A thread for parenting questions (inspired by Globetrotter's question about the birthday party.) I would love some advice here: So, my 8-year-old boy comes home with his report card. His school sets grades as "Not good", "Good" or "Great" and there are around 20 categories being graded. He got 5 "Greats" and the rest as "Good". He comes home and the first thing he says is "look at my report card, I got 5 "Greats" so you should buy me a Ninendo Wii!" I exploded at him and told him that being mediocre is no reason for a present and he was going to have to try a lot harder then that. Then he fought back, in tears, saying that it is a good result because he is stupid and that is why he can't do any better. He admitted that some of his friends got better but some did worse and he thought it was as good as he can do because he had the same result last term. The idea of the Wii came because his friend was told he would get a Wii if he got 10 "greats" and he did. In truth he is a very bright kid but has attention problems and most of his negatives are attributable to him just not concentrating or making an effort. How to proceed to inspire him to do better? I don't really want to attach rewards or punishments to his report card but it seems that is what other parents do. Any thoughts?