I should be writing into Dan Savage with this question, but it's a little tame given his usual material Here's the deal. My girlfriend and I have been together for quite a few years. We're a young couple living together. We are both usually busy with our jobs (standard 9-5, not lawyers hours or anything), and our seperate past times and hobbies when we get home from work, or on weekends. We still spend a lot of time together though. Other than what will follow, there isn't anything really wrong in the relationship... the problem lately is that "getting some" has been a challenge. It's not just a case of demand exceeding supply... it's that I'm not desiring it as much as well. It's at the point where once or twice a month is the norm now. At 25, I'm not the hormone machine I was when I was 20. She's roughly the same age... could it be that this is due to us both not being at sexual peaks? When I bring up this question to her, she usually just shrugs it off without giving me an answer. Not that I have an answer as well for my recent lack of interest. For those of you with more age and experience... is this a problem that should be resolved, or is this just normal, and comes with couples getting more familiar (bored?) with each other? I have a feeling this is a more long term problem than something that can be resolved with a wine 'n' dine evening out and roses.