Well, such is the nature of two people who are committed to a future together. Same here. Actually have one simmering at the moment. We had one just last week. Holidays, man. I may change your screen name to FedTex. Boston (no not really) My dad was pretty bad at times, just a ferocious temper - but you really had to push him. Some Mommie Dearest moments in my childhood, which I'm careful to avoid. BTW, since we're talking about relatives and the Holidays and Things Pissing You Off - I think Ive had quite enough of my younger brother. He didn't ruin Christmas for me, but he sure made it unpleasant for my parents, and I'm not about to have my daughter exposed to his shitty mood swings, petulance, entitled attitude, and anti-social avoidance. Fuck him. Incidentally, I was reminded of a comment from a friend about family being less a biological determination and more a matter of shared values and priorities. I kind of identified with that.