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The Significant Others of MC

Discussion in 'Classic Menswear' started by bourbonbasted, Aug 15, 2012.

  1. bourbonbasted

    bourbonbasted Senior member

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    We often take time here to talk about how our passion is received by the outside world. How many men instantly mark us as ghey, how many women find us "metro" (or something equally ridiculous), how people do not understand how we can spend so much time and money in the name of style, etc, etc. However, I'm interested to know how those closest to us view our interest in tailored men's clothing.

    Recently I started dating a girl who told me that she had never been drawn to a guy who wore tailored clothing before. She said generally suits were a turn-off to her and that she favored a much more relaxed, unstudied aesthetic when it came to what guys wear (read: "macho" sloppy). While she admits to liking my approach to dressing the more she sees it, it was weird for me to think that a girl would be turned off by a guy in tailored clothing. Especially considering every girl I've dated up to her has loved how much pride I take in getting dressed.

    I'm curious to know if anyone else has encountered a similar situation. I'm equally as curious to hear what other members' wives, girlfriends or even female friends think of their style. Do they think of it as a passion, a hobby, a guilty pleasure? Do they poke fun or encourage?

    Since so many people come here and inquire about how to get laid by dressing well or how to catch the eye of a woman through style, I think some discussion on how the women we know and/or sleep with perceive our tastes and interests is warranted. Discuss.
     
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  2. Calder

    Calder Senior member

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    Pretty much every woman I know likes the way I dress.

    The wierdest thing was having a lesbian ask me about my clothes. Turned out she was new to the area and wanted a reliable dry cleaner for *her* suits.
     
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  3. msulinski

    msulinski Senior member

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    I am a relatively recent convert to better dress, and my wife doesn't know what to think. She was the one who previously gave me fashion advice, and would typically dress me in monochrome (taupe suit, light beige shirt, medium beige tie, for example). Given that I have a medium to high contrast complexion, this didn't work at all. I have also had to disabuse her of the notion that we need to match when attending events together.

    I suppose, all told, she prefers my newer method of dress, but is slightly frustrated that she is unable to give me any advice, and has given up doing so.
     
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  4. Dewi

    Dewi Senior member

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    Yes.
     
  5. clapeyron

    clapeyron Senior member

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    I once dated a girl who didn't like the spalla camicia. dumped her on the spot. true story.
     
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  6. Jermyn

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    I once went on a couple of dates with a girl that pleaded with me not to 'dress so nicely' when seeing her. She said it made her uncomfortable. Needless to say, that one didn't last very long.

    Now my girlfriend is a model, she loves thrifting and has a healthy eBay business, selling her finds. She loves to get dressed up and she blogs about fashion. One day she started picking shoes out of my wardrobe as I was getting ready, saying "this one has oxford lacing, this boot is cordovan etc.". In exchange, I can now say that I know what peplum is and that I understand the concept of a halterneck top.

    The closest she comes to telling me what to wear, is helping me to pick out a pocket square or tie. She's usually right.

    Definite keeper.:bigstar:
     
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  7. TRINI

    TRINI Senior member

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    Sounds like an episode of How I met your Mother:

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  8. Threadbearer

    Threadbearer Senior member

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    Tell her, assertively, that you're wearing a wife-beater under your suit. She how she reacts to that.



    Mrs. Thread is both pleased and amused. I get compliments on how I look and gentle ribbing on how much I care about it.
     
  9. MarkThomas

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    Been married for 9 years and for the first several years my wife tried (to little avail) to reform my style (or lack thereof). Most of her suggestions were more on the fashion/trendy side of things rather than classic style. And why would I expect her to know classic men's style? We were in our early 20's and had little knowledge of anything, much less fine sartorial taste.

    Since then I've been slowly discovering better clothing (in both style and quality) and she loves it. She loves being on the arm of the best dressed guy in the room (which isn't difficult living in Denver, the flip-flop-cargo-shorts-affliction-shirt wearer's mecca). Seriously, you should see what people wear to weddings around here, it's a casual wasteland. My obsession does seem to consume my thoughts and conversation choice from time to time but she's very good at bringing me back down to earth gently.

    By the way, this is my first post on Styleforum. Glad to meet you all. Glad to be here. [​IMG]
     
  10. KObalto

    KObalto Senior member

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    You know thats not Italian for golden shower, right? :devil:

    My wife generally appreciates the way I dress, but occasionaly wonders why I can't wear a band tee shirt, jeans, and trainers to family parties like her cousins and brothers. And it's not like I'm wearing a suit to these events (sometimes a sport jacket depending on the event).
     
  11. FlyingMonkey

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    My wife expects me to be somewhat eccentric and I don't disappoint her. I think she wishes that I didn't have so many shoes though. She also has an very interesting wardrobe, but rarely wears most of the good stuff these days as we've gone from living in Toyko to an island in Hicksville, Ontario.
     
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    My wife just bitches about how much money I spend on my wardrobe. I've always been confident in the way I dress and my style and purchases continue to positively evolve with the help of SF and its members. And of course, my buddies always give me shit when they find out how much I spend...fuk 'em, they're just jealous. LMAO!
     
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  13. MarkThomas

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    Haha, the only band tees I have left are U2 tour shirts that I've bought at the concerts throughout the years. I was wearing one the other night before bed and she says: "Now there's the man I married." I told her I could quit the sartorialism at any time and go back to looking like a slub. She quickly declined the offer. hah
     
  14. HughJ

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    Welcome. :)

    My girlfriend shares my enthusiasm, but I do get some gentle ribbing when I'm being overly anal.And rightfully so LOL
     
  15. gavrarabba

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    Great topic. My wife loves me in a well tailored suit, like that Facebook thing going around that A finely Tailored Suit is to a Woman like Lingerie is to a Man. She just doesn't want me to talk about it. I'm all for nice clothes, a great pair of shoes, accesories etc. But there is something very unmanly about discussing it. It's ok to complement someone, but that's it - move on. I see my wife's point. Just look good and shut up (knowing you look good).
     
  16. Bounder

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    Nothing is universally attractive. And there is no doubt that tailored clothing is going to resonate much better with some women than others.

    But the real power of tailored clothing is that it gives you a wider range. This is, indeed, about as close as you can come to a universal babe-magnet. But you have to be able to do it right and this may require some sacrifices. The archetype here is, of course, James Bond.

    There are two guiding principles. The first is context. You need to be able to dress appropriately, both up and down. And yes, this may occasionally require you to dress as a "slob." But, and here is where the tailored clothing really comes in, you also need to be able to rev it up. So you wear the t-shirt, go to the family bbq and drink beer with the cousins. But the next night, you put on a suit and go to a good restaurant. As you will be much better dressed than most of the other patrons but still perfectly appropriate, you will own the room and get treated with a surprising amount of respect by the staff. Most women, for some reason, find this combination deeply attractive.

    The second principle is what I call the dog test. Suppose you are wearing a suit at a party and the family dog comes up to greet you. Let's say the greeting is on the enthusiastic side. What do you do?

    If the answer is, squat down and scratch him behind the ears while ignoring the dog hair, slobber and mud that you are getting all over your expensive suit, you pass. If the answer is shy away in horror, you fail. If the answer is shy away in horror while calling desperately for someone to control this animal, you fail and don't get to take the test again.

    If there is any universal principle here, it is that you own your clothes, the clothes don't own you. You use them for your own purposes. If wearing an old t-shirt is the right thing, that's what you do. If you need to scratch a dog while wearing a suit, that's what you do. This is why James Bond is James Bond and not an effete dandy.
     
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  17. KObalto

    KObalto Senior member

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    I think you just called all of us unmanly. :embar:
     
  18. gavrarabba

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    Nah, online forums is different than discussing it...not sure why but it is.
     
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    Welcome to the boards, Mark. Good story about you and the missus. Familiar story about how badly Americans dress. *Sigh*



    Hey, if the codpiece fits...

    :happy:
     
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    Jermyn Senior member

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    I like this
     

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