The embarassing sex question of the day...

Discussion in 'Health & Body' started by Bandwagonesque, Oct 21, 2006.

  1. skalogre

    skalogre Senior member

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    [​IMG]

    LOLZ LOLZ LOLZ....


    [​IMG] again!
     
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  3. Matt

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    OK Ill rerail this

    I was with a girl for about 4 years, lived together for the vast majority of that, was about your age at the time too, and we had similar issues toward the end.

    In our case it was basically a symptom of a situation where we had been together a long time, and had basically decided we didnt want to be together forever. I was the one who initiated that chat, and it hurt her a lot. But I think we were both feeling it.

    There was nothing actually wrong with the relationship, we were getting along fine, never fought, always pleasant, had active social lives and friends and all that kinda stuff, but we were just at this stage where it was like "what do you do when you have lived with someone this long, and dont want to make it permanent?" Do you just cruise along indefinitely cos its easier or do you hug each other and say "thanks for the ride"?

    In our case, we probably stayed together 4 or 5 months past our use by date, but eventually had the tough talk and wrapped it up. She was the one who initiated that chat, and it hurt me a lot. But I think we were both feeling it.

    We split up pretty amicably for all the same reasons as we were together pretty amicably. We still chat on IM, were still friendly, she is doing very well for herself now, and I couldnt be happier for her. It was for the best.

    So I cant pretend to know your situation, can only relay mine, and that's how it was for us.
     
  4. bachbeet

    bachbeet Senior member

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    Try some Tantra techniques/seminars.
     
  5. Mentos

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    Oh, yeah, and a lovely south american girl I ran with once told me that men shouldn't marry before 30. There's a lot of truth to that. Our personalities change a lot between 20 ad 30, and our wants at 30 are not the same as our wants at 20. It's totally possible that you've grown apart. It happens all the time as we grow into "real" adults.
     
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    When my chick loses interest, we log in to everquest. She plays a female dark-elf enchantress and I play a sexy wood-elf ranger. Ideologically we're at odds, but these are the best-looking models in the game. We cyber in private tells until neither one of us can stand it anymore. For my part, I always wanted to have sex with a dark-elf, they're so damned sexy & evil. Their blue skin, silver hair and petite features are such a turn-on.

    PS. This post was obviously in jest. I searched the internet for an old photo of a dark-elf fuck doll that an EQer had made but alas, I could not find it. I saw pics of it years ago when I was gaming and it was life-sized and extremely well done.


    Good god man you just had me doubled over in laughter [​IMG]
     
  7. globetrotter

    globetrotter Senior member

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    OK Ill rerail this

    I was with a girl for about 4 years, lived together for the vast majority of that, was about your age at the time too, and we had similar issues toward the end.

    In our case it was basically a symptom of a situation where we had been together a long time, and had basically decided we didnt want to be together forever. I was the one who initiated that chat, and it hurt her a lot. But I think we were both feeling it.

    There was nothing actually wrong with the relationship, we were getting along fine, never fought, always pleasant, had active social lives and friends and all that kinda stuff, but we were just at this stage where it was like "what do you do when you have lived with someone this long, and dont want to make it permanent?" Do you just cruise along indefinitely cos its easier or do you hug each other and say "thanks for the ride"?

    In our case, we probably stayed together 4 or 5 months past our use by date, but eventually had the tough talk and wrapped it up. She was the one who initiated that chat, and it hurt me a lot. But I think we were both feeling it.

    We split up pretty amicably for all the same reasons as we were together pretty amicably. We still chat on IM, were still friendly, she is doing very well for herself now, and I couldnt be happier for her. It was for the best.

    So I cant pretend to know your situation, can only relay mine, and that's how it was for us.


    agree with what Matt says.

    sorry dude - you have the rest of your life to not be having sex, if you aren't getting it more than twice a month at 25, in a relationship, you will be sorry. when you are my age, and that is the norm, you need to have memories of what it was like when you were young.
     
  8. GQgeek

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    Dear lord... the more time I spend on the internet, the more time I wonder if I'm the only person left who doesn't play Everquest or World of Warcraft, etc. That cracked me up though...

    I was at one time addicted to Civilization II and III... but there's nothing in those games to get me or her turned on [​IMG]


    My advice is don't start. MMORPGs are like socially acceptable crack. I started playing with some friends from school and got hooked. I subsequently wasted 3 years playing them. It took me forever to quit. The only consolation was that I was really good and made quite a lot of money (for my age) doing it, but aside from the first year, I wish i could have that time back. Some of the characters are seriously sexy though, especially in EQ. What's funny is that there are probably more guys playing female characters than women ;p
     
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    agree with what Matt says.

    sorry dude - you have the rest of your life to not be having sex, if you aren't getting it more than twice a month at 25, in a relationship, you will be sorry. when you are my age, and that is the norm, you need to have memories of what it was like when you were young.



    wow that is depressing.
     
  10. edmorel

    edmorel Quality Seller!! Dubiously Honored

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    When my chick loses interest, we log in to everquest. She plays a female dark-elf enchantress and I play a sexy wood-elf ranger. Ideologically we're at odds, but these are the best-looking models in the game. We cyber in private tells until neither one of us can stand it anymore. For my part, I always wanted to have sex with a dark-elf, they're so damned sexy & evil. Their blue skin, silver hair and petite features are such a turn-on.


    God I wish this was a legitimate post.


    To the OP, I hate to sound like an uncaring jerk, but if at 25 you are having problems getting sexually aroused with your woman, something is wrong with you or her or you just don't have any feelings for her (jeez, and even still you should be getting the urges more than twice a month). Check yourself pronto, because this is one of those things that will not get better with age.
     
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    MMORPGs are [...] socially acceptable [...].

    Are you sure? Because seriously, people with t-shirt with a print of wolf on it were the only one getting bashed as hard as the MMORPGs player in my highschool.

    Incidentally, they were exactly the same guys.
     
  12. thelion1856

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    dude i dont mean to upset you but she is obviously cheating on you.

    1st off you got separate 9 to 5's.

    2nd she is not having much sex with you or asking you why there isnt much sex going on between you & her.

    3rd "she just shruggs it off" if she felt for you she would have a better answer for you.

    4th you have separte hobbies.

    Based on what you said it sounds like she is sleeping with a co worker. If you think it is uncommon it aint. I work at a hospital and know of about half the married females there cheat on their husbands. I personally know of 7 married nurses, doctors who cheat on their husband. They all have a similar story to yours.
     
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    I would think that there's a lot of underlying resentment on her part stemming from your suggestions that she get in shape- what were you thinking[​IMG] ? I don't know, but this is definitely not normal for 25 y.o.'s. Her shrugging off the subject isn't a good sign either, it's something you should talk about.
     
  14. GQgeek

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    Are you sure? Because seriously, people with t-shirt with a print of wolf on it were the only one getting bashed as hard as the MMORPGs player in my highschool.

    Incidentally, they were exactly the same guys.


    They were probably getting bashed for other reasons. There's very little stigma attached to video games these days. Even when I was in to nerdy things (still am), I wasn't really a nerd of the type that got made-fun of because I always had social skills, as did the guys I played with in the dorms.
     
  15. Get Smart

    Get Smart Don't Crink

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    I'm just hearing on talk radio that the statistic for guys in their 20s who are in your (the OP) position is 29% so yer not alone. these are guys that dont think about having sex (and dont) despite having a regular significant other
     

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