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The hardest thing I've ever done...

Connemara

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I'm sure you're hurting, but keep reminding yourself that you just saved your balls from getting crushed in a vice. Good work.
 

skalogre

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Originally Posted by CTGuy
So sorry to hear that man. There's no way to goof on that situation.

Take care and remember that eventually it'll pass.


I agree. **** happens, but it will eventually pass.
 

FLMountainMan

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Originally Posted by Connemara
I'm sure you're hurting, but keep reminding yourself that you just saved your balls from getting crushed in a vice. Good work.

Isn't getting your balls crushed in a vice a typical Friday night for you?
 

Arethusa

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Originally Posted by Connemara
I'm sure you're hurting, but keep reminding yourself that you just saved your balls from getting crushed in a vice. Good work.
Says the boy who's never met this girl and never been in a relationship with any girl.
 

Eason

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Ah, good old SF, every thread turns into Conne-bashing
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Originally Posted by GoSurface
Probably even harder for her, seeing as her dreams have been shattered. Either way, its a difficult situation. I'm sure you'll both find ways to cope, and eventually get over it.

Really, I'm happy to be out of it, except I don't like to hurt other people. Thinking about how sad I made her is really the most depressing part of it, I'll want to pick up her calls, but it's just going to make it harder if I do.
 

Arethusa

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The one bit of advice I can give here is that, at least generally, I don't think avoiding her is necessary or even a good idea. Of course, it's complicated: your best friend breaks up with you, so you call your... best friend? A little distance is fine; just don't feel like not talking to her again is required or good. No matter how emotionally mature you are, you're still going to do dumb things here, and proximity isn't really the issue. Not saying you should listen to two hours of begging to get back together; but the other extreme isn't, I think, any better.
 

visionology

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Good move, you have to access your situation and make sure YOU are happy.

Me and my girl broke up after a 4 year long distance 2 years ago and it was the best thing that ever happened to me.

If it wasn't for that I wouldn't have reconnected with my old friends and I wouldn't have met my current girlfriend who I will propose to next year.

I am still in contact with my ex-we chat online every now and then just cordially to see how each other is doing. She says it was a big mistake breaking up with me but I assured her it was the right move. I try to stay friendly with as many people as possible because you never know what may happen down the road.
 

SoCal2NYC

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Originally Posted by Eason
was breaking up with my girlfriend of 3 years just now... she wanted to settle down and marry me... she begged and pleaded... she said she'd do anything. I had to let her go... Just wasn't happy with long distance, and I knew we were just too young. **** sucks.
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Off to the gay bars!


(that's you who goes to them, right?)
 

SoCal2NYC

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How long were you together before it turned into LD? My roomate started dating a girl like March of Sr. year of HS, we moved away to college that summer (3-3.5 hrs away) and they ended up staying together until the end of Jr. year. It sucked, it was such a drag on him because he felt tied down and pissed me off because I hated her and the **** she would pull about being apart.
 

Manny Calavera

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You've made a huge mistake.



















Not really. Chipper up, you did what you had to do.
 

dopey

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Originally Posted by Arethusa
The one bit of advice I can give here is that, at least generally, I don't think avoiding her is necessary or even a good idea. Of course, it's complicated: your best friend breaks up with you, so you call your... best friend? A little distance is fine; just don't feel like not talking to her again is required or good. No matter how emotionally mature you are, you're still going to do dumb things here, and proximity isn't really the issue. Not saying you should listen to two hours of begging to get back together; but the other extreme isn't, I think, any better.

Sounds like good advice. Don't be jerk, but make don't leave doors open just to be nice. This will be hard for her and the right thing to do is to help her move on. But not by making her think her ex-boyfriend is an ass. Kind, but firm is what is called for.
 

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