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The 27 Year Old Virgin

Discussion in 'Social Life, Food & Drink, Travel' started by amathew, May 13, 2012.

  1. bmathe02

    bmathe02 Well-Known Member

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    amathew- as in your last name is mathew spelled with one T. I am positive you are a Christian malayalee and I want to tell you things will be better for sure if you just move to New York. There is an Indian presence here so you won't come off as a terrorist by every person who meets you. Some sure but not all. Also don't give Indian women one thought as most are stuck up princesses or at least they truly believe they are. Since you are no doctor and you are not fit and have a darker skin shade you are at a disadvantage with Indian women and their parents and parents play huge role among them. malayalees thou are a safe bet to become friends with since you will share much in common, parents will like you....... but if you want your penis to get atenttion you must look else where because most are just prudish from their upbringing and won't do anything till they are married. Practice talking to them thou and just be friends. Go to church and meet new people. Interact. There are numerous christian Indian orthodox churches scattered across ny. Get over your awkwardness. Now this is where living in New York comes to play, befriend girls from any other ethnicity and there is every ethnicity in New York melting pot and all, and just screw, have fun, date, what ever. liquor does wonder too.
     


  2. amathew

    amathew Senior member

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    Thanks for the response.

    I've spent most of my life in three states, Kansas, Colorado, and Iowa, so I really haven't interacted with many Indian people, and really don't have a desire to interact with Indians. By virtue of growing up in the suburbs with white neighbors and white classmates, I've largely become more Americanized than the typical Indian in cities where there are large Indian populations (NYC, Houston, San Francisco, etc). When one doesn't have to interact with indians on a regularly basis, you just assimilate much quicker into the broader social setting, and I've done this to a large extent. Plus, there's the issue that I just don't know how to interact with other indians as I've never had to, especially those who're more traditional (which is most of them).

    I wouldn't say I'm not fit, as I did spend years powerlifting, and continue to lift and stay active. I still could lose a few pounds, but am definitely fit by American standards.


    Yeah, I've started drinking again. Good times. Maker's Mark + Ginger Ale is pure win!!!
     
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  3. bmathe02

    bmathe02 Well-Known Member

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    I apologize after reading what I wrote it does seem I am forcing Indians on you but that was not what I intended. I just ment to use them to slowly get a costumed to talking to the opposite sex which does require a different approach then talking to the guys. All i ment by living in a larger city is you will be more accepted. Ive driven cross country a few times and noticed my game only works in larger cities and i often felt wierd when there was a non favorable mix of people. For what it's worth my only experience with women have been with everything but Indian women and I find it easier so.
     


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    http://www.puatraining.com/blog/friends-with-benefits-advice

    no one seems to have taken the "get some training advice" to heart, but I'm serious. If you were a shitty salesman you'd read some books and do some study, right?

    There is little difference, and you can replace insecurity and lack of confidence with some training.

    I don't endorse any of these sites, but I do endorse the concept.

    learn som "game", brother...

    if you can learn what a correct sleeve length looks like, you can do this, too..
     


  5. KingJulien

    KingJulien Senior member

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    Except interacting with real women with emotions and personalities isn't the same as selling used Toyotas...
     


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  7. de Seingalt

    de Seingalt Member

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    clearly you've never had the pleasure of selling shitty toyotas for a living...:foo:
     


  8. de Seingalt

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    and yes, of course...the point isn't that our carnally challenged friend needs a new internet hobby, the point is, though it may seem remedial, he can go out in the "field" with low stakes and with the support of a bunch of other dorks, excuse me, neophytes, and get some practice and material to work with. So that when there is an actual human woman in the vicinity, he can feel comfortable taking said action.

    Otherwise it's pretty much just dungeons and dragons.
     


  9. bringusingoodale

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    My post is still best advice on this thread.

    I will add at this point that OP is clearly afraid of rejection.

    He sounds intelligent, has gainful employment and presumably can afford to splurge on a girl.
     


  10. Matt

    Matt [email protected]

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    OK, I am not really around SF much these days, so I will hang it out there for those of you who remember my younger years....

    Should I weigh in and help the kid out?

    Fuck, I even got Kyle laid by SMSing him from the other side of the world Bergerac style. More than once. "OK dude, tell her she's kinda cute for an interesting chick".

    I top-to-bottomed this thread today...and I would probably offer something if not for the fact that one post in this thread stood out to me above all others:


    I think there's a lot of truth in that, and if it's right, there's nothing anyone can do to help.

    I am now off to dinner with one of my best friends..who coincidentally happens to be an Indian American, now married to a lovely girl who is way too pretty for him...and he still credits me with getting him over the line with her when she was making him run all over town chasing it. True story.
     


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    one of my best friends is Indian American too, guy has been swimming in the tang since before time it seems like, because he doesn't try. He's tall, medium build, I'd say maybe average looking amongst Indian males, but white girls love it. He keeps his hair really short and dresses very cleanly, I wouldn't say he's finicky about his appearance (considering we're on styleforum) but he spends a lot of time on hygiene and stuff, and is into colognes and scents.
     


  12. amathew

    amathew Senior member

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    I'm short (5"4) so that is somewhat huge limitation.

    By "keeps his hair really short" do you mean buzz cut? I've been messing around with growing out my hair, and really want to part my hair, but indians men often have
    very thick hair it just ends up looking big and poofy. Maybe I'll just go with a buzz.
     


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  14. Krish the Fish

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    Dude, seriously you're over thinking something man.
     


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