Discussion in 'Social Life, Food & Drink, Travel' started by amathew, May 13, 2012.
OP, everyone's trying to help you except yourself.
You have to realize that EVERYTHING in life that's worth anything takes effort. And as a guy, you HAVE to put in the time and effort to get what you want.
You notice why the guy who flirts a lot gets girls? It's all effort. He flirts with everyone so he'll get the right one eventually. There's no way around skipping practice.
It sucks getting rejected but you can find enjoyment out of it. Sharing with buddies about how bad you got turned down is a great comedic session. It's just a fun experience meeting people of all sorts, even the rude ones are entertaining (actually more entertaining).
Bad experiences make GREAT stories. Find some humor in life.
Listen to Fraiche, he knows about bad experiences with women.
Those are largely for people who are planning on getting arranged marriages.
Personally, I REFUSE to ever get an arranged marriage. I think it's a rather primitive way of meeting one's life partner.
just to state the obvious you seem to be refusing the only secure way to get laid. since you do not want to use any other option
Our OP friend is too afraid of personal interaction with the opposite sex and possibly failing at it. Nothing new here, describes half of SF.
Yes, I am terrified of being rejected. It's never a good feeling.
Bro, send me a PM I can help you out. I used to go through the same shit.
No, but there are far worse feelings in life. Like dying of old age while still a virgin.
Getting rejected is like getting muscle soreness from working out at the gym.
If you want to date women, first act like a fucking man.
Looking at every woman you introduce yourself to as a potential life partner instead of a sex partner is going to make things infinitely more difficult for you at this point. It's also going to make rejection sting a lot more.
It's best for you to think of this whole pursuit as a way to have fun.
Why not fatties? I've had a few in my time... . But hey...
Why not try e harmony? I'm sure the success rate is higher on that site, yeah you would have to pay for it, but....
Once you start to have more experience with women you'll gain a better understanding of them. It took me a few long years of not being able to pick up chicks to finally get the hang of it.. Sales consultants and waitresses especially seem to be easy starts.. They are at a point in their lives where they don't have a career yet, etc. Sometimes you will get rejected just because of the timing.. You can make all the right moves and still get rejected.. If you do get turned down, it doesn't mean that she's not interested! This is the number one thing that most guys don't understand.. Don't let being rejected discourage you—it's all part of the game.
Thread title should be edited to "The 26 Year Old Virgins" as the more I read this thread, the more it looks like OP isn't alone in his predicament.
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