. Also, (3 the folks I have drank with in the past month are either wine-drinkers or the Flavored-vodka types. So, perhaps I sit on my hands and wait for this to pass. *le sigh(
     
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    I need to get an anti-glare filter for my work monitor. I am directly below a huge fluorescent light and by 5:30 my eyes are totally shot.
     


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