The 27 Year Old Virgin

Discussion in 'Social Life, Food & Drink, Travel' started by amathew, May 13, 2012.

  1. scarphe

    scarphe Senior member

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    this or start the dating or trying to date, but in the mean while get a hooker, this is going to sound douche but something is weird about a virgin at that age, that is probably why you are giving off the creeper vibe.
     


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    I know our society tends to glorify sex and crucify anyone who chooses to abstain from or has not yet had it, but you can't let that bother you. Saying you want to meet a women because your lonely is one thing. Just wanting to get laid is another. If you don't just want sex why include the fact that your a virgin in the thread title. Why does that mean anything? Who gives a damn if your a virgin? Do you think losing your virginity will quench your thirst for companionship? It won't..... I'm a virgin as well and am choosing to remain one until I tie the knot. I'm sure that will get alot of laughs, but I could care less. Don't worry about social norms or expectations. Live free from all that. It makes life so much more enjoyable.

    On another note I can relate to you a lot. Especially with the confidence and "looking angry" bit. I was very overweight when I was young, and like you, ended up getting in shape. My confidence did not follow suit however and I became incredibly uneasy around anyone. I was a complete hermit during my high school years. Too be honest I still struggle with it at times, but not nearly as bad as I used too. The only way to get over it is to force yourself into uncomfortable situations. Act like an idiot, do stupid shit, loosen up... I forced myself to take a drama class at school, fell in love with it, and now I am pursuing an acting career. That did it for me. Changed my life.

    The looking angry bit is tough. I would always have people give me shit over looking like I wanted to kill myself or someone else 24/7. I still hear it quite a bit lol. I always thought it was my personality, in which case that's fine. I came to realize though it was just a defense mechanism I had created. It kept people away from me and made me feel safe (not having to talk to anyone). Once I got over my social fears and confidence issues, that seemed to resolve itself.

    Just some thoughts. Hopefully some of it helps.
     
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  3. Trompe le Monde

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  4. amathew

    amathew Senior member

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    I guess I should clarify and/or respond to some of the posts
    It's odd, but I've found being Indian not that big of a hindrance. Because most American think of Indians as either nerdy doctors or convenience store owners, anyone who doesn't fit that stereotype seems to be intriguing to women. Plus, I'm in an area with few indians, so some women might be interested when they see someone who isn't a non-stereotypical indian.

    Tell me about it. I graduated college and moved to another city (denver). It's tough. It doesn't help that I work at a tech company with almost all nerdy guys.



    I've tried online dating and found that most of the women on the free dating sites like POF and OKC were crazy. I didn't get many responses when I messaged women, but the ones I talked to weren't all that great. I've heard that paid sites are better, but I really don't want to pay for online dating.
     


  5. scarphe

    scarphe Senior member

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    are you not just changing one social norm for another one be it slightly an archaic one.
    and even when that was the supposed ideal social norm, it was not the practical social norm.
     
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  6. texas_jack

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    Join Meetup.com and go to events. Don't go to meet chicks, go to meet people and learn how to socialize with the opposite sex. Many women even if they don't find you attractive if they are around you enough will come to see your best parts and that is the most natural way to meet women. There are lots of fun things to do in those groups like: kickball, going to shows, cookouts, you name it. But you have to put effort into it. As you've found in your career choice you aren't going to be around enough women to "just let it happen", you're going to have to work at it.
     


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    I second focusing on widening your social network. You will meet more people and by extension more women. Make friends and learn how to talk to them without any attempts to ask them out. You widen your social network (maybe make some female friends) and you will have more opportunities to meet women.
     


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    buy a huge sack of coke and put yourself in a party situation. Since you're in Denver and the Nuggets season is over you're home free. Attractive women will flock to you and you will use this as if you were bartering for the last resources on earth.
     


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    or just try men.....
     


  11. de Seingalt

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    without putting too fine a point on it, you won't meet a ton of hot chicks on styleforum...:)
     


  12. Neo_Version 7

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    Three words: Lower. Your. Standards.
     


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    Apparently you haven't seen Brad-T :inlove:
     
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  14. Trompe le Monde

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    pretty sure-fire recipe, maybe the surest of all in the thread.
     


  15. scarphe

    scarphe Senior member

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    still a 3 way with 2 hookers would be cheaper
     


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