munch. firstly my heart goes out to your daughter who was all alone overnight. that must have been terribly frightening. she sounds very strong to be able to have gone through that and still be alright. i mean, i once called the cops in the middle of the day because i thought my parents left the house. they were in the back yard :facepalm, but that is a story for another day. seconly, you totally did the right thing and taking all the punishment from the mom even though you were in the right 100% without flying off the handle yourself is also quite commendable. obviously i dont have all the info, and this is not my call or even my business, and i know it would be very difficult to do this, but you should consider trying to get full custody for the sake of your daughter. it could get ugly and painful, but it seems that in the long run it will be for the best. as the mom seems in no way fit right now to raise a child. whatever you do, i hope you and your daughter get through this as unscathed as possible and that the mom finds and gets help sooner than later. best of luck my friend and my heart and thoughts are with you.